It has been said that “one of the most painful
things in life is to watch the person you love love
someone else”. While I agree with this, I don’t
totally agree with it as it is devoid of some facts
and reasons why it is painful. It is not because you
cannot have that person you love that is the most
painful (even though that hurts), the pain resides
in who the subject of your love decides to love and
the reason you think the person is in love.
Most times, we assume that we are the best
person for the person we are in love with or we
assume that that person cannot get a better deal
from someone else hence we tell ourselves that
no one else can love or care for that person the
way or even close to the way we do.
We assume that it is because that person has not
seen certain qualities about us and we dig in and
show qualities we think will attract that person
(yes we are vain like that) and we still go through
that pain of being rejected and desperation for
our fantacies to be fulfilled but the greatest shock
comes when we hear the person loves someone
else.
At this point, all our insecurities are exposed.
Jealousy, anger, disappointment, discontentment
and frustration comes with a sudden rush of
blood to the head. If this is where the news stops
for you, you are lucky. This is the point people call
the most painful thing about love. But imagine if
the person the subject of your live is your close
friend, maybe your sibling.
You think that’s painful right? It is obviously more
painful than being rejected. But imagine if the
person is someone you are “better” than. Your
student, your younger brother, your staff. Now
that is pain.
Even though you understand that there is little you
can do to change the situation, you will not admit
that you lost someone you love to someone you
are better that, you will rather turn into some sort
of monster. You sulk, you keep your anger and you
ignore your hurt. You try to push the pain away. If
the person is someone you consider better, you
might be willing to accept the pain; but someone
you are better than?
When it comes to love, one of the hardest things is
admitting that you lost the person you love to
someone you are better than.




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beware of obsession.

Hmmm! i concur

Wow! Dis made me remember some healed wounds

Ok bye!