Bad Boy that started smooth, cool, mysterious, and loving… but ended up emotionally unavailable, unattainable… even stretching into emotionally abusive.
I used to be a nice guy – way back when. Like most men, I learned rather quickly that being that nice guy wasn’t the best of decisions.

If you are a guy reading this, you have probably noticed that, instead of opting for a nice and calm partner who would treat her right (you), the girl usually chooses a ‘bad boy’. If you are a girl, then you probably are wondering why you are attracted to and end up with a man who treats you badly. We’ve tried to come up with sensible reasons why this happens, but you are very welcome to add some new insights on the matter in the comments!

1. Not real. Nice guys  are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.”  Nice guys  don’t want to upset the apple cart.

2. Respect. No one respects a doormat.  Nice guys  don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A  bad boy  doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable.  Bad boys  are always a challenge.  Nice guys  are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge.

4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with  bad boys . They think their love will save them.  Nice guys  rarely need to be saved.

5. Fixing. Nice guys  don’t usually need to be fixed.  Bad boys  usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
6. Genetic wars. Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes.  Bad boys  are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving.  Nice guys  are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a  bad boy , since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A  nice guy  will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

8. Low self-esteem:  We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the  bad boy  is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A  nice guy  is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.



9. s*x.  Women feel a  nice guy  won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a  nice guy  won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A  bad boy  comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Hot.  Have you ever seen a  bad boy  who wasn’t hot? They probably wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a  nice guy , she means, “He’s not hot.”

11. Charm. Nice guys  don’t always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words.  Bad boys  can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. Protection.  Historically, men have protected women — physically and otherwise.  Bad boys  give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with  nice guys , women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the  bad boy  or the  nice guy  category. The  ideal man  is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the  bad boy , until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

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vizkiz: Abeg who get "blue film" for phone...i am feeling bored

^^ ^ Wu ar this pupus ?

My daughter always tells her boyfriend she's dripping wet, should i get her another towel??

Only mugu's fall in love

O boy you belong in my clique but

#Do not betray the family by falling in love

neutralwaya: Only mugu's fall in love

O boy you belong in my clique but

#Do not betray the family by falling in love

co-rrect

At the end of it girls will end up chasing and marry nice guys after dating different type of bad guys.

If you view this topic you no post.... Thunder go burst your eye

Hmmm

tintingz: At the end of it girls will end up chasing and marry nice guys after dating different type of bad guys.

taaaa

Nice guys vs bad guys! Interesting

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vizkiz: Abeg who get "blue film" for phone...i am feeling bored

Babes like that thing die.

Leave your phone mistakingly...

Just saying.

tobiboss: My daughter always tells her boyfriend she's dripping wet, should i get her another towel??

She hasn't told you nah.

Let her bf buy the new towel instead...

FrancisTony: Abeg where Nairaland toilet section I wan poo.

FrancisTony: Abeg where Nairaland toilet section I wan poo.

chai...some guyz are nuts here.

It's a pity that the OP is correct. Ladies love the risk that comes with dating "bad" boys while nice guys are natural candidates for the dreaded "Friend Zone."

I still don't know why ladies enjoy deception. They need to wake up and smell the coffee!