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| If You Were In My Shoes: by abbey10(m): 4:52pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
I dated this lady in school. She was the love of my life. Despite the fact that I've been having relationships before we started,I love this girl. We were in the same department and in final year. I started working after service and she went back to school. Her mom happened to be a secondary school principal and 'in charge' of the family. The father who happened to be a Professor who is not always around. In the family,the mother dictates everything and I mean everything. I heard about her impending wedding on my way from Lagos to Ibadan for her birthday. All I could do was turn back and called her on my reaching Lagos. That was 2003. I got married the same year. She contacted me some months ago and started telling me funny things. Obviously,she's having serious problems with the husband;bothering on battering,lack of care, drunkeness etc. She is not finding things easy! She sent this sms last week; [i]You know what? You're worth more than your weight in gold. I'm busy piecing my thesis 2geda and I said to myself it would be a lot easier for me to do if I'd been your wife but since my folly didn't allow me to be then I'd have to keep pushing myself (all alone) to progress in life. Thanks a lot for being there when you did, I already told her it's not worth it trying to revisit old issues. No point whatsoever fraternizing with her at this time. What would you have done if you were in my shoes, |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by Nobody: 4:56pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
And leave it at that. Don't get involved with her and her problems and destroy your life. Your reply was perfect. Leave it at that. She is trying to lure you back. Stay far, far, away. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by Nobody: 5:00pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
If you ask me, she’s not trying to revisit the old days. She’s juts trying to appreciate you for being nice to her when you were, having seen the other side of the coin. You are just being paranoid!! |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by iice(f): 5:54pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
Abegiii, what's done is done. You make do with what you have/get. People sef. It would have been easier if i had been your wife  warrahell? What if, what if? It's a done and past. No use dwelling on the past. You tell a guy thanks for everything not if this, if that.not a good day, can you tell?  |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by Nobody: 6:00pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
That is just the problem. People will decide to marry some1 else just some few periods to the wedding with their long time partners then after a couple of months or maybe years they start regreting their decisions. Since she chose to marry the other guy then she should stick to him for life, i just hope you are happy with yours? because of reasons like age not being on my side financial security family / peer pressure e.t.c some of us make everlasting mistakes in choosing a partner. My brother forget her and move on to build a happier marraige with ur wife. Goodluck |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by chika98: 6:06pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
She married who her mother wanted for her and now she has the guts to even contact you? I hope you know better. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by oleigh(m): 7:24pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
ol boy i'm having issues like dat too GOD dosent want u 2 marry her,just dont get distracted by her words. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by Shaz(f): 7:34pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
Y'all are married, it says as that. Simple. No need to go back into a relationship wif her. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by Gamine(f): 8:21pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
oh my i hate sad stories  please dude if yáll cant get a divorce leave the matter |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by igwe11(m): 8:33pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
Be careful broda, No fall for emotional blackmail. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by untainted: 9:13pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
@ poster are you sure you can handle the sob story? it's u i fear for not her. can u guarantee not getting emotionally involved? if u r strong enough i see no harm in helping her out. give useful advice through the phone. no face to face please. whatever u do, don't do what ur wife wouldn't DO |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by MsLurker(f): 9:21pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
In my opinion. What's in the past should stay there. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by virgie(f): 9:45pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
It is not even advisable to be platonic friends with her. Just keep her in your past ( where she rightly belongs). |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by Templa(m): 9:52pm On Nov 03, 2008 |
i won't call or text her back, i.e. i will ignore the message. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by abbey10(m): 12:37pm On Nov 04, 2008 |
Thanks all for your 'multi-dimensional' response. I made a decision b4 now to do just that. Regards. |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by PAKU1: 4:08pm On Nov 04, 2008 |
she's married u are so theres no piont tinkin of wht to do |
| Re: If You Were In My Shoes: by abbey10(m): 3:34pm On Jan 27, 2009 |
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