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Neglected After Pregnancy But He Claimed To Love Me. (2) (3) (4)
. by pelvicky(m): 1:12pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 1:20pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
This one is strong... |
Re: . by drajjay: 1:20pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
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Re: . by MizMyColi(f): 1:30pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Pelvicky, I think it has more to do with you than them. I admit that it hurts a lot seeing as I've been there a couple of times in the past. However, I've been able to get past the feeling of neglect by: 1. Understanding that my identity and definition doesn't come from anyone's approval of me or not. They come from my creator who is always approving of me even when I'm in my lowest and shambolic moments. 2. Not taking it personal: sometimes, its not like people don't care, its just that they have worries of their own and as such do not have the desire to reach out to anyone, including me. So whenever I reach out and the gesture is not returned, I Move ON....trust me, those who value you will come looking for you. Even if they don't eventually, Don't allow that diminish your sense of self-worth and value because you are worthy and valuable, even if everything and everyone around you screams otherwise. 3. Getting to recognize and do those things that make me feel happy and relaxed. In my case, I binge on TvShows, internet, movies. The best activity I engage in when I feel that way is saying a short prayer. Everything just falls into perspective and those feelings dissipate. 4. Lastly, I've learnt to admit to myself whenever I feel neglected that I actually feel that way......that in itself makes me stronger____afterall, a problem shared is half-solved. That said, these days, I barely feel that way.....not because it doesn't come but because I've learnt to focus my attention on other things, no matter how hurt I feel. Now, there's been a whole world of difference for me. Except in rare cases, I will not have time for anyone who doesn't have time for me. #NuhBePride 2 Likes |
Re: . by Tallesty1(m): 1:32pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Have you analyzed yourself? Are you going on the right way? It would be different if you are talking about one friend. For all your friends to start neglecting you is odd so I would suggest you analyze yourself properly, may be due to your attitude they are behaving like that, may be you are not behaving properly or your habits might be hurting them so they start avoiding you. The thing you have to do is just try to find the reason behind all that. Just go to your friends and ask them have you done any thing wrong 1 Like |
Re: . by shortgun(m): 1:46pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Stop beating around d Bush, just tell us the full story When did he start to ignore u? Do u have feelings for him? Play us d full gist joor. |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 1:47pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
KiddaBlingzz: This one is strong...ur advice joor |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 1:48pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
shortgun: Stop beating around d Bush, just tell us the full storydats all 4 nw..ur advice 4 nw |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 1:49pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Tallesty1: !!!wat apen,,is dis ur advice |
Re: . by Nobody: 1:50pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
pelvicky: ur advice joorthey form for you...... Form for them. Make your own pass them own. |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 1:51pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Brb Dear.tanx dear,,when u are bk..i want ur advice |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 1:52pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
KiddaBlingzz: This one is strong...dats y i want ur advice |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 1:54pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
KiddaBlingzz: they form for you...... Form for them. Make your own pass them own.hmmmm..rily |
Re: . by corisande: 1:59pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
see oh! I neglect whoever neglects me I don't care phone na my own if I chat you up and you ignore, I count am for you and I go do u back. if e too much for me I delete you from my contacts,I no send oh I choputas not |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 2:04pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Tallesty1: Have you analyzed yourself? Are you going on the right way? It would be different if you are talking about one friend. For all your friends to start neglecting you is odd so I would suggest you analyze yourself properly, may be due to your attitude they are behaving like that, may be you are not behaving properly or your habits might be hurting them so they start avoiding you. The thing you have to do is just try to find the reason behind all that. Just go to your friends and ask them have you done any thing wrongtanx man |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 2:06pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
corisande: see oh!u r rily funny...anyway tanx |
Re: . by Tallesty1(m): 2:07pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
pelvicky: tanx manWelcome |
Re: . by Nobody: 2:11pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
pelvicky: hmmmm..rilyyea. Dont beg people to be your friends. |
Re: . by tobiboss(m): 2:19pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Tallesty1: Have you analyzed yourself? Are you going on the right way? It would be different if you are talking about one friend. For all your friends to start neglecting you is odd so I would suggest you analyze yourself properly, may be due to your attitude they are behaving like that, may be you are not behaving properly or your habits might be hurting them so they start avoiding you. The thing you have to do is just try to find the reason behind all that. Just go to your friends and ask them have you done any thing wrongguy you don close the thread, gr8 advice |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 3:55pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
KiddaBlingzz: yea. Dont beg people to be your friends.tanx |
Re: . by pelvicky(m): 4:00pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
MizMyColi:tanx and God bless in millions 1 Like |
Re: . by Yemlizzy(f): 6:11pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
You aint saying much though. Are you introverted in nature? Is there any history of bad misconduct,quarrel or misgivings amongst you both? It goes beyond what you are revealing,something seems amiss. Whats it? 1 Like |
Re: . by Hexzyz(m): 6:23pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Normal, especially when there is a change in social stratification, people tend to move. |
Re: . by xtervaganza(m): 6:50pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
I was taking this post serious until I saw u 2go Kids things |
Re: . by chidekings(m): 7:36pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
dear stop dying in self pity.........if my frnd refuse to talk to me,likwise i refuse to talk to him and moreover dont term everyone ur frnd....move with people that u and them have something in common |
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