have heard the question ‘are you married?’ more
than the birthday wishes I receive annually. At
first, I used to sheepishly answer ‘no oooo, not
yet’, then I continued to ‘very soon’. After a while,
I started claiming it by fire by force, claiming that
the man is on his way to meet me. All these
haven’t changed the fact that some years down
the line, I am still not married.
I have been in relationships that were good and
some bad. The good ones happened when I was
much younger and not ready to settle down; but
the bad ones have taught me the lesson of a
lifetime. My last one got me dishing out my
money on a regular basis. All he had to do was
come up with some story of being unable to carry
out some projects due to some financial
incapability. I was earning twice as much as he
earned, would take a cab to and from his place
on weekends. Sweet Lover Boy would just stand
by the cab and wave me bye when he was
leaving. I would cook his favourite dishes too; all
he had to do was say what he wanted to eat. All
these were with my very hard earned Naira. I
never missed a moment to surprise him – buying
gifts, calling him hourly- all because I wanted a
ring on my finger.
It eventually collapsed after I met his mum.
Because, seemingly for no reason, she did not like
me and found me not worthy of her son. It was
too late to count my losses. How can I forget? He
even lost his job mid-way into our 8 months
relationship and yes, the virtuous woman in
Proverbs 31 would have had to contest with me if
she had a face. I was fending for both son and
mother. Lover boy would always complain of B if
he got A and complain about D when I made sure
he eventually got B.
Before you start saying ‘maybe, you are not good
looking’, I dare say that if it was beauty that kept
a man, then Prince Charles would never have left
Diana. I am 5’7 and pretty. However, the men I
have met after my ‘tales in hell’ relationship are
either married or about to get married. That is
not a life I would want for myself. Before you also
say maybe you gave too much away by cooking
his meals or being generous or sympathetic, I say
to you ‘how can you please the world’ ?
The guy I dated before Sweet Lover Boy got me
something new every time we met, took me to
places I had only dreamed of, but I never got him
anything. At a point, he felt I was stingy. I never
called with my airtime despite his purchases of
same for me. When we eventually broke up, he
told me to my face that I did not love him. In
retrospect, I loved him, but I was with the
mindset that giving a man anything would
cheapen the reason of their existence. It hurt me
when we broke up and then I resolved to give and
give and give and give in my next relationship.
Almost all of my friends and colleagues are
married, and from the look of things, it seems like
a good place to be in. The ‘my husband’, ‘my
wife’ tales are good to listen to sometimes. To
love and be loved is the sweetest thing that could
ever happen to anyone. I desire that. In the
meantime, I am where I am, fasting and praying
for this man.
Like couples long for a child and ache at the sight
of toys or children parties, I long for an
engagement ring and to splatter my wedding
pictures on Facebook (whether high profile or
not), I long to gist others about ‘my husband did
this or said this’ (whether true or not).
Until he comes, I am here, focusing on other
things, moving my life forward, being a better
person every day. Technology has a bank for
sperm or eggs for couples experiencing infertility,
sadly, there isn’t any for men.
So, friends and colleagues, church members and
distant relatives, until you show me the market
where to buy one from, please stop asking me if I
am marrieD.

THE STIGMA AND PRESSURE ON SINGLE LADIES SHOULD STOP!!!!

OP.. Show me this lady... And I will fix her finger.. Tho.. I don't care what she makes....

Lobolintin:
OP.. Show me this lady... And I will fix her finger.. Tho.. I don't care what she makes....

heartless!!! :oo

I really feel sad for some ladies.

yes am here, if only u could pay d price.

The pressure on women to get married is too much in Nigerian society, as if there are marriage worthy men littered all over the streets. That's why lots of women fall prey to good for nothing guys all the time. The thing pain me sha

Hahahahahahahahahahaahaha....... na wa ooooooooooo

Any my useless gf is here fooling her spirit, may God punish her small for me.

Priceless24:
The pressure on women to get married is too much in Nigerian society, as if there are marriage worthy men littered all over the streets. That's why lots of women fall prey to good for nothing guys all the time. The thing pain me sha

hmmmmm..a women should not succumb to it na,they is great beauty in singleness.

dechandel:

With the way you are going with being single.
You wouldn't mind settling for less

what is this one saying set??

i'm comin let me read d tin

dechandel:

With the way you are going with being single.
You wouldn't mind settling for less

Exactly

No one is putting pressure on u.
Is what u want u go for either remain single or not.

Most time the ladies pay less attention to potential suitors with flimsy excuses, he is not my type, his ambition are too small I need a taller guy I need a rich guy, after chasing all the suitors away u start crying fowl d story the gods r tired of hearing putting d blame on an innocent old mother or grand mother expecting miracles to happen without any slightest thought that u caused the problem ursef, well in this 21st century things don't work that way.... define a relationship and get the best out of it