lomaxx: My wife earning more than me doesn't automatically translate to her being the breadwinner. I will pick all my family bills to the last naira - my wife may choose to help at her discretion. Her money is her money. If I run into shortage, I may borrow from her- pick the bills. When I'm back on my feet, I'll pay back to the last dime.

Besides, who wouldn't be proud of a woman that makes more benjamins than he does? I definitely will be. On an alternate universe, I'll see it as a challenge to hustle harder and be the man she will always be proud of. Only insecure men go about hating on their wife's better income. Only lazy men will sit at home and wait for madam to pick family bills. I'm none of those.

My humble submission.

Seriously, if all men reason like you, the world would be a better place. very disciplined and intelligent man you are. its because of men like you that God made man the head of the home.

tebirim: I love you for this statement. I wish every lady can be like you. May God bless you and also bless me with a good wife soon....

amen

Rehil: the so call feminist r just tryin to displace the natural order that God had arranged things.the day a woman considers herself as equal to her husband that day she is pronoucing judgement on herself.may God help us.

there is something you should know as a woman. Your creator created both men and women equally- strenghts may differ but it was done for males and females to complement each other. now in a marriage, there are two equal partners but the autority to head the home has been given to the man. that does not in any way degrade the woman as a human being. She has to be submissive so that things can run smoothly in the home just as an assistant Director has to continually see himself as a surbordinate to his director-that changes nothing,they are both equals but he has to respect that authority. i hope we are on the same page?

Lightening:

Very correct. Confirm from PEJ

but mama peace go school na

You guys have more money to spend and or save.....that's what happens!!!

Same bank account anyway! So how do you keep tab on who makes what

Its Man God's given responsibilty to provide for his family because the last time a woman fed a man,we were all kicked out of the garden of Eden...*decipher2getdmessage..

eleojo23: This is a potential source of problems. Truth be said, men in such situations tend to feel threatened and resentful towards their wives and this arises from their ego. It is due to the traditional belief that men ought to earn more. Some men can get so resentful/jealous that they begin to find fault in everything their wives do. If a man cannot stand the fact that his wife is earning more, then he should stand up and do something to increase his own earnings. But then, that is the competitive spirit at work and it won't be good for the marriage in the long run. One thing that must be understood is the fact that marriage is not a competition. It is a partnership. If one partner earns more, it should be seen as to the advantage of both. The man should appreciate his wife and the wife should maintain her respect for him. The fact that he earns less doesn't make him less of a man. His earnings could increase and surpass hers in the future.

yes,you men better pay your bills.When it comes to cheating,you are very active doing it and hurting the woman but when it comes to bills you become sober and ask the woman whom you cheated upon to help you pay bills after you must have spent your own money elsewhere.Wonders!!!

Spoil him more! What else? spoil the kids! Go out more! All the fun things cos he'd be sorting the serious bills! Abi kilotun ku?


YeaYeaNot

lomaxx: My wife earning more than me doesn't automatically translate to her being the breadwinner. I will pick all my family bills to the last naira - my wife may choose to help at her discretion. Her money is her money. If I run into shortage, I may borrow from her- pick the bills. When I'm back on my feet, I'll pay back to the last dime.

Besides, who wouldn't be proud of a woman that makes more benjamins than he does? I definitely will be. On an alternate universe, I'll see it as a challenge to hustle harder and be the man she will always be proud of. Only insecure men go about hating on their wife's better income. Only lazy men will sit at home and wait for madam to pick family bills. I'm none of those.

My humble submission.

Funny enough, this is exactly what Islam and the sharia says, her money is her money, she can't choose to help out but if she doesn't want to..she's right and there is nothing Alhaji can do about it

Rehil: the so call feminist r just tryin to displace the natural order that God had arranged things.the day a woman considers herself as equal to her husband that day she is pronoucing judgement on herself.may God help us.

You're just too balanced in your comments... I envy your level of understanding... Please do you have a twin sister, or cousin or any female specie that threads the same mindset with you?.. Abeg I want oo.. If you have none, Can I marry your daughter?..

RaphaellaDD:

You're not from this world oh thumbs up.

So as pretty as you are.... You're a wrestling fan ehn

1one:

So as pretty as you are.... You're a wrestling fan ehn

Yes oh is it a bad thing?

RaphaellaDD:

Yes oh is it a bad thing?

Ehn now.. See how fine you are, and you wouldn't want someone to spoil that face when you call them for mock Wrestlemania... Ehn would you? Because after watching John Cena vs Chris Jericho (hope I got the name right) You would want to practice the moves with someone

1one:

Ehn now.. See how fine you are, and you wouldn't want someone to spoil that face when you call them for mock Wrestlemania... Ehn would you? Because after watching John Cena vs Chris Jericho (hope I got the name right) You would want to practice the moves with someone

Hehehe I used to practice with my sisters, until they made me sprain my thumb. Now I listen to the 'do not try this at home' warning.

RaphaellaDD:



Hehehe I used to practice with my sisters, until they made me sprain my thumb.Now I listen to the 'do not try this at home' warning.

So I was unconsciously being psychic sef... It's a good thing it's just your thumb, not your nose.. I like your nose . It reminds me of something

1one:

You're just too balanced in your comments... I envy your level of understanding... Please do you have a twin sister, or cousin or any female specie that threads the same mindset with you?.. Abeg I want oo.. If you have none, Can I marry your daughter?..

hahahahaha tanx.i wil giv u my 5yrs old daughter

Ever since my wife started earning more than me, she keeps telling me she will give me her "final answer" whenever we have any little misunderstanding. I'm still wondering what that means.

Rehil: hahahahaha tanx.i wil giv u my 5yrs old daughter

I will wait... She just needs 13yrs more to be eligible.. And I'll be in my 40's then.. The patient dog they say...

1one:



So I was unconsciously being psychic sef... It's a good thing it's just your thumb, not your nose.. I like your nose . It reminds me of something

Abeg leave my puff puff nose for me oh

RaphaellaDD:

Abeg leave my puff puff nose for me oh

You mean your gala nose

I can just imagine having that nose with Yoghurt

1one:

You mean your gala nose

I can just imagine having that nose with Yoghurt

gala? I don't blame you oh.

1one:

I will wait... She just needs 13yrs more to be eligible.. And I'll be in my 40's then.. The patient dog they say...

blood of Jesus!!hahahahaha

RaphaellaDD:



gala? I don't blame you oh.

Ehen now.. Between Gala and puff puff, which one better pass, gala is packaged, protected from flies, puff puff on the hand is.. Well you know . So which would you rather have your nose typify?.. Gala or puff puff

Rehil: blood of Jesus!!hahahahaha

Jesus is Lord

1one:

Ehen now.. Between Gala and puff puff, which one better pass, gala is packaged, protected from flies, puff puff on the hand is.. Well you know . So which would you rather have your nose typify?.. Gala or puff puff

........neither one of them. In short, my nose is my nose.

RaphaellaDD:


........neither one of them. In short, my nose is my nose.

SStoneCCold: Ever since my wife started earning more than me, she keeps telling me she will give me her "final answer" whenever we have any little misunderstanding. I'm still wondering what that means.

But if wasn't earning than you and she tells you the same thing would you still be wondering what it means? or what would you have attributed it to?


Apart from the fear that the woman will no longer be submissive when she starts earning than the husband, the other problem is THE MAN. Every little thing that happens in the house will be seen as a result of the woman's high earnings. If she tells her hubby one day that she is tired and can't cook, the husband will say it's not her fault since she is making more money. If they are having an argument on what to do with some money and the husband's suggestion is not taken, he will say it is because she is the one making more money. Somethings that will happen normally and they would have settled amicably will be tied to the woman acting up because she is earning more money. Some women start working on egg shells once they start earning more than their husbands because they won't be able to be their real selves any more. They have to be pretending and over conscious of everything they do or say.

Also some men that have not been fair to their wives when they were the ones making money will be afraid that it's going to be pay back time...because it will only take the grace of God for such woman not to pay back. Some men can oppress their wives with their money, they know the kind of satisfaction they derive from knowing that their wives can't do much without them. Imagine a man who believe that the only way to punish his wife when he is offended is to stop dropping money at home for things to be done until the woman begs and begs and begs and now all of a sudden, his money is no longer relevant in the house. Its just as if you have stripped him of ALL HIS POWER/AUTHORITY and the same men will be afraid of same treatment.

The same way MONEY POWER intoxicate MEN, it can/will also intoxicate WOMEN too. They are just human beings.
A once HUMBLE POOR MAN can/may/will turn to a PROUD RICH MAN overnight. why?

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Rehil: It all boils down to d couples.i know that we are one,so wat belongs to me belong to him.he is the head of the family no matter what.God has placed him n not man who am i to question my God?i use to earn more than my husband some years back but i made sure i always present the money to him as our money.Presently i am not working,he collects his salary,brings it home n says its our salary.honestly dia shouldnt be division in d family as to who earns more,what d woman has belongs to d man n vice versa.u can earn millions more than ur husband but without his blessing and unity in the home u may never see the usefulness of such money.

one word undastanding.....

jaybee3:

Funny how you failed to spot an unhealthy "competitive spirit" in his submission.

Would he eventually get frustrated if he isn't able to par or rise above the income of the wife?
Would that eventually lead to some sort of jealousy in the long run?

Funny how women fail to analyse the important aspects when choosing a life partner

LOL!

Very very true

That dude will make his wife's life miserable if she earns more for a long period of time

Human beings have the nack of seeing what they want to see and hearing what they want to hear

Godmystrength:
But if wasn't earning than you and she tells you the same thing would you still be wondering what it means? or what would you have attributed it to?


Apart from the fear that the woman will no longer be submissive when she starts earning than the husband, the other problem is THE MAN. Every little thing that happens in the house will be seen as a result of the woman's high earnings. If she tells her hubby one day that she is tired and can't cook, the husband will say it's not her fault since she is making more money. If they are having an argument on what to do with some money and the husband's suggestion is not taken, he will say it is because she is the one making more money. Somethings that will happen normally and they would have settled amicably will be tied to the woman acting up because she is earning more money. Some women start working on egg shells once they start earning more than their husbands because they won't be able to be their real selves any more. They have to be pretending and over conscious of everything they do or say.

Also some men that have not been fair to their wives when they were the ones making money will be afraid that it's going to be pay back time...because it will only take the grace of God for such woman not to pay back. Some men can oppress their wives with their money, they know the kind of satisfaction they derive from knowing that their wives can't do much without them. Imagine a man who believe that the only way to punish his wife when he is offended is to stop dropping money at home for things to be done until the woman begs and begs and begs and now all of a sudden, his money is no longer relevant in the house. Its just as if you have stripped him of ALL HIS POWER/AUTHORITY and the same men will be afraid of same treatment.

The same way MONEY POWER intoxicate MEN, it can/will also intoxicate WOMEN too. They are just human beings.
A once HUMBLE POOR MAN can/may/will turn to a PROUD RICH MAN overnight. why?

I just had to quote you

Honestly, the major problem are the men. Imagine someone saying he will become a slave by taking his kids to school and doing chores at home

Some of them maltreated their wives and are afraid of pay back when the wife makes it. A lot of them has tied headship to earning power and so start to misinterprete all actions

Instead of them to be happy and let life continue

I wonder why some men see everything as a competition and ego contest.

Nigerian wives, pele.