hiawathia1981:


Oh Im sorry. Just so you know some introverts have the same problem. You should try to be more of a listener vs a talker. Not everything requires a remark or comment. And secondly, think about what you are saying before u say it. If it seems like it will be offensive, it most likely is, and don't say it.
Hope that helps.

hiawathia1981:
To my introverted friends, do you think that being shy and being introverted are the same thing? Also any good tips on networking? I dont have much of a problem here, well not now since im making friends. But I am in a situation at work where I am in a ideal environment to align myself with good contacts for future opportunities. But bc of my nature, im just letting the opportunity pass along.

Update:maybe this should be its own topic.
Mods, move to separate topic if necessary please

hiawathia1981:


I agree
Im hoping that those of us have found ways to overcome some of the negative aspects of being an introvert will share tips to those of us who are struggling.

GloryIsaac:


I suggest you read "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson

And "Quiet" by Susan Cain.

m003:

please do you have links to these books?

GloryIsaac:


http://oceanofpdf.com/pdf-epub-the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-fck-a-counterintuitive-approach-to-living-a-good-life-download/

http://oceanofpdf.com/pdf-quiet-the-power-of-introverts-in-a-world-that-cant-stop-talking-download/

iNewton:

Thanks for that Markansion book

m003:

Thanks a lot

GloryIsaac:


http://oceanofpdf.com/pdf-epub-the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-fck-a-counterintuitive-approach-to-living-a-good-life-download/

http://oceanofpdf.com/pdf-quiet-the-power-of-introverts-in-a-world-that-cant-stop-talking-download/

nnamdiosu:


Hi. Everything lies in the mind. Our perception I side affects the outside.
One of the main problems of introverts is their inability to control their thought process...e.g will I make a grammatical error, am I dressed well, do they like me, am I good enough etc.
Therefore , boldness comes from thinking the tight thoughts in our mind e.g I can do this, I'm going to do it....

1. Introverts should take small steps of boldness e.g answering questions in class briefly. Or disagreeing with someone who speaks (respectfully). Now , the next time you are faced with a more difficult social task you can recall the last one you did and that will give you boldness and courage.
But when one doesn't have any record, it gives fear and uncertainty.

2. We should endeavour to control our thought process. They don't like me should change to the like me. Incant do it should change to I can do it. Learn to tell yourself, I'm OK. I'm all right. I can do it. As a ma. Thinketh in his heart so is he.

3. Be knowledgeable in the area you operate. That gives you courage that what you want to say will be appreciated and needed. Trust me, the battle would have been won 50% if you scale this point.

Also, look for speaking engagement programmes or literary clubs, societies etc to join. For those in asaba, delta state , I know of one that welcomes introverts and makes them bold, confident and skilled in connecting with people or speaking in public. Holla me if interested.
My name is Namo and I'm an ambivert.

Rubbiish:

Which one be ambivert again?
But me think those things also work with age sir

nnamdiosu:


Ambivert are rare kind of people that display both introvert and extrovert behaviours depending on the environment or people or mood they are in.
They are both kind of personalities.

What things were you referring to that work with age?

Rubbiish:

Inability to communicate with strangers & public speaking generally. As we grow older confidence will come regardless of our temperament...

gidjah:
Any links to books download pls ?like beenbyour self ,etc?my intro brothers and sis , I am need to recommend them to some persons pls

GloryIsaac:


Happy Sunday Sir.

You can look for any book at oceanofpdf dot com

nnamdiosu:


That's not always true. Its conscious effort that brings about confidence .
The desire and steps to be confident is what makes one confident.

Rubbiish:

We are saying the same thing sir. As u grow older u experience more things which bring about the confidence. My father is a core introvert, but u need to see him give public speech, even the best extrovert wont compete with him. Often times we try to do things above our age, but as we grow older we become more bold & sensible...& those things we find difficult to do becomes cake walk...Have u seen a master's student scared of approaching a girl?? But a secondary school kid will surely feel nervous doing this, not really because of his temperament, but he is trying to do something above his age. I still believe age is a major contributory factor....

FIDELITY24:
i agree with you on this one bro, growing up I had so many things I was afraid of doing, talking to girls inclusive but as a more mature young man now those things are nothing.

nnamdiosu:


Ambivert are rare kind of people that display both introvert and extrovert behaviours depending on the environment or people or mood they are in.
They are both kind of personalities.

What things were you referring to that work with age?

hiawathia1981:


Hmmm..a lot of introverts wish to be extroverts and you want to be introverted. Very interesting...
I dont think you can just completely switch bc those traits make up who you are. Although you could probably pick up a habit like learning to be more of a listener vs a talker.
Like some else asked, why do u wish to change?

babyfaceafrica:
introverts who wish to be extroverts don't really know who they are and what they have

FIDELITY24:
pls throw more light on this, I believe we are all here to learn.

babyfaceafrica:
my point is every personality has its weakness and strength..so why will I leave introvertness for extrovertness?...do they think been brash,loud,uncouth is something to be proud off?...yes as an introvert, people may take advantage of you.. But with time and experiences you will overcome that... You nay be shy..so what?...introverts need to learn to maximize their strengths and use it as an advantage.... There is strength is silence!!!

hiawathia1981:


Lets just say the extroverts that you know happen to be loud, crass, and etc. Being an extrovert is not synomous with the traits you described. What I meant earlier in my comment was that extroverts have an ease and confidence when interacting socially. They also seem to be energized being around others. Something that comes harder with alot of introverts. And you dont have to give up one trait for the other but maybe just incorporate some of the others' characteristics.

LeiderJa:
I attempted suicide