...am right back.
@ rosisi. Did any of your family members show up for the court marriage to act as witnesses. For me sha, getting married in secret is kind of childish. In the absence of parents, did your siblings show up? Or is it an 'Abuja arranged marriage'. Dowry nko? Your husband cant introduce you in his place as his wife which is very important. Both of you are not from the same village, town, state, geographical zone. Pls arrange for him to pay your dowry very soon. But it all depends on u sha. Cos Abuja marriage is risky.

berem: A word used in deceiving the lady and thinking all is well and giving her high hopes.

At this moment,I just pity the lady because the chances of her finally settlling with the dude is very slim. I am more bothered about her age cos she's not getting any younger.

My sister, we know the end of the story already.

This is simply wickedness.
Why do we treat our fellow humans this way? I may not be able to infer if he truly loves you, but sincerely, I don't think so. Like someone said, if he truly loves you, not even his parents can stop him, not this way at least.
May GOD help me never to treat someone like this. My dear, no matter what is said here including my thoughts, try and discern exactly what's happening.

@OP pls dont pay for any new apartment. You guys should go with what he can afford for now. Even the planned wedding should be as economical as possible. Sis be wise. I just hope this bobo is not playing you.

Chisos!some guys are wicked o.dis boy dnt love u.he is jst a parasite!i know u missed a lot of suitors bc of him.pray o

I think you should lie to him that you are pregnant and see his reaction. If he wants to marry you, he will want to keep the baby but if he is taking you for a ride...He will tell you he ain't ready. The age thingy is a really tricky situation ....
My two kobo advice