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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jul 28, 2017 |
DonOms:Tanchu plenty 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by SkinnyDude(m): 7:17am On Jul 29, 2017 |
SaintMog:But sir, I think introversion Is for young people.. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Weezybaby: 9:49am On Jul 29, 2017 |
DonOms: I agree, you may go ahead and create the group then ask for pepo who will be interested.. ur approach may not work for obvious reasons |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 10:19am On Jul 29, 2017 |
Weezybaby: Lol @ for obvious reasons. Even some introverts don't know that many other introverts really like space and privacy, and would hardly trade them for anything - even company of fellow unknown introverts. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Akposb(m): 3:54pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
SkinnyDude:The young grow old. A personality trait knows no age. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Weezybaby: 9:03am On Jul 30, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Demmtek(m): 1:17pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Am new here i have been an introvert all my life a lots of people friends/families thought maybe something is wrong with me. If i need something i just keep mute, until my parent notice my mood and ask I hardly talk to my colleagues. Thats just my personality. I dont know how to start a conversation with girls, I only stick to my studies, watch movies, play games, and surf the net. How do i get out of this bondage Because no matter how i try to something inside me keep pulling i.e i feel uncomfortable, is there anything i can do pls help me 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by iamnlia(m): 8:31pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Demmtek: We're the same bro. I like to "compensate" for it by being the best at everything I do, that way when boys are singing about clubbing and how you're afraid of people, they'll also revere you for constant outside the box thinking. Mine is not easy, I'm the firstborn and my height doesn't help me in being discreet. And my use of left hand always makes me center of topics. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by iamnlia(m): 8:37pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
If we must have a group chat, let it be telegram and not whatsapp cos you can see previous messages before you entered the group and also files are easier to share on telegram. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by ATK4Joy(f): 4:04pm On Jul 31, 2017 |
I'm 100% introvet my normal thing is from work to house or church for weekly activities and lock myself inside watching films or surfing the Internet sometimes or study my bible. I don't interact with neighbours( don't like people coming to my apartment ). I don't go to party except if it's church thing that I need to officiate from there house. I unwind only by going to olomo rock( a place in abeokuta here)for someone that is familiar with Abeokuta. Now the issue it I need to settle down.Please how can a lady like me get a suitable guy now that have been out school. Can anyone help me in the house with this isssue 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DAVECENA(m): 9:34am On Aug 02, 2017 |
[quote author=Dsholla post=58873323]Haylo my introv family! I guess we cld create a whatsapp forum to enable us pour our heartache, memories and experiences for closer monitoring and advices.... more like i cnt relate with any sort of pple except those who understand and knws how I feel I concur.... Create it n share d link |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DAVECENA(m): 9:40am On Aug 02, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 11:04am On Aug 02, 2017 |
Weezybaby: I don't think there's a special way introverts break up a relationship so you may not get anyone to tell you how to do that here. However, if you have a relationship issue relating to something about introversion, kind people here will be ready to help with that I believe. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 11:29am On Aug 02, 2017 |
ATK4Joy: Hello ATK4Joy, I'd expected that perhaps the females following this thread would have chipped in an idea or two but it seems that's not happening soon. When it comes to relationship issues, I'm of the opinion that Introvert ladies don't often have the problem of 'no admirers', it's often an issue about 'knowing the right admirer to give a chance.' So how can a lady with your personality get a suitable guy? I think you have made it simpler by being an active member in your church. Society and our culture almost certainly prohibits a woman making a move on the man, so I'm guessing you're not exactly planning to go "get" a guy (as you wrote), it is expected a guy "gets" you instead - tough and unfair world? I know. As I was saying, start from your church. Be friendlier to them church brothers when they try to have conversations with you. Be a little more relaxed with your neighbours as well - you don't have to allow them into your private life to make friends of them...just friendly talks every now and then. Who knows what could happen from there? My point is, you probably won't know how suitable someone might be if you don't give them a chance to show you. Also, importantly, don't exactly feel the pressure of the need to 'get' or be 'gotten by' a suitable guy. Just go about your duties, with diligence and friendliness, and like biblical Rebecca, you'll be tending to your sheep upon Olumo Rock one day and the emissary of "Suitable Guy" will find you and when you offer him water, the rest will be history. 5 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Melsan: 8:58pm On Aug 02, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by stukinherdr1222(m): 12:31pm On Aug 03, 2017 |
Olarewajub: dude, people see us as aliens .when i was working i barely chat with customers . we just do your business . when i travel i go with my psp to avoid conversations with people . its been though bro but very interesting life . . . when you have no worrries about what poeple think . 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Faheemaz: 7:56pm On Aug 03, 2017 |
ATK4Joy:I'm a little shocked you're still single...introverted ladies tends to get more admirers cause most responsible guys look out for ladies with calm and reserved attitude. Anyways, you need to be more flexible in your dealings,. Put up a smile and walk up that handsome dude for direction even though you know the exact location you're headed Go out to places like cinema house, beach, stadium and catch some fun, dress (modestly, not revealing)to be noticed. Lastly, if all of these didn't catch you your prince charming then you can try the online dating,.and if you eventually meet someone you feel connected to pleaseeee take your time to study the person before saying 'I DO'. 9 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 9:35pm On Aug 03, 2017 |
[quote author=ATK4Joy post=59014209]I'm 100% introvet my normal thing is from work to house or church for weekly activities and lock myself inside watching films or surfing the Internet sometimes or study my bible. I don't interact with neighbours( don't like people coming to my apartment ). I don't go to party except if it's church thing that I need to officiate from there house. I unwind only by going to olomo rock( a place in abeokuta here)for someone that is familiar with Abeokuta. Now the issue it I need to settle down.Please how can a lady like me get a suitable guy now that have been out school. Can anyone help me in the house with this isssue[/quote) hmmmmm you must be a big babe who loves to cherish nature. Been around olumo way back despite my been destined there by mother earth, that place is q beauty to behold. Now to your talk,you have to improve on your level of inter personal communications.he that needs a friend should first of all be friendly, and you ought to start been friendly from your neighborhood. those are parts of agents of socialization and you cent take that away. you seem already out of school and like getting mature with time in time out so mature friends of like minds , same aspirations and goals should be your targets, put on some aura of great charisma, Behind your self up, give your self some nice treats, start putting smile on your face and learn to put same on people around you too, start From a lil "hi, good morning, how was your night, how's the family".....try complementing few people around you now, "hey, ! that looks great on you"....you are already sewing seeds of great friendships which when sparked off could end in wonderful expectations .it all starts WIth you.Have you read qny book on the principle of 'mirror effect'?"You are a reflection of what you want people to see"!!! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 9:40pm On Aug 03, 2017 |
Faheemaz:you are very correct with your assertions, in fact, even young men that are intros tend to Catch the fancy of great ladies fast .your truly been flying away from karishikas since ages, countless of fine sisters to choose from as they are ever willing to....but according to falz"God save US from karishika"! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 2:58pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Peeps Well, it's so disappointing that most introverts still do not know the difference between shyness and introversion even after the topic has been addressed umpteen times. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 6:06pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Olarewajub:Peeps I personally think this confusion problem may be partly due to how the extroverted society has always labelled introversion. For example, my family and school mates labelled me as "shy" as a child. I wasn't shy. I could face the crowd and talk in a group if I wanted to, but I just never liked to be where there was plenty people and hated talking. Unfortunately, I accepted what they called me and believed I was shy. It wasn't until I got to Sec. Sch. when I learned about introversion that I figured out I wasn't actually shy but introverted. It was then I began correcting people who called me a shy person (that's if I was in the mood to talk anyway). My point is, as it is popular among Nigerians, we just label things with words that we know - whether it aptly describes the situation or not. And sadly, everyone just joins the bandwagon. So when an introverted child who is also shy (but called shy alone) overcomes the shyness as he/she grows, they just call it "overcoming introversion." By the way, it's been a while @Olarewajub 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 6:36pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
DonOms Thanks for sharing your experience. I've been around, just following the thread silently. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 11:19pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Olarewajub: You're welcome. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Ray1251(m): 5:31pm On Aug 09, 2017 |
Please can anyone help with an articulate on how to overcome shyness, also I am so happy I believe the introvert part of me no longer affect me that much. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 8:37am On Aug 11, 2017 |
Ray1251: You seem to have dissociated your shyness from your introversion - which you have come to embrace and love. That's the very first step to overcoming shyness. The first best step to self-awareness and actualisation is Know Thyself. The next thing is to begin to understand reality and embrace it. Examples of these realities are: 1) Accept yourself for who you are and know your limitations. 2) Everybody WILL NOT love you, only some will - live with it. 3) Because of reality 2, BE YOURSELF since it's fruitless to try to impress others or shadow them as it affects confidence. Discover other realities and live with them. The final most important step is to BUILD CONFIDENCE. The word "Build" is used so you know it is gradual - a step at a time. I have personally learned that people use different tools to build confidence but these are perhaps the most used as far as my experience and knowledge goes: 1) Improve language communication/skills. Those who speak a language well are often confident. Take that as fact. 2) Join small groups with common interest as you. Maybe it's a study group, or a choir/drama group in church, a poetry club or a humanitarian movement, they not only improve your knowledge and give fulfilment, they help build confidence. 3) Dress Well. Not overdressed or underdressed but WELL dressed for every occasion. 4) Project confidence. Think and act it, fake it if you can. But do this carefully. Research has shown that the brain can easily be tricked into helping us take up new traits/personalities - use the advantage. That's pretty much it, I believe. If you can do these, shyness will be a thing of the past in no time. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Donemmy(m): 11:22am On Aug 11, 2017 |
pinkishgal:u just described my exact personality trait . Most persons believed I m too principle but to me I enjoy my own company specially with my books. I don't believe in unnecessary conversations. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by oldfoolnigger(m): 4:32pm On Aug 11, 2017 |
Proudly one. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by RICKYMARIO(m): 8:14pm On Aug 11, 2017 |
gidjah:Thank you for this. I also realised this when I got into d uni. I think I have a whole lot to learn from you |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by sesan24: 2:34am On Aug 12, 2017 |
iamnlia:. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by sesan24: 2:38am On Aug 12, 2017 |
i like this thread. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by sesan24: 2:48am On Aug 12, 2017 |
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