WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never
asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps
enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could
be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a
woman like a mother to you, your children and your family,
please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the
kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we
had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that
was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t
look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s
face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-
charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it
when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if
it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has
been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body
is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that
means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind
of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children
because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are
hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman
closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother
could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but
remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each
other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making
more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never
knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman
that stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the
window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was
not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed,
there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me
before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that
won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy
your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are
ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you
to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if
a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house,
divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask
her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams
to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame
her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was
foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my
family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of
female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender
an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was
wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not
raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I
can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your
mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural
beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting
of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people
now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any
part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what
happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always
coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing
machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as
you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s
a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you
too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you
don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Written by a woman to make men do their bidding.

2good:
Written by a woman to make men do their bidding.

advocating a better world for themselves