lomaxx: My wife earning more than me doesn't automatically translate to her being the breadwinner. I will pick all my family bills to the last naira - my wife may choose to help at her discretion. Her money is her money. If I run into shortage, I may borrow from her- pick the bills. When I'm back on my feet, I'll pay back to the last dime.

Besides, who wouldn't be proud of a woman that makes more benjamins than he does? I definitely will be. On an alternate universe, I'll see it as a challenge to hustle harder and be the man she will always be proud of. Only insecure men go about hating on their wife's better income. Only lazy men will sit at home and wait for madam to pick family bills. I'm none of those.

My humble submission.

AlfaSeltzer:
if you borrow money from your wife, then she is not really your wife.

Rehil: hahahahahaha yes i will

alotofgrace:

batcher?

i dont know what she did to suffer these, was she becoming arrogant, disrespectful or bossy?

allanphash7: your in law or you? you better confess

montestic:

bossy? nooooo!!

d man has always been egocentric. full of himself. at a time he was having an affair outside his matrimonial home. the worst that pained me was that my kid sister that was living with them then , he wanted to sleep with her. she refused and told me bcs d man started being harsh on her my kid sis. so my sis left them and started staying with us at my uncles house. she got married in 2008 with two kids now and happy.
later my inlaw started claiming born again and became an elder in church yet was still jealous but atimes he will try to b nice to d wife.

but now they are all living in a one room Batcher with no good toilet.I lant they bury shit on the ground. I so much pity them. 2 of their kids are now staying apart. 1 with my mum d other with another of my sista.

if he had supported d wife well when her business was booming I doubt if they would have been in this situation.

how can a man destroy the goods of the wife in public?
whenever he was coming home, instead of my sister to b happy, she will b scared

HE SENT ME FLOWERS

We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare, I couldn't believe it was real.

I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today, and it wasn't mother's day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again, it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.......

montestic:

mtcheww

Amhappy: This is so sad. I am sure your inlaw is happier now

allanphash7: same to you

2romantic:

u must b a mugu abii moronnn

nikkygal: Been there done that! When I met my hubby, I was already earning more than 3 times his salary...but one of the things that attracted me to him was the fact that he was very secure and never felt threatened by that. As a matter if fact, he seemed very proud of my achievements at such a young age and always handy to provide advice or support ...I married him particularly because of that singular trait amongst others because I had seen many other guys that were either just intimidated or just wanted a complementary meal ticket...

Fastforward a few yrs later, the Mr resigned from his job and moved into business like he's always wanted from time. I was scared initially of what the future held,however, I put in a good chunk of my savings there, prayed hard and now story has changed..Even with my increased income, my guy is 'doing almost twice' of mine and controlling so much that it all seems surreal.

My inlaws initially were wary of our marriage and thought I might be bossy & domineering, I guess they now know better.... Of course my MIL is now particularly glad since her son's levels have changed now and she can now brag about so much....lol! But it's all good even though I & the hubby know the "koko" of our story...
These days, we just plan the finances together and make sure we remain transparent and united even in executing our plans. He always thanks me for believing in him and actually 'investing' in his dream. Honestly, I appreciate him more because I know the kind of marital issues a lot of my female colleagues face at home due to their superior earning power. As a lot of your actions are mis-construed easily to mean that you're bragging because you're the one paying the major bills.

I'll say it's tough for women earning more than their spouses because more often not, men have the tendency to get easily intimidated by their spouses. For men that see money as a control tool, the marriage will remain turbulent as the woman will always be seen as threatening the husband's position as the head.
Some wives have also attempted severally to help their spouses financially, but they just squander all the money on frivolities. That's one of the things that makes women buy properties in secret and make under-G investments so as to secure her future with the kids..It's a catch22 situation for women...ko easy rara!

claremont: I am of the opinion that the expenses of the home should be shared in such a way that the person who earns more gets the lion share. It makes no sense whatsoever that in this day and age a man would want to shoulder the lion share even though he earns remarkably less than his partner, that's illogical and clearly shows chauvinism at work.

kreezzy: I don't want to marry him. And let him speak for himself

kreezzy: I like this dude

userbusy21:
I love this guy, my husband is the most insecure man for that reason and for that reason he frustrate me while working. your wife must be happy to have you. good guy

virago:

Even a stark illiterate can become a multi millionaire tomorrow , education is not the only key to riches

oz4christ: It is indeed ok for a woman to earn more but guys, let's be honest. Look around u and tell me the kind of women u see. Only a few will earn more and still respect their husbands. These things are easier said than done. Even born again Christians don't. It starts little by little. Unless the man choose to play a fool.

Rehil: It all boils down to d couples.i know that we are one,so wat belongs to me belong to him.he is the head of the family no matter what.God has placed him n not man who am i to question my God?i use to earn more than my husband some years back but i made sure i always present the money to him as our money.Presently i am not working,he collects his salary,brings it home n says its our salary.honestly dia shouldnt be division in d family as to who earns more,what d woman has belongs to d man n vice versa.u can earn millions more than ur husband but without his blessing and unity in the home u may never see the usefulness of such money.

Junipero: All the Ladies coming here to air out how richer they were than their Spouses. How they supported him/her. How in-laws hated on the situation. I have just one thing to point out.

With all due respect, you all have failed the first test. The Law of Subtlety in Marital Unions. What does this mean?

Subtlety in terms of keeping private family issues personal. You as a good partner shouldn't come here to explain how not-so-good your Partner is/was doing.

Why not just be coy about it and pass the important message. I don't know if you are getting my point. He/She is your other Half. Keep it low-key.

All the same, may your marriages move from strength to strength. Jah Bless!

hizaya61: pride and been arrogant, she automatically become the
husband, and you automatically turn to househelp, pick up the children
from school, go to market and get food items, get home as early as
possible to make sure food is ready and laundry

Lightening:

Your wife can earn much more without any qualms on the relationship. In most cases, what causes the resentment men interprete as arrogant is if the man is not doing his best or outrightly lazy, ( which is increasingly the order of the days), while she inturn slaves to earn the money used to support the man.

Respect comes naturally from your exploits. God commanded women to respect their husbands because He expects that men be hardworking like Him, their creator.

No reasonable woman would be convinced that her husband is doing his best ( even without so much to show for it) without opening her treasury to support him totally.

So Men, let's wake up!

lomaxx: My wife earning more than me doesn't automatically translate to her being the breadwinner. I will pick all my family bills to the last naira - my wife may choose to help at her discretion. Her money is her money. If I run into shortage, I may borrow from her- pick the bills. When I'm back on my feet, I'll pay back to the last dime.

Besides, who wouldn't be proud of a woman that makes more benjamins than he does? I definitely will be. On an alternate universe, I'll see it as a challenge to hustle harder and be the man she will always be proud of. Only insecure men go about hating on their wife's better income. Only lazy men will sit at home and wait for madam to pick family bills. I'm none of those.

My humble submission.