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Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Nobody: 6:50pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
plus_Queen: I don't know these people why should they be there It pisses me off. I just want a private and quiet ceremony, my mom , my dad that's all I guess I have to do a lot of fighting ~Sauron~:You know I'm right You are on your own. "" |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by plusQueen: 6:51pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
chika98: That's a new one So me that my husband paid only one naira,I'm just a dash dash? he sponsored the ceremony (which in my place is the 3rd visit) He bought the contents of the list. He sponsored a church wedding too Bride price is just a fraction of what the man does and the amount is negotiable in many places |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by biolabee(m): 6:51pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
chika98:thats sad, if it gets to the day that respect in a marriage is based on material concerns |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by chika98: 6:53pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
plus_Queen: I didn't mean that literally. This tradition came about for a good reason. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Sauron1: 6:54pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
stillwater: Partially!!
Start planning n plotting the escape. This would be posher than Prison Break. . . . Stilly Break. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by plusQueen: 6:55pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
biolabee: I doubt that statement from chika If a man looks down on a woman because he paid no bride price should she also be his posession because he paid? |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Nobody: 7:01pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
~Sauron~: I hope you're not poor. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Nobody: 7:02pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
Nobody says the pide price paid is all that matters. Its just a sign of respect to the family of the girl. Remember you don't just go and snatch a girl and run away. She belonged to a family before you came along. A family that cared for her and nutured her. Giving Bride Price dosent mean you are buying the girl, it means you are showing appreciation for all the years her family took care of her. I don't get this part, aren't the family supposed to be taking care of her anyway |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Nobody: 7:03pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
ibkaye: Very good point!!! |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Sauron1: 7:06pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
stillwater: Nah. . . . . .All i need is a PDA, Account number and a SWIFT code. I hope you are "seksy". |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by plusQueen: 7:07pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
chika98: But sadly the thing is being unfair to many young men who just want to marry the women they love. Some parents use this opportunity to fleece inlaws and that's wrong |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by plusQueen: 7:11pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
I don't know these people why should they be there It pisses me off. I just want a private and quiet ceremony, my mom , my dad that's all I guess I have to do a lot of fighting If you lived in Nigeria,my dear there is no quiet traditional wedding ceremony. Even your own parents won't agree to have their daughter married off nicodemously. And if you live here in the USA,money is still sent home to buy them their list even if at a later date. My grandmothers people were still mad that my husband did not complete their cartons of maltina. not my mothers village O the village where my mother's mother was born. Can you imagine? My mother had to buy the maltina and tell them the in law sent them then told us. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Nobody: 7:16pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
~Sauron~: Again I hope you're stinkingly rich. plus_Queen: Lol, yeah I know. Just proving James Bond here to console myself |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by BabyJinx: 7:17pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
How can a man. . . a NAIJA MAN-HUSBAND control his wife if he can't throw how much he got her for in her face?!! Tee hee hee. . . I am loving this topic. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Sauron1: 7:18pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
stillwater: Very!!! |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Nobody: 7:34pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
Be like me; Don't get married. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by biolabee(m): 7:43pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
plus_Queen: True respect in a marriage should be independent of monetary status of either of the partners |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by victorian(f): 8:54pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
A friend of mine got married to this cute , well to do guy and during paying of the bride price and other necessary things that follows , the guy was bled dry but he still went ahead to conclude the marriage ceremony . But do you know that my friend, cries most times saying that when she and her husband argues, he constantly tells her that her family sold her off to him like a slave, and what a shame, that they could sell their daughter to the highest bidder . She complains he's hardly loving, maybe sometimes when he strikes a good buisness deal then he can show love small but apart from that, he's now cold hearted , and no more loving like when they were dating. She lives in luxury but she's not happy |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by KarmaMod(f): 9:33pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
he gained the money back so why is he still crying? |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Okijajuju1(m): 10:41pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
Let me first of all state this. MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR KIDS, IF YOU NO WHOLE MONEY, REMAIN SINGLE. I remember a certain dude who came to my dad to chaperone him to his meet with the brides parents since my dad could speak the local dialect of the bride. After the meeting was over, the dude came back crying. He said he knew it was gonna be expensive but what he saw was insane. Virtually every relative you could think of had a list for the guy. The mum The Dad The Brothers The sisters Her age group (Umu ada) Her Mothers age group The family elders e.t.c And these lists included some bizzare requests such as; *wrappers (several yards, different designs, and they are all hollandis) *Creates of alcoholic beverages (Star, Guiness, Harp, Gulder, 33, Heineken, e.t.c) *Kolanuts *Lots of bottles of different alcoholic whiskeys and brandys (Moets, Schinapps, Hennessy, Vodka, e.t.c) *Lots of bags of rice *Several tubers of Yam *Goats *Cows *Many Jerrycans of palm oil *Dresses for the Parents and siblings of the bride. *Money for rites *Several Bunches of Plantain *Shoes, bags and hats (Normally for the parents) *Jewellries And the list goes on. And the interesting part is that the actual bride price is normally very small. Atimes between 15Naira -2000Naira. I cant shout. I am so glad I have three sisters, and heres my list; 1ST sis; An Airport 2nd Sis; A G5 Jet 3rd Sis; Bugatti Veron. Talk about Investment. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by BabyJinx: 10:57pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
LOL! Na wa for the man ooh. Why was he crying? I guess he is not aware of the secret rule of waiting until he marries her to dish her comeuppance or is he just tight-fisted? Kai! Those kinds of men are the worst. . . Want the chance to destroy a gal’s life without compensating her parents. Oya more stories please |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by omoge(f): 12:12am On Nov 04, 2008 |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by whatever90(f): 12:44am On Nov 04, 2008 |
Your brother was just trying to show off but spending big. Its not a requirement. If he dosent have the money to do those things, he'll still marry the girl. and here i was thinking i was chatting wt someone whos got brains what has showing off go to do with the fact that some of u igbos like fighting fights dat r very stupid? oh u think i dont have such laws in my home town,uju if u like argue from now till tomorrow,the fact still remains dat igbo and their cultures are thieves |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Nobody: 8:01am On Nov 04, 2008 |
whatever90: pot calling the kettle black about brains!! for someone who claims to have brains you're awfully small minded! The outrageous bride price is a TRADITION, one that wasn't rooted in thievery. In those days, a man was proud to pay it, because it showed his worthiness to marry their daughter. It has been abused, like unscrupulous elements in any other tribe would do had the tradition been theirs. Most of all, with enlightenment and changes in priorities, people are kicking against it. That's a very insultive statement. If you have any decency you should take it back and apologise |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by igwe11(m): 8:08am On Nov 04, 2008 |
whatever90:You better recant that statement b/4 i take it up on you!!!!!!! Is anything wrong with your brain.Were you forced and how could you say that? |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by whitelexi(m): 9:14am On Nov 04, 2008 |
Okija_juju: @Okija_Juju: Was the bride from Imo? because thats exactly what i'm talking about |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Exstar(f): 9:50am On Nov 04, 2008 |
rickky421: Are you that stingy? Who would bear your kids? ? |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Exstar(f): 9:52am On Nov 04, 2008 |
KarmaMod: I wonder o!!! |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by Exstar(f): 9:56am On Nov 04, 2008 |
Let's face the fact, really it's high time the igbo king and kingsmen come together and review this bride price thing, it's just too expensive, they should ''soft pedal'' a bit, Haba!!! |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by tamai(f): 9:58am On Nov 04, 2008 |
I think the amount paid as brideprice to an extent ,especially in the east where the prices are exorbitant depends on the family.yes,the list and demands made on the groom is fixed,but the immediate family has the final say. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by presido1: 10:00am On Nov 04, 2008 |
whitelexi:What are u on about, am from IMO too, itz not done that way in my area. The only place i know in Imo State where they spend alot to get married is MBAISE and i think they are highest in Igboland. At the same time they levy u according to your class cuz i have seen a typist that married an Mbaise gyl. @Danke 6 million? maybe in CFA or old Cedi. If its in Naira then he did the traditional wedding at the same time. "Weda" bride price or "wedan't" who wan marry go marry. |
Re: Outrageous Brideprice! by whitelexi(m): 10:05am On Nov 04, 2008 |
presido1: Bros, u have hit the nail on the head with that statement You must now add my email addy to your YIM cos we gats to yarn from now onwards. I dont accept anyhow so mention your name and i will add u. |
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