Godmystrength: [s]rules in deed. even poor man sef make rules so whats d biggie? U must know a lot of women. Change ur company.[/s]

Tymax:
Dreamer

Tymax: .

Godmystrength: i am trying to tell you that you don't need money
to make rules. What happens when you are broke and your wife is taking
care, then will she now tell you that her money, her rules? Will you
like that?

Godmystrength: ^^^so
why is it that women that have the financial power and making the rules
are most times seen as not submissive, proud and arrogant?

carefreewannabe:
You don't have your own head? Just asking.

carefreewannabe:

Let's be realistic. Money makes the world go round. Those who hold financial power will most likely and most frequently make the rules.

I am not saying how it should be, I am just saying how it is.

beau49: @ Carefreewannabe those posts of yours killed me . **wipes tears from eyes** ###@topic it should e a joint effort but if one party is more financially buoyant than the other,then he/she can take it upon him/herself.

okotv: now i know why you comment the way you do..you have money...lots of it....make the rules jare but its your own life sha cause you will dance to the tune of your own music

Godmystrength: I don't know whose responsibility it is.

same here. Honeymoon was in our house o .... No money for that o. After getting accommodation, setting the place and spending for the wedding, no money to spare for honeymoon again. We were using our money for some other things.......

carefreewannabe:

Huh

carefreewannabe:
So this is why he has to pay?
And if the head tells you that you have to pay, will you?

Floodgater: @fragrant, there are no laid down rules. Do whatever float your ship. If you, like most ladies want it and he does not, provided you know he can afford it convince him and go for it with you supporting where need be. I dont get it when peeps say the financial responsiblity must be shared and lettered from dating to marriage. If it works for you fine, it must not be the yardstick. We are Africans where the major provider is the man(even the men are threatened where not so) and will be so atleast for a long time. My point exactly is that these same peeps dont share and time-tabled domestic work from dating to marriage in their homes, the man helps the woman here just like the woman should with finances(not their basic/must roles). Some even go as far as asking what a woman does with her money, if she wants her man to buy clothes for her, what is wrong with this(which woman doesnt relish that one bought by her man). Even here in Africa the woman most times can only dictate the rules if her man doesnt have anything at all, if he has little to care for only himself he is most likely not worse than his fellow average african man.