angiemartinez: ok it started on sunday which was supposed to be our 1yr anniversary, he planned going out on a date to unwind and all of that. so he was told to come to work dat day. i called about 4.00pm and he said he just left site and was in d office already which means dey were alredy tru.

he told me he will join me shortly, waited till 5.00pm i called him and he busyd my call. called again at 5.30pm he busyd my call agn. he does dis wen he is in a place he cant explain to me, so i was already angry cos i knew probably he was drinking which has always being an issue. i just hate d smell of alcohol

he came back by 6.10pm and true to my assumption, that awkward smell of alcohol. he tried to apologise i was so angry and told him i wasnt going anywere again.

he too became angry dressed up and left d house at about 7.30pm, and came back at about 10.03pm with more smell of alcohol.

woke up on monday morning, called for devotion he did not come, greeted him with no reply, told him dere was no food he did not answer and he left for work. he came back i greeted him, he did no respond.

woke up on tuesday, called for devotion he did not come out, greeted him he did not respond, i told him dere was no food, he droped money on d bed and left. he came back, i greeted him, he did not respond, i was relly pissed now, so i served his food and went to my room to sleep.

woke up on wedsday morning, i was too angry to pray, i did not boda greetn him, and i left for work. waited for him to till 11.00pm he did not come, so i called, only for him to tell me travelled to site. with d anger i insulted him badly. it was really bad i no, dont no wen his going to come back. buh seriously am pissed.

overlook any error, i just dey vex seriously

kingingkinging:

Madam. The two parties share the blame but this is not a forum for judgement verdicts to be declared. The primary purose of this is for restoration of peace and tranquility to be achieved in your home. Please take the following steps:

1. Call him again and if he doesn't pick, send sms showing your remorse and penitence;

2. Let him realize you are at peace with him. Note that every sane and rational man can fall for the gimmicks of his wife provided it is well executed by her.

3. When he comes back apologize but let him also know the root of your anger (to make him avoid it next time)

If all these fail, let a respected person know about the development, there is no wrong in involving a 'godly person' . This is dangerous though and should be the last resort.

4. Ultimately, taking is drinking habit to God in prayers.

NB. Why did you hide the line

angiemartinez: what line please?

angiemartinez: I really wana tenk u all for ur wondeful advice, we eventually talked ova d issue and we both realised we been really lonely without each oda. He almost cried wen he said u r not treatn me well, and I told him hw sincerly sorry I am for my harsh words. U no wat follows next na! Lol, abi u wan hear?

Ok, he is snoring already. Me I wan slp too, gd nyt friends

kingingkinging:

Congrats.

A lot can be settled if tabled on the altar of discussion.

Our major problem is ego.

Pls pay for consultancy. lol

alutacontinua: And this begs the good old question-

Did you just get to know about his drinking habits after marriage?
or yoy just started to hate the smell of alcohol?