ifyalways:
ROFL.
who resurrected this thread?

redprofile:
I’m not sure ethics has anything to do with whether or not you should spy on a cheating spouse. If your spouse is cheating, it’s my opinion that a person has to do what needs to be done to protect themselves. As long as your motives are not to get revenge on a cheating spouse or to use the information you find to cause problems for the other man/other woman, I see nothing unethical about spying.
Things to Consider Before Spying:

There are things you should take into consideration before you begin your quest to find out if your spouse is cheating. First, are you ready for the conflict that will occur when your spouse finds out you have been spying on him/her? You should expect your spouse to be upset, to accuse you of not trusting them and to deny their own actions in favor of trying to make you feel guilty for spying.

Secondly, certain forms of “spying” are illegal. There are state and federal laws that regulate the use of surveillance equipment, recording devices and Internet software. You should become familiar with your state’s laws before you go full steam ahead with any sort of covert spying behavior.


Reasons Why You Should Spy:

There are 4 important reasons you should find out if your spouse is cheating:
To protect yourself emotionally. Worry over that nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach can be emotionally draining. Find out for sure what is going on will enable you to stop worrying and start coping.

To protect your health. If your spouse is cheating there is a danger of sexually transmitted diseases. If your spouse is having an affair and not using protection, they are putting your health at risk. Protecting your health is ultimately your responsibility and the main reason you should try and discover the truth.

To protect yourself legally. If the infidelity means the end of your marriage some state divorce laws still allow it to be used as grounds for divorce. Even in states with no-fault divorce laws a judge can and may take into consideration the conduct of your spouse when determining spousal support.

To protect your self-esteem. Infidelity in a marriage can cause a person to doubt their worth, doubt their attractiveness and question whether or not they themselves are responsible for the infidelity. It is imperative that you stand up for yourself if you feel your spouse is cheating. The best way to do that is gather information and confront them about their unacceptable behavior.

ifyalways:
There is nothing legal or ethical about Spying jare.
Its a pity people claim to be married but YET can't trust their partners without some level of insecurity and "spying" springing up here and there.what happened to communication lines? lost or non- existing If there is fear in marriage,either from one party or both parties,all they need do is talk.Tell s/he your fears,watch his/her body language,watch his reaction,listen to what s/he has to say,open up your heart in a calm enviroment and think through your suspicion and ur partners defence line,look inwards and study your partner well.Before long you'd be faced with the hard truth which are:
You are simply paranoid/have your own insecurities.
Your partner is actually cheating.

I would rather talk about my fears than letting my fears torment me.

ifyalways:
There is nothing legal or ethical about Spying jare.
Its a pity people claim to be married but YET can't trust their partners without some level of insecurity and "spying" springing up here and there.what happened to communication lines? lost or non- existing If there is fear in marriage,either from one party or both parties,all they need do is talk.Tell s/he your fears,watch his/her body language,watch his reaction,listen to what s/he has to say,open up your heart in a calm
enviroment and think through your suspicion and ur partners defence line,look inwards and study your partner well.Before long you'd be faced with the hard truth which are:
You are simply paranoid/have your own insecurities.
Your partner is actually cheating.

I would rather talk about my fears than letting my fears torment me.

Fiscus105:
It's dangerous my brother.

Thr are things that shouldn't be investigated, at least for people to leave long and for peace to reign.


With what is happening now, 7/10 of married women have involved in extra marital relationship, either now or in the past.

For married men, we all know it has become norm from time immemorial.

chisomquee:
You bloody fool.

Shameless maggot who go sleeping around in disguise that her daughter is ill.

You dare call me empty, proud and arrogant (in directly) on the internet despite your foolish behaviours and lack of respect for your so call husband, and the guise that you are holy, Holy me foot.easy oo bross!

You are simply dragging the fight and i promise to make it messy than you think SLOT, i promise to display every evidence (pictures inclusive) i have and more for the veiwing pleasure of the whole Nairalanders.

I promise to make a headline of you, since choose to show case your family matters on the internet gives you joy and lots of happiness.

Dont forget to tell them how daft and a lazy type you can be.

How my pictures got missing, how you under the guise of your class rep have coded your stupid boy friends name sending and receiving SMS two weeks into your tricked marriage until the buble burst right on your face, how you have being sleeping with your so call husbands friend and lots more that i will reveal soon on the internet (with Pictorial evidence).

I promise to make a nonsense out of you

No matter what you do on the internet it will reach me in just a matter of time its not a threatneither its that am tracking you, but some how your foolishness will bring you out.

Try me!

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram 8!

Adewale1603:
2008 thread. What God can not do does not exist

redprofile:

Fiscus105:
It's dangerous my brother.

Thr are things that shouldn't be investigated, at least for people to leave long and for peace to reign.


With what is happening now, 7/10 of married women have involved in extra marital relationship, either now or in the past.

For married men, we all know it has become norm from time immemorial.

ifyalways:
There is nothing legal or ethical about Spying jare.
Its a pity people claim to be married but YET can't trust their partners without some level of insecurity and "spying" springing up here and there.what happened to communication lines? lost or non- existing If there is fear in marriage,either from one party or both parties,all they need do is talk.Tell s/he your fears,watch his/her body language,watch his reaction,listen to what s/he has to say,open up your heart in a calm enviroment and think through your suspicion and ur partners defence line,look inwards and study your partner well.Before long you'd be faced with the hard truth which are:
You are simply paranoid/have your own insecurities.
Your partner is actually cheating.

I would rather talk about my fears than letting my fears torment me.

OgbeniOptional:
What? People think I am crazy but i am definitely not. First thing first lower your expectations on any human being, your mother can Bleep u up, I strongly believe anything can happen and thats not the end of the world. I'm married and OK. I stick with one woman. I will never cheat, but I will never get mad if my wife is cheating. I won't even try to find out. Never underestimate your peace of mind. I value living and dying as peaceful as much as I can. There is nothing that has never happened in this world, you may just never hear about it. Any bloody thing can happen. Yes cheating may bring u diseases, but sex is not the only thing that brings diseases, two of my uncles in their late 40s
died of liver problem both never taste a beer or smoke, so anything can happen. Man or woman, do whatever make u happy so far you are not killing someone in silent. The day my wife start wonderiwhat kind of man is this is when I told her that when I tell u to do something very small. Please do it, I won't get mad if see a man on top of ya. Whatever u do, don't let it affect the running of this house. She named me a heartless man who People beings their problem to but as a man u have to develop a more than average thick skin. I have a father who never ask me for any despite the abundance but whenever I ask why u don't ask for this or that, he would tell me cuz I know you are doing a lot already with your mom and siblings. A man should try and be happy, do what u can, yes your partner might wander but believe me let them wander so far its not affecting home, they will always come back to their senses. I'm very patient, my wife is not really a cheating type but if happens. I wont notice cuz I just want to prepare better future for my kids. Life is too short. Just never show your weakness to any woman even your mother.