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Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by smartmom(f): 10:56am On Oct 20, 2014 |
I am perplexed by a parent's decision to plait a young boy's hair to school. I recently wondered till I got a close up on the said child in my kids primary school if it was a girl was being dressed as a boy ie maybe a tomboy, until my son told me he and his classmates asked him if he was a girl or a boy. The boy answered with a grin, 'I am a boy girl' Now I am wondering if the parents are being fair to that child. What is your opinion parents? |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 12:12pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
It's all in a bid to copy the whites When he turns out to be gay tomorrow,the same parents would start crying foul,saying village witches are at work We reap what we sow 3 Likes |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Tallesty1(m): 12:16pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta:They would say he was born that way. And blame God for creating him that way. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 12:26pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta: How does plaiting a boy hair turn him gay? You still need to learn a lot about hormornes and psychology. 2 Likes |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 12:30pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
FrancisTony:Oga Psycologist,Don't start what you cannot finish,read the story and stick to your own opinion,whatever I say or type is strictly my opinion...Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 12:33pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta: Lol! Okay. Can you answer this question? What would you say in a case of masculine male turning out to be gay while effiminate is straight. Or A female tomboy being straight while a pure feminine own being a lesbian? 2 Likes |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 12:38pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
FrancisTony:Open a thread and ask your question. Stop quoting me. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 12:40pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta: Sorry Ma. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:07pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
FrancisTony: Let's not derail. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:22pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta: hmmmmm. Na wa o |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:24pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
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Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:30pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta:Na only me waka come? 1 Like |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by destante(f): 1:33pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
In as much as I don't discriminate people by their orientation, it is the silliest thing for anyone or parent to push what is not on their kid. hian |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:34pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Three7Ty9:No o I dey your back |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:36pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta:reduce it please. I beg you in the name of whatever gods or creed you believe in. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:39pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Three7Ty9:My posts abi? I would sorry |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 1:39pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Odilafta: Danke |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by LordReed(m): 2:57pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Today's world can be a strange place. I remember growing up how my older cousins would paint my face, put clip on earrings on my ears and tie a head scarf on my head. We'd all laugh about how beautiful I looked. Same thing with some of my neighbours, we never had a feeling that our sexuality was in doubt. I was simply a boy wearing girly things. This days the hypersensitivity to what constitutes a person's sexuality must be seeping into kids and causing havoc. I pray such kids do not destroy themselves in the name of exploring sexuality. 2 Likes |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by HFOG(f): 3:14pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
LordReed:Amen and amen. Such pleasant memories when innocence & transparency wasn't scarce |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by LordReed(m): 4:02pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
HFOG: I tell you. Too much warped knowledge. 1 Like |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by smartmom(f): 5:27pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
LordReed: So true. Experimenting kids we even blame, how about experimenting parents? I just wonder. Because for this boy its a permanent thing o, not just a one off thing Messing up the poor boy's mind |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 5:43pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
destante: I agree with you. It's silly for parents to be dressing a male child like female and vice-versa. Again, dressing doesn't influence hormone. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by destante(f): 6:03pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
FrancisTony:No it doesn't, true. But it affects the child's psyche and identity. Bad honestly |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 6:14pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
destante: But, a male plaiting hair doesn't depict feminity like OP stated. It's more of a masculine characteristics except when he cross dress or putting on makeup. By the way, are we gonna classify footballers and musicians that plait hair as Sissy? 3 Likes |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by destante(f): 6:34pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
FrancisTony:did you read where the boy was asked to identify his gender and he responded "boy girl"? that innocent boy is already "cross dressing" his mind. Its beyond the braids thingy 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 6:58pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
destante: Oh I see! That's another form of gayism. Tranvestite. Lord have mercy. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by smartmom(f): 7:00pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
destante:he Spot on my dear. THAT is the whole point! Besides, it is not even fine trendy kind of braids or weaving o! and the boy does have effeminate looks to the boot. I thought he was a slight fair tomboyish girl till my kid corrected me.His school mates already see him as queer. I think it is unfair on the poor. 1 Like |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 7:18pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
smartmom: If the boy is effiminate, it's not his fault nau. I thought he was the one trying so hard to possess feminine characteristics. God created him that way or do you think the little kid deviated from being masculine? |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by smartmom(f): 7:22pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
FrancisTony: Its certainly NOT his fault but its the parent's fault to dress him up or play up on his looks. I do not blame the boy at all. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by smartmom(f): 7:27pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
My 1st son and last boy look alot like me meaning they may look ''pretty' to some people but I am never going to play up on that. Matter of fact, I watch out for any pervert who dares to prey on them. I may have wanted to have a daughter to dote on for a long time(eventually got a daughter though) but nothing will make me turn my boys into sissys |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by Nobody: 7:34pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
smartmom: Oh. I get. Even me, I grew up among my female cousins with no male(the male ones didn't mingle with me because they were already matured/old) and I was having a feminine characteristics in my mode of talking and walking. But, I was reminded that I'm not a female. I'd to do everything to stop acting like that because I always feel disgusted seeing a sissy. Lol! Today my voice doesn't sound a bit like female(it har masculine bazz). I stopped walking like them too, even though a slight movement can be found but not glaring. |
Re: Deciding A Child's Sexual Orientation? by smartmom(f): 7:36pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
FrancisTony: Thank God for your cousins then. |
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