DukeNija:

I wonder why and how a Woman will date and decide to marry a man with so many women in his life, even to the extent of taking an HIV test. Na waa O

SMH

nubian22: i need advice from married people in the house, i and my guy are planning our traditional wedding next month but before i agreed to marry him, he made a promise that no lady will enter his apartment again that is from the day i agreed to marry him

nubian22: i need advice from married people in the house, i and my guy are planning our traditional wedding next month but before i agreed to marry him, he made a promise that no lady will enter his apartment again that is from the day i agreed to marry him and our preparation is in progress.

i was with him yesterday being Sunday in the house when the first lady called and i heard through the phone when she asked him to come and follow her to her sister's place at Lekki, he told her that he can't go with her and ended the call without letting the lady say any thing more maybe because i was around.

when i asked him, he said that the lady is his customer, that he was just being nice to the lady and she misunderstood his being nice, well i allowed that one to pass. the next person that called was his ex - girlfriend and this girl is the person that he said left him for another guy but since we started preparing from our wedding she has been calling and sending different kind of text to him,

she said that she wanted to come and visit him and he told her not to come but she still came with one of her friend. we were inside the house when they came and he went to met them outside and they were like he should invite them inside and give them something to eat and so he invited them in

and i had to leave the house from the back door and went to one of the neighbor's flat, there was no fuel in the house, he had to send somebody to get fuel for him because there was no light, he was trying to make them very comfortable knowing that i was not happy with their coming. now everybody including him is saying that i should have stood my ground because am the woman of the house that i shouldn't have left the house because i was in the other flat until they left, the lady i went to her house saw that i was not happy and when she asked me what it was i have already started crying,

i was so heart broken and she was like all men are the same, she was telling me about her own husband who bought a lady to the compound inside one other guy's flat and one pastor that lives in the compound that slept with the wife's sister.
so when the girls left, he went to see them off and when he came back he was begging me but i was very angry and since yesterday that i left the house i have not spoken to him and he has not call because my phones are off. right now i don't know what to do because am like would he had done the same thing if he has already married me. pls i need advice from experienced people before talking to him, i don't want to talk to my family and friends about it, pls i need help before i make mistake of a life time.

nubian22: i need advice from married people in the house, i and my guy are planning our traditional wedding next month but before i agreed to marry him, he made a promise that no lady will enter his apartment again that is from the day i agreed to marry him and our preparation is in progress. i was with him yesterday being Sunday in the house when the first lady called and i heard through the phone when she asked him to come and follow her to her sister's place at Lekki, he told her that he can't go with her and ended the call without letting the lady say any thing more maybe because i was around.
when i asked him, he said that the lady is his customer, that he was just being nice to the lady and she misunderstood his being nice, well i allowed that one to pass. the next person that called was his ex - girlfriend and this girl is the person that he said left him for another guy but since we started preparing from our wedding she has been calling and sending different kind of text to him,she said that she wanted to come and visit him and he told her not to come but she still came with one of her friend. we were inside the house when they came and he went to met them outside and they were like he should invite them inside and give them something to eat and so he invited them in and i had to leave the house from the back door and went to one of the neighbor's flat, there was no fuel in the house, he had to send somebody to get fuel for him because there was no light, he was trying to make them very comfortable knowing that i was not happy with their coming. now everybody including him is saying that i should have stood my ground because am the woman of the house that i shouldn't have left the house because i was in the other flat until they left, the lady i went to her house saw that i was not happy and when she asked me what it was i have already started crying, i was so heart broken and she was like all men are the same, she was telling me about her own husband who bought a lady to the compound inside one other guy's flat and one pastor that lives in the compound that slept with the wife's sister.
so when the girls left, he went to see them off and when he came back he was begging me but i was very angry and since yesterday that i left the house i have not spoken to him and he has not call because my phones are off. right now i don't know what to do because am like would he had done the same thing if he has already married me. pls i need advice from experienced people before talking to him, i don't want to talk to my family and friends about it, pls i need help before i make mistake of a life time.

spiralwedge:

if u love yourself, don't marry that isi-ewu. please I'm on my knees, don't!

(no offence meant OP, T'was my first reaction to this post

bellong:

What is the meaning of the bolded? That he will no longer allow any female friend to visit him or will not have sex-ual female partner?

I wouldn't understand why any man will make such a ridiculous promise. His being married shouldn't stop him from having friends among the opposite sex except he is known to be promiscuous. If he can't be trusted to make good decision and comport his vessel, then I don't think you need to waste your time hoping and believing he will change.

kreamidiva:


The bolded in that post meant "away match" with any other female.

What's up you? Been searching for you all over.

Gaggi: Like d females would ask, so he shouldn't have female friends because he is getting married? The only problem here is you. You went to hide because an ex came to the house. Why d inferiority complex? Are u that timid or ugly? That was an opportunity to show u are d madam of the house. Welcome them, offer them refreshments and sit by ur man's side while cuddling him. They would have been uncomfortable and taken an early leave.
Instead u went to hide like a coward and then ran online to whine. I doubt if u are emotionally mature for marriage. Better grow up.

blank: @ OP, My opinion is that you should have stayed back and hosted his visitors. That is what the lady of the house does. No one said you should fight anyone. It might have been his game plan so that the ex will see you there and start understanding that he is off the market. Some guys don't know how to be blunt and you should have helped him. A woman stands by her husband through whatever.

That being said, you need to sit down and have a hard discussion with your beau. It is not enough to set the rules, they have to be followed or there will be consequences. Talk to him about his lack of respect and ask him to make up his mind if it is you he really wants. I hope you have a strong base cos i can see that you are going to need it to remain married to this kind of person.