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Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Exjoker(m): 12:26am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Today's marriages face an unprecedented challenge . Never before has there been so much technology, which despite providing some benefits, threatens personal interaction and relationships. On the one hand, couples are able to communicate more often throughout the day and even when they are away. While hubby is at the supermarket, you can reach him to remind him to pick up the milk, writes April Masini, the relationship expert at AskApril.com , in an e-mail. And while you are in California on business, you can even see each other through video chats. At the same time, however, you can get lost in your text messages, communicate with others, and be in the same room with your spouse without even noticing because of the technological distractions all around you. Since your marriage is the most precious relationship you have, you need to protect it. So, here are Masini's marriage rules for the digital age: 1. No cell phones at dinner. When you and your spouse are lucky enough to dine together (which should happen as often as possible if not every night), then you should give each other your undivided attention. This means that you should shut off all your devices or remove them from your presence. "Cell phones may seem to be part of a dinner time place setting, along with the salad fork and butter knife, but it’s a good idea to take the cell phone off the table and turn it off while you’re eating together," writes Masini. Sit and talk to each other - face to face. Share the particulars of your day, some hopes for the future (even if it's just the weekend), and interact directly with one another. 2. Have an electronics-free bedroom. Ok, this is a tough one. Keeping all electronics out of the bedroom might seem impossible, especially if you like to watch TV before falling asleep. Maybe you can allow the TV and nothing else. Or you can bring in an iPad for movie viewing. But you should do your best to put a limit on the technology entering your bedroom and keep everything off when you're trying to get intimate. You should be able to have sex the old-fashioned way without the use of electronics. Actually touching each other is a great experience and one not to be missed if you know what I mean. 3. Beware the messages you send. You never leave a paper trail nowadays. Most people don't know what paper is. But you do leave a digital trail. Even if you delete messages or think that your cell phone or e- mailbox is super private, it's not, reminds Masini. She hears from people, who tracked their mate's messages, and didn't like what they saw. "You may be faithful to your spouse, but that photo you send your ex, that’s slightly flirty (or very flirty) will set off fireworks if and when it’s seen by someone you didn’t intend," adds Masini. "Think before you send." If it's something you would not want your spouse to see, then don't send it. Advertisement 4. Make time for physical contact. Some couples create a false sense of closeness because of technology. They think that they are in love or intimate because they message and video chat all the time. But they rarely, if ever, see each other in person. Granted, most married couples have spent some time face to face. But even those in long-distance marriages tend to have unique challenges when they finally get together in person. "When they do meet up in person, they realize all the 'holes' in the relationship that weren’t clear because technology doesn’t convey everything when it comes to human dynamics," writes Masini. "A message via prose or text is not fueled by non-verbal cues which can be instrumental in conveying feelings." Touching is magical, so get up, close, and personal as soon as you can. 5. Be mindful of Internet porn. The Internet has made porn super accessible to people. And you don't have to even be embarrassed because you can check out the naked ladies from the comfort of your living room. But wives tend to take it personally when they discover their husband watching porn. Masini warns that lots of men look at porn and it's no big deal. They are visual creatures seeking stimulation and nothing more. The problems arise if they are addicted to porn (their viewing gets in the way of their real life and relationships) or if they are soliciting real women with whom they have inappropriate relationships. That's another story and one that you must address. 6. Unplug once per week. If you can, shut off all technology for an entire day and just be with each other. If once a week is too often, then consider once a month or some other schedule that works for you. It will be a challenge at first, but the rewards will make it worth it. Just think about the conversation and all that kissing without a beep or a ring. 33 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by tomiobj(m): 3:04am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Lailai oooo. I'll just send d wife lack to her parents. Tech free room. Fym 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by CosmicSensation: 5:55am On Sep 27, 2014 |
This was close. My closest yet. I will get there. I shall get there! 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Adyrin(m): 5:56am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Yex Ooº° |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Nobody: 5:57am On Sep 27, 2014 |
correct |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by amtalkin(f): 5:57am On Sep 27, 2014 |
So many marriage advice. Yet the way couples divorce these days is jux too much! 13 Likes |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Tallesty1(m): 5:58am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Hmmmmmmm |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by kennyonthrone(m): 5:58am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Which one be digital marriage again eh OP?well me I still prefer my papa nd my mama type of marriage ..... 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by coolvitus(m): 5:59am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Well said and well taking |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by chidiebere2020(m): 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Nollywood ......... |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Nobody: 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Too much marriage advises all over the place... tell me something I don't already know. |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Adyrin(m): 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014 |
U̶̲̥̅̊ must be dreaming still CosmicSensation: . |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by onlymase(m): 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014 |
seriously! |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by CharlieMaria(m): 6:01am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Still reading 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by LMAyedun(m): 6:03am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Nice One |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by EbirichBen(m): 6:03am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Alright. What Else Do You Expect? |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by drkay(m): 6:03am On Sep 27, 2014 |
I need more of it, getting hooked soon. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by 9jahubcom(m): 6:08am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Kk |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by CosmicSensation: 6:10am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Adyrin: U̶̲̥̅̊ must be dreaming stilllol. Are u a learner? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by IYANGBALI: 6:11am On Sep 27, 2014 |
All dis copy and paste bullshiiit does not work here in Naija. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by leonard509(m): 6:13am On Sep 27, 2014 |
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by pabon(m): 6:14am On Sep 27, 2014 |
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by honour6(m): 6:16am On Sep 27, 2014 |
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Vstuffs(m): 6:17am On Sep 27, 2014 |
technology have it disadvantages and advantages in a family Advantages -communication Disadvantages -Some spent too much time online than with their family Get Video Tutorials on web development,Photoshop,wordpress etc http:// www.nairaland.com/1788943/get-complete-web-development-video |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by 9jahubcom(m): 6:19am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Ok |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Nobody: 6:20am On Sep 27, 2014 |
very true... Technology has spoilt a lot, I remember @ a point, I enjoyed chatting with my husband on phone than in reality... When he asks me 'what where you saying then on phone?' I will say 'iyaff forget' ...but all these marriage this, virgin that...e af doooo! This 'hustle' is real o |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by paul288yahoo(m): 6:24am On Sep 27, 2014 |
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by DesChyko: 6:26am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Nice piece. I really thought I was being unfair when I sometimes choose not to reply my wife's messages on facebook/whatsapp, although I tell her I don't always want to. I just don't feel it's appropriate, substituting these 'word messages' for 'looking into her eyes and listening to her voice as she tells me what she wants'. Digital is good, but it actually ruins moments in relationships. I hope baby sees that eventually. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by AMAKAVIOLA: 6:38am On Sep 27, 2014 |
#Endless list# continues |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by germainediva(f): 6:44am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Some women enjoy fone sex because of lack of sex from their cheating husband........if not 4 technology wetin dem4 do........African men r full of shit when it comes to marriage........technology has lessen d womans pain........ 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Missyetty(f): 6:48am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Yes oo, it is realy getin too much, diff tips day in day out [quote author=Valeree]Too much marriage advises all over the place... tell me something I don't already know.[quote] |
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by mzlizabelle(f): 6:48am On Sep 27, 2014 |
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