Ray1251:
Please can anyone help with an articulate on how to overcome shyness, also I am so happy I believe the introvert part of me no longer affect me that much.

Quintee:
I think I'm too considerate of others (most especially in relationships) and most times, people take it for granted. I consider it necessary to put an end to it now but how can I achieve this? I feel this attribute is not ideal in today's world because only few people possess virtues.

corisande:
present! !
People think I'm a snub and not approachable
I don't keep/have friends
*boring*

corisande:
I stay in owerri

charley94:
please guys I need your advice, any suggestions on how to overcome shyness towards approaching ladies. Am 23 done with school and currently working but I have never had a girlfriend.As much as I tell myself that having one is not my priority now. It's just doesn't feel right that i have never been able to ask any lady out

charley94:
please guys I need your advice, any suggestions on how to overcome shyness towards approaching ladies. Am 23 done with school and currently working but I have never had a girlfriend.As much as I tell myself that having one is not my priority now. It's just doesn't feel right that i have never been able to ask any lady out

Arsenate:
because i keep to my self a lot, people misconstrue that as arrogance, rudeness or snubbish. it used to bother me alot. now I don't seem to care.

Windflower:

In my opinion, I believe there is no other way to overcome shyness other than increasing your self esteem. I used to be shy especially when walking and people keeps staring,another factor was that I wasn't tall,thinking that people would always look down on me because of this. Well,this was true but then I can't allow my height define my life,so I had to snap out of the low self esteem mentality. Now,when I walk,I do it with pride,I gave myself a high dosage of self esteem, what people think about me isn't my problem,my concern is how I see myself. Nobody can take away your shyness,you have got to fight it yourself,dare yourself to ask a lady out on a date,the worst she can do is to reject the offer.

iamnlia:

This think still worries me, I'll see someone I want to meet and form a good icebreaker but I'll just procastinate.

Although If I learn something like palm reading, I'm gon be starting convos like a boss

Windflower:

That's the problem,you don't have to worry about anything, everything has to do with our mindset.Next time do not procrastinate,always challenge yourself to dare something you haven't done before.

Now, am trying not to be too withdrawn from people,today I was really playful at work that people were surprised. I guess we just have to learn to adjust our introverted nature so people don't see us as alien.

iamnlia:


We're the same bro.
I like to "compensate" for it by being the best at everything I do, that way when boys are singing about clubbing and how you're afraid of people, they'll also revere you for constant outside the box thinking.

Mine is not easy, I'm the firstborn and my height doesn't help me in being discreet. And my use of left hand always makes me center of topics.

Jackossky:
wow...Nice thread
Down to business

I simply can't say if I am an introvert or extrovert ..I tried to weigh myself but to no avail

I am not shy to start a discussion with a new person...
but I can't keep it on for long...
I can create a first impression by being loquacious today, but maintaining it till morrow, the next and the next becomes a problem..People do tag me as a proud guy.In my whole neighborhood, no friend of my age talks or relate to me freely (boys and girl)
And again I don't like being with friends for long, sometimes I might feel the urge,but most time, it dies down...

I am mostly taciturn but whenever I am with some of best friends at school. I tend to be very loquacious, but when I don't see any of them, I do cocoon to myself by being reticent.


I can start a group discussion in school, I can lead my peers during presentation, I can impress the newest girl in campus, i can awe an audience...
so I do think
Maybe it is a mask or a cascade
coz when I get home

I become all alone, I become laconic and I become quiet..Maybe I am just complicated for no reason coz I exhibit trait of an extrovert and that of an introvert.
So,I don't know if I belong here,I don't know , I don't...

Drops the mic...

ariklawani:
Being an Introvert is by nature. Most introverts are born in October and Mostly November.

ariklawani:
Being an Introvert is by nature. Most introverts are born in October and Mostly November.

Epano:
Extro/intro versy is set on a continuum ( i.e a bar) no one is completely 2 d extreme of extro or intro and no one is exactly at d center of the 2 personalities.

Jackossky:
wow...Nice thread
Down to business

I simply can't say if I am an introvert or extrovert ..I tried to weigh myself but to no avail

I am not shy to start a discussion with a new person...
but I can't keep it on for long...
I can create a first impression by being loquacious today, but maintaining it till morrow, the next and the next becomes a problem..People do tag me as a proud guy.In my whole neighborhood, no friend of my age talks or relate to me freely (boys and girl)
And again I don't like being with friends for long, sometimes I might feel the urge,but most time, it dies down...

I am mostly taciturn but whenever I am with some of best friends at school. I tend to be very loquacious, but when I don't see any of them, I do cocoon to myself by being reticent.


I can start a group discussion in school, I can lead my peers during presentation, I can impress the newest girl in campus, i can awe an audience...
so I do think
Maybe it is a mask or a cascade
coz when I get home

I become all alone, I become laconic and I become quiet..Maybe I am just complicated for no reason coz I exhibit trait of an extrovert and that of an introvert.
So,I don't know if I belong here,I don't know , I don't...

Drops the mic...