kemiola89:
Like someone rightly said "shyness" and "introversion" are two separate character trait. You can be an introvert and not be shy.

Shyness as I understand is borne out of low level of confidence. Maybe you should try working on your confidence level. Stop caring about what people would think be bold to say whatever it is that's on your mind

I was once like you, always nervous whenever I'm around guys but I eventually outgrew it. I stopped caring about what they'd think guess what? now they even feel intimidated by me

tnx a lot..i really didnt knw anythin abt introversion n extroversion until i saw dz thread nd marilyn's post.
u are right abt d low self confidence nd m working on it.

chizzy94:
What's your I.D?

give me urs

shegxi: abi now...my sista.
Bt i feel dats d essence of dis thread, she will realise its not normal and try to work on herself so she can be better for it.

not normal as in..??

m going to try to work on myself buh i still dnt knw d steps t take.

MissJennifer:


It's not normal at all.....the cases i see here is gives me hope o,still working on myself tho

dz is really funny.

MarilynNash and abel14, wat i meant by nt normal is dat such level of introvertism is nt normal.....not dat u guys are not normal oooooooo(biko). Of course, u guys are just like d average human out dere.....a little push and work on ursef and u will be amazed at how wonderful and fun u can get. Its just for u to make up ur mind dat u rili wanna change. Happy sunday to everyone here.

kemiola89:
This is one ish I really wish I could stop doing....

it hurt so bad...really wanna stop but can't help it.

Olarewajub: Most introvert wouldn't want to seat down in the middle. We prefer seating down in a position where we can observe.

this is true for me! I always sit where i can observe things and where i won't be disturbed.

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Olarewajub: Most introvert wouldn't want to seat down in the middle. We prefer seating down in a position where we can observe.

Of what importance are seating arrangements to you?

abel14: dz is really funny.

I thought my case was worse na

shegxi: i guess he is.......some just knw hw to manage it than d odas........dn't be surprised some mite sound all talking and confident online bt wen u sit with dem one on one.....u will be shocked at how tongue-tied dey can be.
So are u an introvert?

This is so me, I chat confidently online, but the story changes as soon as I meet one of my online friend, I become tongue-tied and they will be like 'r Ɣ☺u sure this is you'?

Lot of importance. You don't expect me to sit down in the middle of a group of people and be silent or just nodding my head. It's awkward.

tpia1:



Of what importance are seating arrangements to you?

OlamiB:
This is so me, I chat confidently online, but the story changes as soon as I meet one of my online friend, I become tongue-tied and they will be like 'r Ɣ☺u sure this is you'?

..........u are not alone.

misterkay: The only downside for me as an introvert is the inability to make friends easily.

Lol.....that's like the hardest part. But come to think of it, should one make friends so easily?,ain't we supposed to be careful who call our friends?

Some peeps be like "ope o, i have seen someone dat my own case beta pass"

shegxi: ..........u are not alone.

I just thank God he made me a girl, because I dnt imagine myself being a guy, how will I ever ask a girl out?

OlamiB:
I just thank God he made me a girl, because I dnt imagine myself being a guy, how will I ever ask a girl out?

lol....funny. Bt d reality is dat dere will always be a way to get d message across......dat one na sure tin.

shegxi: MarilynNash and abel14, wat i meant by nt normal is dat such level of introvertism is nt normal.....not dat u guys are not normal oooooooo(biko). Of course, u guys are just like d average human out dere.....a little push and work on ursef and u will be amazed at how wonderful and fun u can get. Its just for u to make up ur mind dat u rili wanna change. Happy sunday to everyone here.

lol..jx tell us wat t do

MissJennifer:


I thought my case was worse na

lol...der is still sm1 out der..whose case is worst dan mine.

chizzy94:
Lol, okay.
'Chizzy ThaGalacticos' is my I.D.

av always knwn ur I.D..goin t send a request

abel14: lol..jx tell us wat t do

unfortunately, dere is no hard and fast rule to it......work on ur confidence level, develop ur inner strength, and socialize more. Of course, it will take time and patience, but be sure d effort wuld be worth it.

shegxi: unfortunately, dere is no hard and fast rule to it......work on ur confidence level, develop ur inner strength, and socialize more. Of course, it will take time and patience, but be sure d effort wuld be worth it.

seriously

ds is nt goin to b easy.

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abel14: seriously

ds is nt goin to b easy.

it's all about perspective.

chizzy94:
LOL.
How?

am a P.I....*winks*

shegxi: it's all about perspective.

hmmmmmmm

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chizzy94:
Lol.
Alright .

request sent..

Choi, I have missed o

Miss ke? Share your experience jor. By the way, you're welcome.

2sExy1: Choi, I have missed o

Well, introversion isn't cool as it can limit one's potential if not carefully managed.

I am one naturally gifted singer with above average sonorous voice... I mostly listen to boy2men and fine tunned my style to theirs.

But for years I battled with my in ability to sing at gathering and thereby almost letting the talent waste.

I know how many times people have commended my singing or voice when I sing alone o. At NYSC sef one dude would ask me to just sing so he could hear.

During later years at school, I told myself that I have to sing even if it's once. It got to that day and I reluctantly worked to my school fellowship president/pastor, almost to the end of the program. My pastor wasn't happy because he felt I didn't inform him... The guy start dey speak in tongues while I smiled and almost denied me of that opportunity but the head, who was and still is my very close friend and pal told him to let me sing.

I introduced myself and the title of the song... A gospel song.

Funny enough na Acapella I wan sing o. Who go back me up. I nor even care.

As God would have it, the 2 people behind me knew the chorus.

And so... Na so I start o.

Silence engulf the room while I processed the first 3 words in the first versed. I looked at the pastor that was warning me and even gave me one minute lol. Cold enter everybody body for inside that hall that day.

Where the thing come scatter my head na as e reach chorus... The 3 of us took it in unison and with the other dude taken Baritone. Damn!

na so I vex...

Finish work...

Church scatter that day... See clapp. na me be this?

My other pastor who knew me right from when we started school cos we were first neighbours and then roommates till we graduated... Was just nodding his head like when you say "yes"

just try to avoid that useless voice that creeps in when you need to face certain new faces, crowd etc. In fact, do the very opposite of what it tell you to do and gradually, it will die a natural death.

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