What a bloody Otondo!!!

*Hauwa*:

wow! you are a man i hope people like Adam will dig a hole and enter

i read your last post and i really commend you. may goodness and mercy follow you all the days of your life. may pickin plenty plenty come your way. may you and your wife know what happiness is with or without children when she comes back. may you both live with God's blessing each day. may you both know what old age is. may you come here next year or two years from now with good news of your own BBB or BBG, amen.

a lesson for all the ladies out there. . . keep your legs close up until he walks you down the aisle. a lesson for you guys, stop asking a girl to sleep with you when you are not married to her. stop stealing what's not yours. a lesson for the married ones, do not hide anything from your patner. so much lessons and i hope those with ears are hearing and the ones with eyes seeing and those with mind are reading.

Good luck and tons of it.

Adam I am glad to hear to hear you are on the up.
Sometimes we need to lose what we have, to know the value they bear to us.

God Bless, best of luck.

Hauwa; I can love you like that baby :-K

well u neva know wt u got
until its gone. every1 has their own
but you shouldnt let your anger control you
when u married her you made some vows i.e
"for better, for worse"
i advice you should track her down and ask her
for forgiveness and make it up to her!
if you both get with each other again treat her WELL!!!

According to 9feet,"he don do me"probably says your wife, thats why she wants to leave.you can only have her if and only if you are ready to change completely.just put yourself in father position,someone maltreate your daughter what would you have done.

If really you have realised your mistake. Ask for God's intervension, i believed he will put things back to normal. Good Luck!![flash=200,200][/flash]

in defence of adam,

Although Adam has a somewhat poor way of expressing his emmotions, he never the less is, and to me the root of his expression screams ANGER.
I dont know you but i believe you may have lost a child/children through this - your grief is really evident, and i geuss screaming and expressing
yourself the way you are is a right you have.

Adam says that when women get pregnant, they may do things to save their reputations or something like that anyways.

Could this be the truth? Why is a woman put under soooooooooo much pressure. This same gurl, if she had not committed the abortion, and
supposedly had a 5 year old son when she met this man, would he have touched her?

Which is better? A seemingly "fresh" girl who took care of her business or a mother of 2 trying to get married? In her defence, she could have
done it because nobody will touch her.

That said, and in defence of the baby, i am no judge and should never be, save if i walk a mile in a man's shoes. But God has different ways of
delivering lessons to us, and whats good wont always come easy, the loss of a child via these means is a great great great loss for the woman
in question (somehow she seems to get the hardest blow). But to the baby, rest in Gods arms of love.

To the couple: marriage is for better or worse. Sorry. Only reason for divorce the bible says is marital unfaithfulness, somehow, a marriage
wont end even after tons of adultery as we have it in today's society, but you want to end after no baby? I am not your judge, this is your
test, but be honest with yourself and God, its ok to be.

PeaceOut
Madam

forgiveness is so so difficult but we all have to learn how to forgive.There is no yardstick for measuring great or small sins.We all have our short comings and sorry or forgive me Lord is the only thing we say to God.why is it easy to crucify others.mind u,i married as a virgin so i'm not in support of wayward girls but pls my brother if u love her go 4 her and with the advice of your Doctor and God's help nothing is impossible

that just wasnt helpful

lol

You must be a stupid man, how can you maltreat your wife.

It's a difficult situation. You allowed yourself to be blind-folded initially, and made the lady to believe that you will stick with her forever. Now, the reality of life has dawn on you. You can know see that if love is BLIND, marriage is always an EYE-OPENER.
My advice to you at this point is: Leave the woman alone; take time to pray to God to forgive you of your sins; and at the same time asked God to reveal your true life partner to you. Never be in a hurry to get the new wife, lest you make a wrong choice again.
I guess others who are unmarried are learning from your case. Best of luck to you.

Joet:

It's a difficult situation. You allowed yourself to be blind-folded initially, and made the lady to believe that you will stick with her forever. Now, the reality of life has dawn on you. You can know see that if love is BLIND, marriage is always an EYE-OPENER.
My advice to you at this point is: Leave the woman alone; take time to pray to God to forgive you of your sins; and at the same time asked God to reveal your true life partner to you. Never be in a hurry to get the new wife, lest you make a wrong choice again. I guess others who are unmarried are learning from your case. Best of luck to you.

how did he make a wrong choice

Wrong choice because it is not wise for Nigerian who would like to be a father of child(ren) to accept to willingly marry such a lady who had had complicated abortion(s). Apart from damages that can occur to the lining of the womb which may render the woman infertile for life, some ladies may even lose their womb in the process. I just can't marry such a lady. I guess you wouldn't want to marry such a lady, too.

I will definitely put you in my prayers.

make sure that you do not want her back out of pity becuase you will be back to square one

gosh im so sorry but you really need to first calm down.think about yourself,your position and all i know u truly want her back,but if u dont adress the issue that made you traeat her that way,youll end up nowhere and alone.if u truly want her back and u r ready to find a solution to her problem together then i promise u that when u sit her down to talk to her,shell listen.its love we are talking about here she is probably feeling lost without u but u really should apologise to her for what u did.i truly hope she listens to u.its so sad that u have to pay for another mans recklesness

That is a sad story and you did what any one would have done and i admire the fact that you realize you went too far only that you did too late.Keep searchin and if you have the cash there r lots of treatments,it cost time and $$$$$ and best abroad.Its up to you.All the best.

You should never treat a woman like that. You fool she loved yu men. Daman

WoW!!! This is really touching but i think u shouldnt just be apologising for ur maltreatment (though that is important!!). U should also try passing across to your wife that though there is the probability of your not having kids together, there is also the probability of it being the other way and that whichever way it turns out, u are ready to stand by her and be continually there for her.

adam, you are a very terrible person. why wont u talk about those good for nothing guys that will never keep their cocks down but would rather look for an innocent girl to sing deceitful songs to, put her the family way and abandon her for the next victim. may god forgive all of u. now those girls that were once innocent have become agbaya to u abi!

OgaMadam, God bless you.

guy wot u hav to do know is that u hav to pray to god to tell u wot to do,also didi u really now wot did that for maybe is not your really wife that god says is going to be your wife till u enter into the grave my dear brother pray to god and worshpi him always. that is wot i have for u may god be with u in Jesus.
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Hmm! This is by far the most interesting topic on nairaland. Great stories told and all linked to the power of God. I believe that with the grace of God and your own effort, what belongs to you will come back. I honestly feel this is a test of your faith and i'm hoping you will come out tops. Don't give up! Jesus walks.

this is real hot soup

Joet:

Wrong choice because it is not wise for Nigerian who would like to be a father of child(ren) to accept to willingly marry such a lady who had had complicated abortion(s). Apart from damages that can occur to the lining of the womb which may render the woman infertile for life, some ladies may even lose their womb in the process. I just can't marry such a lady. I guess you wouldn't want to marry such a lady, too.

i still don't feel that the woman is a wrong choice simply because she is unable to have a child/children of her own
as we both know based on what the poster said:- his regretting ever maltreated his wife and therefore wants her back. anyways we are all different and therefore tend to have different views. so yes it fine by you not been able a marry a woman with no womb.
Thanks for that but i believe that nothing is in possible

You are a creep and I am glad that she left you.  Hopefully, she will meet a man that loves her and realizes that her past experiences have shaped her into the wonderful woman that she is today.

She was willing to love, marry and have children with the son of peasant farmers - talk about scraping the bottom of the bucket.  I don't care how much education you have now, that is what you are truly the product of, and she loved you anyway.  She continued to love you even while you mistreated her and only decided to end the marriage to allow you to move on with your life and your quest for the perfect woman and children.  I will pray a powerful prayer for this woman.

Your 'soon to be' ex wife was honest with you about her past.  How on earth was she to know about the damage to her lining.  Can you imagine how terrible of an experience it was for her to learn that this man used her and didn't love her and her unborn child?  Now she did all the right things followed the correct steps and she ends up finding out that you didn't love her either.

How many times did you sleep with her before you married her?  how many women have you slept with without being married to them?

There are many other ways to become a parent know adays,  you had viable sperm and she had healthy eggs,  you had alot of options,  ALOT!  There was even the possiblilty that SHE could have carried your biological child.

Two thumbs down to all of the MORONS here that showed any compassion towards you.

You are a FOOL!!!!!

I hope you find a fertile virgin woman with a perfect past to carry your child.  I hope that she controls your heart forever and you live a lifetime regretting what you did to your lovely wife!!!!!!!!!!!!

be real:

You are a creep and I am glad that she left you.  Hopefully, she will meet a man that loves her and realizes that her past experiences have shaped her into the wonderful woman that she is today.

She was willing to love, marry and have children with the son of peasant farmers - talk about scraping the bottom of the bucket.  I don't care how much education you have now, that is what you are truly the product of, and she loved you anyway.  She continued to love you even while you mistreated her and only decided to end the marriage to allow you to move on with your life and your quest for the perfect woman and children.  I will pray a powerful prayer for this woman.

Your 'soon to be' ex wife was honest with you about her past.  How on earth was she to know about the damage to her lining.  Can you imagine how terrible of an experience it was for her to learn that this man used her and didn't love her and her unborn child?  Now she did all the right things followed the correct steps and she ends up finding out that you didn't love her either.

How many times did you sleep with her before you married her?  how many women have you slept with without being married to them?

There are many other ways to become a parent know adays,  you had viable sperm and she had healthy eggs,  you had alot of options,  ALOT!  There was even the possiblilty that SHE could have carried your biological child.

Two thumbs down to all of the MORONS here that showed any compassion towards you.

You are a FOOL!!!!!

I hope you find a fertile virgin woman with a perfect past to carry your child.  I hope that she controls your heart forever and you live a lifetime regretting what you did to your lovely wife!!!!!!!!!!!!

gbam!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hmmmm, Lesson from this story? Nigeria should provide safer ways for Abortions. Geeez. What do the doctors do? Cut out the womb.

poor woman
pele

funny but weird, what else do you expect after maltreating a woman, she has to leave now