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How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by Highflyer3(m): 1:34pm On Dec 08, 2014
The following are some of the predictors:

A man who comes from a background in which his father abused his mother. A study found 80 to 85 per cent of men who physically abuse their wives saw their father abusing their mother.
A man who is verbally or emotionally abusive during courtship will be violent after marriage because then he may throw caution to the wind.
He has poor interpersonal and relational skills that leave him without friends. A person who has poor social skills often resort to violence to make his point. Such a man will be suspicious of a wife that mixes and relates well with people.
A man that has imbibed violence as his method of dealing with anger and stress. A person who can quarrel or fight at the slightest provocation lacks emotional control and marriage will be very challenging for such a person because the wife would not be an angel who is perfect.
A man who was abused as a child will nurture feelings of anger and inferiority and would be quick to read negative meanings to innocent acts of his wife; this can result in frequent fights.
A very jealous and defensive person will be violent because the wife cannot but have friends outside him and this can lead to charges of unfaithfulness that can degenerate in to physical fight.
A man that abused former partners will likely be abusive unless he has gone for counseling and therapy sessions.
A man who abuses alcohol or drugs will not always be in control of himself and so can get violent after a drinking binge.
A man that abuses pets has a violent disposition which he may visit on his spouse when he encounters tough situations.

10. A man who can be charming, manipulative and seductive when he needs something but hostile, nasty and mean when he does not succeed is a potential wife batterer.

11. A man from a culture where women are regarded as sex objects will be violent when he does not have his way sexually.

12. A man who goes in to a relationship with the mind of using the wife for financial leverage will turn violent if he fails to achieve his goal.

13. A man with a strong sense of inadequacy will be violent if his wife threatens to leave them.

14. Men who have never experienced real love cannot give what they do not have.

15. A man who experiences sudden and drastic mood changes can be temperamental and abusive when under stress.

16. A man who has a high rate of approval of violence and aggression as a means of settling scores would be a wife beater.

17. A man who always wants to control others will likely be a wife beater.

18. A man who is mentally unstable may turnout violent in marriage

19. A man who is ungodly and despises the Bible as the word of God has no checks on his life that would make him love and respect his wife.

20. A man who physically abused the partner during courtship will do so after marriage.


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Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by iamodenigbo1(m): 2:02pm On Dec 08, 2014
19 e kwa

Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by CzarRex: 2:33pm On Dec 08, 2014
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Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by avuekwe(f): 4:41pm On Dec 08, 2014
He has all these except no 2 which he exhibits in part by being emotionally abusive. I ran with my life intact. Wish 'some ' people will read and go for counseling and therapy.
Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by veave(f): 4:55pm On Dec 08, 2014
Hmmmn
Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by Mzgracie(f): 8:43pm On Dec 08, 2014
Hmmmm. Nice thread.
Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by lilmax(m): 9:53pm On Dec 08, 2014
Number 17 sums it up
Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by undercat: 10:42am On Dec 09, 2014
All muslims are potential wife beaters then. In fact everybody who isn't a christian is a potential wife beater. You try.
Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by Highflyer3(m): 12:28pm On Dec 09, 2014
undercat:
All muslims are potential wife beaters then. In fact everybody who isn't a christian is a potential wife beater. You try.
Where was that specified?
Re: How To Recognize A Potential Wife Abuser: 20 Traits by undercat: 2:50pm On Dec 09, 2014
Highflyer3:

Where was that specified?

Here is the offending paragraph:

Highflyer3:
19. A man who is ungodly and despises the Bible as the word of God has no checks on his life that would make him love and respect his wife.

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