xynerise: I will grant her independence for one week. She needs to see life in another perspective.

5minsmadness: I'm assuming its an African/Nigerian setting. Is she the only girl? What's her genotype, is she SS i.e a sickler?

unto koboko tins ey?

Dygeasy: I'll be citing real life examples to which I am a first-hand witness to.

Let's look at this. Just one family is being put into focus here...


A nuclear middle-class family have a daughter in a federal University. She was brought up the 'normal' way given she has elder ones who are graduates so I believe her parents couldn't have gone entirely wrong with her. The thing out this girl is she exploits her parents;

1. She issues out threats.

2. She absolutely doesn't care out how her actions might make them feel.


Picture these...

1. She once told her parents if they wanted her to be coming home from school during academic breaks or holidays, they needed to install a satellite dish in their home and her parents would always provide fuel money. Failure to do that means she'll remain wherever she wants and not come home.

Her dad did her wish.

2. She also once told her parents, "If you want to visit me in school, don't visit me in that Mercedes Benz 190 otherwise I won't attend to you."

It happened that one day her parents wanted to visit her and take foodstuff along with them for her. On reaching her hostel, they called her to no avail. She probably had hidden somewhere to see what kind of car they came in. She refused to see her parents that day and they had to travel back home that same day.

Maybe her parents overindulged her. How would you deal with such kid?

Tallesty1:
Or maybe one month, anyways the parents share part of the blame.

Idowuogbo:
Walahi! Na dat kian child persin go board okada go deliver hin provision. Dem born am well make she no pick phone? na area boys I go use pursue am come house. Mo jeri badosky! Awa o si fo shi

Idowuogbo: Say Wat? She'll learn the hard way. Na to lock that child inside cellar till I find a solution to her madness. Nonsense! Na me born am or na she born me? If fasting and prayer go solve am, I full ground. Oshiko

RAPMAN02: Age?

papindinho: Perhaps I don't get what Dygeasy meant by 'being brought-up the normal way'. That kind of child is really a case. The parents should have cleared air with her from day 1. She doesn't dictate what they do, what they buy or whatever.

If I were her dad. I would leave her for a couple of weeks. No calls, nothing. Yea, forsake her for some time and see if she changes or not.

Dygeasy: By normal way I mean the way Nigerian parents bring up kids.

Her parents surely have overindulged her excesses.

I argued it with a friend earlier today stating exactly what y'all are saying here as my would be line of action but he opined the parents are probably scared she might end up hurt or worse if they don't 'worship' her.

LogoDWhiz: @dygeasy. Well, I don't think I'll have that kind of situation with any of my children .

My advice for such is, firstly, let the parents sit the girl down. Talk sense into her.. U can't be shy of your parents, respect them for what they have and who they are. The mom has a lot of work to do in this regard, let her build more bond with the girl, get the girl to open up to her the reason for the madness, maybe she is being intimidated...

And if she still acts silly, they should ignore her actions, better still send her to a relative...

papindinho: that's if she gives them the audience.

LogoDWhiz:

Hmm. That's true..

But I don't see any better choice.. She's already 'rotten'.

papindinho: yea... Divine intervention can make her act normal....