Hey guys!!! Ok, I wasn't sure where to post this but am sure I want sampled, the opinion of mature members of this forum on a thought that I have been nursing for quite a long time now. I was born and brought up in lagos, in fact, my parents live there. But I am seriously considering staying put in ibadan after my service year. But I av heard people say it is not good for a young lady to leave alone. Yet I really want to be on my own. I need to concentrate. Pls advice me.

Except u are a strong born again....if not guyz go just they come count scores....

U really av to be strong to do dat,cos guys take advantage of such situation.

Yea, i think it's actualy nice advicing any lady not to live considering the below points;
(1) level of maturity
(2)fear of lack of security
(3)fear of associating with wayward friends
(4)eehhmm pls add urs

loveslife: Hey guys!!! Ok, I wasn't sure where to post this but am sure I want sampled, the opinion of mature members of this forum on a thought that I have been nursing for quite a long time now. I was born and brought up in lagos, in fact, my parents live there. But I am seriously considering staying put in ibadan after my service year. But I av heard people say it is not good for a young lady to leave alone. Yet I really want to be on my own. I need to concentrate. Pls advice me.

You don't just decide to stay put or leave a certain environment without considering some major factors.

1. What are your chances of surviving alone there. Ie, feeding, rent, transport etc.

2. Do you have a clear cut vision on the type of job you want to settle for.

3. Do you think your current location have higher chances of getting you settled ASAP

4. Should in case you fail in the listed options, do you have a plan B.

5. What's your reason for wanting to stay back.

6. Are your parents and siblings aware, and what's their reaction.

Note: gender has nothing to do with staying alone, hence you have actually defined your life

Nothing wrong in staying alone. I have been staying alone for yrars now and all this insecurity, bad friends etc society is shouting up and down is just fear and part of subjugating women so that they will be perpetually under control and watchful eyes

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You don't just decide to stay put or leave a certain environment without considering some major factors.


Thanks so much richyblink for your quick response. I already have set things in motion to cater for my self and yes I think staying alone will improve my chances of getting settled soon. As for plan b, I never thought of that. Perhaps because I know I have no business failing. I already said I needed to concentrate. Folks be breathing down my neck. That's one too many distraction. Thanks again.

Lol @ laurel. No need to worry dear. Am certainly not the type.

Lol @ laurel. No need to worry dear. Am certainly not the type.
God is my muscle

[quote author=unpredictedone]Yea, i think it's actualy nice advicing any lady not to live considering the below points;
(1) level of maturity
(2)fear of lack of security
(3)fear of associating with wayward friends
(4)eehhmm pls add urs [/quote

Errm, dear unpredicted one, a. In my late 20s. Is that old enough

richyblink1:
You don't just decide to stay put or leave a certain environment without considering some major factors.
1. What are your chances of surviving alone there. Ie, feeding, rent, transport etc.
2. Do you have a clear cut vision on the type of job you want to settle for.
3. Do you think your current location have higher chances of getting you settled ASAP
4. Should in case you fail in the listed options, do you have a plan B.
5. What's your reason for wanting to stay back.
6. Are your parents and siblings aware, and what's their reaction.
Note: gender has nothing to do with staying alone, hence you have actually defined your life

I need to buy this man a drink.
Poster, i copy this

For you to even ask, it means you are not mature yet to make that move. Do you have any job in sight? What is your game plan in Ibadan? How do you intend fending for yourself?

I stayed alone as a student and employed graduate for years, cos I schooled and worked in a different city from that of my family. Didn't need anyone's approval cos I knew what I wanted and my family knew I could cope and didn't need any babysitting.

If your family knows you are responsible and have a solid plan, they won't be against your decision.

Goodluck.