The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make
With Men- And What To Do About It,

Here Are The Top Reasons Why Women Cheat Themselves
Out Of Living The Love Life Of They're Dreams- And
How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them,


Mistake #1) Betting Your Love-Life On His "Potential"

Do you know any women who want the man
they're dating to behave differently?

Of course you do.

And just like me, I'm sure you have friends
who date guys who don't have much going for them
or who don't treat them very well.

Somehow these women always have an excuse
for the guy's shortcomings.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple.

Women (and men) don't base their choices of
men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them
day-to-day.

Women choose the men they do because they
feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Some women will continue to put up with a
guy that doesn't treat them very well.

Sometimes for months or years,

But why in the world would a woman do that!?

Well, to put it simply, they confuse the
strong attraction they feel for the guy with
a deeper "connection".

Women who do this are doomed to end up
in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.

How do I know?

Because I've seen it at least a hundred
times,

And because I've been this guy in the past
myself.

Thinking back on past dating and relationships
I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.

I'm amazed the women put up with me.

But they did, all the while hoping that
I would somehow change.

The women I dated hoped I'd change.

The only thing they saw in me that led
them to want to keep me around was the "potential"
they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate
with them.

The potential for something better and
the potential for me to change and be a better
lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever,

The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these
things at the time.

And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place
in my life where I knew how to or was interested
in developing a deep and committed relationship -
with ANYONE.

But deep down these women believed that if
they tried hard enough, that it would make up
for what was lacking.

They believed that I could become someone else
with them, and that this would be easy for us
both.

Talk about a losing battle.

I doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense,

But until you accept that lots of women do
this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level,
you'll NEVER have the success with men that you
choose and want.


Mistake #2) Assuming You "Get" Men & Their Psychology

Men are different from women.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly
pick apart certain things about his style, body
language, status and character that will tell her
all kinds of things about him.

Lot's of women don't even consciously see that
they do this because the process is so obvious and
simple for them.

But does the same apply for men?

As you probably already know, men are generally
more visual.

As a result, they often don't understand
non-verbal communication as well as women.

And men often lack what women have in emotional
awareness and "intuition".

Women don't seem to remember this about men.

So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men
based just on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for years now,
and talking to thousands of men and women, I can
tell you that men have their "attraction mechanisms"
triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Especially when it comes to longer term
relationships.

Looks just happen to be the most obvious way,

But looks are NOT the most powerful.

If you know how to use your body language AND
communication correctly, you can make men feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great
looking guy that you got to know.

But it's not an accident.

You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY woman can learn how,


Mistake #3) Pretending To Be Something For A Man

In the desire to please a man, women are
constantly doing things to get a man's attention,
to get him to like them or to make him more
attracted or in love with them.

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Lots of women mistakenly think that doing
unusual things to try and get a guys attention
will make him magically see what a great catch
they are and want to be with them.

Wrong.

Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to
the types of women who kiss up to them, make
weak plays for affection or complain to get
what they want, EVER.

Don't get me wrong here. Things like being
sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his
feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine,
unselfish, and most of all timely.

You don't have to act like an "easy" woman
for men to like you, and you certainly don't have
to play like he's some gift to the Earth.

Doing these things actually works to subtly,
at an subconscious level, lower your social status
with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how
he sees you as a woman.

So if you think that making him more attracted
to you means "playing to the man's fantasies" from
the start, think again.

You'll never succeed by looking for a man's
approval, finding your way into his heart through
sex and not being yourself.


Mistake #4) Sharing How You "Feel" Too Early With Him

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that
most women make with men is sharing how they
"feel" too early on.

Listen,

Attractive, single, successful men are rare.

They get a LOT of attention from women.

Most women don't realize this, but attractive men
are being approached in one way or another all the
time by women.

And guess what?

Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive men off
and sends him running away faster than just about
anything,

It's a woman who starts saying "You know, I really,
REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the man that you're just like
one of those "clingy" stereotype women who want
to rush into a relationship and can't control
yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and
complete their lives.

This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way,


Mistake #5) Misreading The Important "Signals" That Men Send

Men are constantly communicating how they
feel about a woman and giving away big secrets
about themselves.

Most women don't pay attention to these
signals or recognize them for what they really
are.

The signals men send have 4 main levels:

1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life -
stability, confidence, direction

2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally
available"

3) Physical: If he's attracted to you and for
what reasons

4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing
a relationship in the future

The funny thing is that men send signals in
these areas completely on accident.

That's great news to women,

Men can't help it!

You need to learn to recognize these signals to
get anywhere with a man.



Mistake #6) Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge
A Man's Character

People aren't easy to figure out.

Especially the opposite sex.

The last several years of my life I've
spent hundreds of hours learning to understand
people.

I've studied peoples behavior, "inner
psychology" and more specifically how they
think and act when they're dating.

From what I've seen, both men and women
have their own secret ways of saying things.

But you can only see these secret
communications if you know what to look for.

Women communicate with hints, body
language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're
first getting to know a man.

They can either directly or indirectly
let men know if they're open to something
more serious.

Men are different.

Men generally communicate with sarcasm,
humor, cockyness and other "indirect" displays
of status.

Very rarely will a man be able to honestly
communicate to a woman whether or not he's
ready or capable of developing a meaningful
relationship.

Aside from their sexual interests, men
send very indirect signals about where they're
at.

If you don't know how to read through the
signals men send, then you'll get the wrong
message.

Getting the wrong messages from men causes
women more pain and heartache than any other
issue around.

You can avoid this pain if you learn to
indentify a good man from a bad one.



Mistake #7) Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy

A mistake I've seen women make is thinking
a guy will change her life and make her happy
and fulfilled.

And sure, there are situations and relationships
where this happens.

But those are the exceptions, not the rule.

Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than
hearing or sensing that a woman immediately
wants him to take care of her.

And the men who ARE looking for this kind
of situation aren't exactly the most healthy,
loving, nurturing people out there.

Think, "controlling, macho or serious Mom Issues!"

So let me be clear,

I think it's important that people help
fulfill each other in their lives, whether
it's dating, a relationship, etc.

But if a woman communicates that she's
looking for a guy to take care of her, complete
her, make her whole, and all that kind of
stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what
the man will think of her.

It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman
either,

If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man
will see it and pick up on it, regardless.

This is arguably the worst thing a woman
can do early on when dating a man.

So what can you do as a woman?

You can get the man interested and involved
in your life in a more "natural" way, where
he'll be motivated to make you care about your
happiness and fulfillment on his own.

This is the only way it really works for
people - male or female.

Self-motivation is much stronger than external
motivation.

But you have to know how to create this situation
with a man, and it rarely happens by accident.



Mistake # Trying To "Convince" Him To Like You Or Love You

What do most women do when they meet a man
that they REALLY like, but he's just not
that interested or isn't as serious?

Right! They try to "convince" the man to
feel differently.

Well, I have news for you,

YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN
IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, ever.

You cannot convince a man to feel differently
about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that by being
"reasonable" with him?

But we all do it.

Men are the worst at this by the way.

They're always complimenting women who
don't like them and buying them gifts.

Women like the behavior sometimes, but it
NEVER makes the woman like the man.

She might enjoy what she gets out of it,
but it doesn't change the way she FEELS
about him.

When a man just isn't interested, women
will try and chase, compliment, convince and
do their best to change his mind with logical
and rational approaches.

Bad idea. Another one that will never work.



Mistake #9) Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation

A man has a clear idea of what he wants from
a woman,

And I don't mean just sex.

I know, it might be hard to believe, but
if you're out on a date with a man, he already
has an idea of what he wants from you.

And if you don't know HOW to find this out,
and you just sit there looking at him and flirting,
or trying things you think will make him want you,
he won't help!

If you don't know what to do in each situation,
you'll probably screw it up, and LOSE EVERYTHING.



Mistake #10) Not Getting Help

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This mistake keeps women from EVER having
the kind of success and finding the kind of
man and relationship that they truly want.

I know, you don't like to make yourself
look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask
for help.

(c) Christian Carter

nice one

kai we do all dat

Most b*tches don't have time to make such mistakes because after we guys bang them, we just pay them off hehehehehe---he!

Just what is your problem with hookers iice?

Yeah, I have seen this before.

Raymand:

Most b*tches don't have time to make such mistakes because after we guys bang them, we just pay them off hehehehehe---he!

You mean you always have to pay for sex??ß
what a pity.

Not ALWAYS, most times i run through the open window after 'getting down' with the slot! heeeeeeeeeeehehe!

so lame.

Heeeeellllllo! girls it's a joke?! your s'posed to go 'ha ha'. *shakes head*

Whats the joke about not paying for a job done

Damn this is long , ill read it later

girl some one hurt you very bad that thing was laaang,how ever you are absolutly correct some times us ladies forget our worth and take the first idiot that comes along i should know i was alway after mrs tall dark and handsome now i look for love not looks,money or popularity just love and it is a great feel.


ladies in bad relationship tell that man to start walking

There is no amount of Advice,Techniques,methods or suggestion that will change the way Ladies Fall in Love , and there is no amount of Talk or Forum that will change the natural being have'nt notice it , THEY KEEP MAKING THESAME MISTAKES OVER AND OVER AGAIN .

that is so not tru
life is a great teacher and time is a great healer after going hell most women understands and change but i know deep down you are hoping that we do not

Coco29; i know say you don old , una !Leave that thang! the beautiful ones are yet to be born , is the same old game , there is only a change of Rule

bammidele:

i know say you don old , una !Leave that thang! the beautiful ones are yet to be born , is the same old game , there is only a change of Rule

hmm,

bammidele:

Coco29; i know say you don old , una !Leave that thang! the beautiful ones are yet to be born , is the same old game , there is only a change of Rule

old and ugly me??naah i am mature and elegant and i am working my ass off the teach the the new ones not to let men take the piss.