coogar:

your colleague is not ready to marry yet or her groom-to-be is a retärd. i don't see how any parent can stop me from marrying a girl i want unless the girl herself wants to be stopped.

beeevan:



Chilli why last? The first is very much eligible

lucianohase: This is one african mentality i hate so much,especially when choosing one's life patner...this is exactly what made a close friend of mine marry a very sweet n lavly US lady after he left the shores of Africa.. His parents and the parents of his ex-lover destroyed his former wonderful relationship,which made him vow not to have anything to do with any nigerian lady or a lady bred in africa,just to escape some of these bullshit traditions and prejudice. Nobody knew when he got married except me, though he sent his wedding pictures to his parents later. His wealthy parents were so disappointed,his mum wept...As for me,i was so happy for him.

lucianohase: This is one african mentality i hate so much,especially when choosing one's life patner...this is exactly what made a close friend of mine marry a very sweet n lavly US lady after he left the shores of Africa.. His parents and the parents of his ex-lover destroyed his former wonderful relationship,which made him vow not to have anything to do with any nigerian lady or a lady bred in africa,just to escape some of these bullshit traditions and prejudice. Nobody knew when he got married except me, though he sent his wedding pictures to his parents later. His wealthy parents were so disappointed,his mum wept...As for me,i was so happy for him.

cococandy:
@bolded. BACK OFF
No try me o.

delishpot:


Good for him, but what happens to the wife if God forbid something bad happens to the boy and she need his family support? Has he introduced her to his family yet? Do they have a relationship with her? Hmmmn, its ok, lets pray they all get along this time.

MrTeymee: EverybOdy dey warn me say make ah no marry ESAN girl and ah love one..are Esan people that bad??

lucianohase: His mum later went to US to see for herself and could do nothing but accept things the way she saw it,as for the dad, the last time i went to visit him 3yrs ago,while we were discussing,he said,"it has happened,we pushed him to it" ! Like i said earlier,i was happy for him and im still happy for him. Today,he's got two lavly kids,he works in a big Infotech Firm n the wife , a medical doctor (a pediatrician). They are even planning to come to nigeria according to what he told me. To me,he made a good choice!!

Eyop:

Investigation will do justice to your post. I don't believe completely that all ESAN people are bad as you've been told but like i will always say,investigate the family thoroughly and if you get a Green light,then go ahead but if Red,withdraw immediately. Marriage is a life time thing and not a game.

MrTeymee:
Thanks a lOt...buh an average Esan family might be bad cuz evrywhere ah go dey always have dis bad report. Even Benin parents don't let deir men marry Esan girls

Eyop:

You are not even sure of what you want. You've been told before @ the bolded in Red so by now i believe you have options. Nigeria as a country has 36 states and recently more states have been created so if the Esan babe is having Red flags,then you have options to choose from. Good luck brother in whatsoever decision you decide to make or take.

Eyop:

Lucky him and he should thank his stars that things went well for him but if not,pepper will be an understatement.

Chillisauce:

See you. You don't know if na triplet boys you go give oga. .
Anyway, no shaking. My babe dey wella. She ain't pushover. I trust her.

lucianohase: hahahaaaaaaaa....na u for pepper am? Lol

Not me ooooh but assuming things didn't go well as a result of disobedience it will be a combination of pepper+tatashe then running from church to church will be a regular routine

Woged2005: other countries discriminate against Nigerians, (just for emphasis) etc. Haba! Some of us Africans are way too full of prejudice and hate. Sometime I wonder if this is why we always have plagues, disease epidemics, wars, massacres, hunger, famine, pogroms, etc despite being very religious and blessed with resources.

Africans, please can we stop prejudices to let blessings flow into the continent? God is love! Stop destroying dreams with prejudices!

lucianohase: His mum later went to US to see for herself and could do nothing but accept things the way she saw it,as for the dad, the last time i went to visit him 3yrs ago,while we were discussing,he said,"it has happened,we pushed him to it" ! Like i said earlier,i was happy for him and im still happy for him. Today,he's got two lavly kids,he works in a big Infotech Firm n the wife , a medical doctor (a pediatrician). They are even planning to come to nigeria according to what he told me. To me,he made a good choice!!

coogar:

your colleague is not ready to marry yet or her groom-to-be is a retärd. i don't see how any parent can stop me from marrying a girl i want unless the girl herself wants to be stopped.

Woged2005: A young female colleague from french-speaking Cameroon is in love with a very decent Nigerian man, educated with a good job. They are making plans to get married before Easter next year. Now the girl's parent (especially her mom) is way in the middle of the whole thing, discouraging her daughter, warning her, and even making threats to her to stay away from any Nigerian man because they can't be trusted. In fact, she vowed no one in her family will date a Nigerian man. These young lovers are completely devastated and running to anyone who could help appease her parents but all is falling on deaf ears.
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We Africans complain of racism and discrimination abroad but honestly from what I see, we would have been worse than some of the people we criticize. Look at how we discriminate against people from other tribes, religion, sexual orientation, even people of other social class. Rich parents warn their daughters not to date boys from poor families. Yoruba discriminates against Igbo, Igbo discriminates against Hausa, Hausa discriminates against Igbos, Muslims discriminates against Christians, Pentecostals discriminate against Catholics, other countries discriminate against Nigerians, (just for emphasis) etc. Haba! Some of us Africans are way too full of prejudice and hate. Sometime I wonder if this is why we always have plagues, disease epidemics, wars, massacres, hunger, famine, pogroms, etc despite being very religious and blessed with resources.

Africans, please can we stop prejudices to let blessings flow into the continent? God is love! Stop destroying dreams with prejudices![/s]

Litmus:




The Cameroonian mother is indirectly right. In many instances, Nigerian men that marry women of other African nations are lazy wimps. Marrying Nigerian women can be very expensive and a lot of responsibility is demanded of a Nigerian husband in terms of working, making money and providing for a wider family. Faced with the enormous expectation and discipline required to become a Nigerian husband to Nigerian woman, Some Nigerian men take the easy option of marrying to women of African nations that are a dime a dozen. Such men are not to be trusted as real men, they are potential none-providers.

Woged2005:

Huh? .... , I'm not too sure about what you wrote above. I have many hard-working Nigerian male friends who married ladies from other countries and still takes care of extended families. I am not sure of any lady who will go out there looking for a lazy man to marry, or a man who will be out there searching for a woman who will feed him. It's more of proximity that influences who your friends are, whom you date and and whom you end up marrying...you end up picking from people you are surrounded by irrespective of their color, or country, else you have to travel to marry someone from your country or tribe. So I beg to differ.

cococandy:
@bolded. BACK OFF
No try me o.

Chillisauce:

I don't want first son. Too much wahala. The last one is more like a perfect smooth ride. Coupled with his slightly pink lips.
Perfect!

Eyop:
Not me ooooh but assuming things didn't go well as a result of disobedience it will be a combination of pepper+tatashe then running from church to church will be a regular routine