Marriage is an institution that God Himself took time to organize after creating man. The beauty and joy of a good marriage cannot be quantified but can be known from its product and subsequently, several years after the union.



There are many reasons why lots of people desire to get married. These reasons could be due to societal influence, pressure, rising age or individual preference, or because it's cultural.



Getting married is good but marrying for the wrong reason is worse and would lead one to having a bad marriage.



Until you discover a genuine reason for marriage, you can never have a successful marriage. Following are the weird reasons why you must not marry.



1. Getting married to enjoy freedom


Running from household chores, parental scolding, discipline and monitoring are not a genuine reason for desiring marriage.



Let me bust your bubbles, do you know that much chores would arise when you marry? You also cannot live independently from your partner.



If you have more people staying with you, you'll cook, clean the house do laundries and the likes. It's not immediately you marry that you'd hire the service of a house help. I'm sure you're aware of the 'good' house helps have done to many marriages.



However, only a dead man needs not to be corrected or disciplined. Seeing that you're impeccable, there are areas where you'd get it wrong.



If your parent cannot correct you, definitely, your spouse would have problem doing so.



It's only a boy or girl that would run from responsibility. There are lots of responsibilities to cater for when you get married.



2. Desiring marriage for the love of it

Have you imagined how it looks like when you first had your new pair of shoes? Six months down the line, do you still have a craving for it?



Marriage is good but what's more important is having a good purpose for getting married. God didn't design marriage as an escape route from responsibilities. Or just because Adam desired it.



Marriage is not a Romeo and Juliet kind of affair. It's for companionship, partnership and creation of godly offsprings.



It takes commitment to stay true to your marital vows. Your love for marriage cannot sustain you but your commitment to making it work.



3. Getting married for the sake of sex


Yes! Some have weird reasons for marriage. Sex is inclusive!



Are you thinking of having it three times daily? Relax! That's not going to happen except you don't have a purpose beyond sex.



Marriage is more than having great sex or romance, it's got more to do with facing the demands and challenges of life.



Raising children, paying bills, meeting needs of your parents/dependent relatives, becoming up and doing in your career and finances and also striking out a balance between your purpose and marriage aren't an easy task.



There would be times when sex will not be in the picture. But facing the realities of life would be the main subject.



4. Getting married for the love of having children


Don't be scared, it is good to have children. Infact happy are those who have their quiver full of them, for they shall not be ashamed.



But the demands of nursing a child from cradle to toddler, to become a teenager and a responsible adult ain't a day job. Especially when they are more than two.



How about the financial implications, moral requirements, spiritual demands and development and the academic training of a child in this present economy?



It is better to be fully prepared for marriage than to go in there half-baked. When you're ready to face the challenges of life in marriage, then you're one reason close to getting married for the right reasons.



The problem of many children today is as a result of the half-baked parent that gave birth to them. Likes can only beget like.



It's more important to get your purpose known in life and pursue it before you desire a partner.




However, if acquiring great knowledge in bed is all you're acquiring before marriage, you'll make a nuisance out of your marriage. There's much to marriage than sex. Do the right thing!



When you have examined your reasons for marriage and it's genuine, then you can think, pray, plan and work towards it. Don't marry for any of the above-mentioned reasons otherwise, you'll tell your children a bad experience about marriage.



Remember, when your reasons to go into marriage aren't genuine, those reasons are enough to pull you out when the heat is much.



Now let me ask you, why did you want to get married? Share your opinions!


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