Reaction vs. Response

Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on
her. I wondered if this was the cockroach’s response to all
the glory that was spoken about it! She started screaming
out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice,
she started doing jumping, with both her hands
desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her
reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got
cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed
to push the cockroach to another lady in the group. Now,
it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue
the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In
the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the
waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and
observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When
he was confident enough,
he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the
antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started
wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their
histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not
disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any
chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the
ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach
that disturbed the ladies.
I realized even in my case then , it is not the shouting of
my father or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability
to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that
disturbs me.
It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but
my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic
jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem
that hurts me.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life. I should always
respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are
always intellectual.

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Nice piece just sometimes we all lose our cool and forget to respond instead of react.

Nice.....lesson learnt.

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