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Re: What Would You Do?? by naijaboiy: 1:01pm On Dec 19, 2014

iceberylin:
[size=20pt]şo yoųŗ ŗęāl ŋāme įş Jane [/size]

ŋo oŋę įş pęŗƒęçţ ţђo

I don laugh die

Re: What Would You Do?? by Ucheosefoh(m): 1:03pm On Dec 19, 2014

naijaboiy:
Is this a true story or nollywood ?

NNA menh I wonder when she don turn nollywood scriptwriter

Re: What Would You Do?? by bellong: 1:08pm On Dec 19, 2014

The marriage was consummated on deceit. That alone invalidates the union.

It is left with her to either divorce him or stay with him in hope for a miracle.

The suggestion given by him can only compound their problems as issues will arise in the future. And if they are religious, they will only add sin upon sin.

It is pertinent to note that Love does not lie nor is afraid of losing anything contrary to popular opinion.

If he truly loves her, he would have told her and allow her make her choice. What kind of love is the type that subjects your loved ones to life time horror and torture? It is insecurity and not love.

Re: What Would You Do?? by Dahjhi: 1:12pm On Dec 19, 2014

[size=14pt]THE SQUARE ROOT OF THE RELATIONSHIP IS[/size]

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Re: What Would You Do?? by crackhaus: 1:18pm On Dec 19, 2014

MizMyColi:
What can she do?

There's no need to kid around on this, sex is very important in any long term commitment (marriage) between a man and a woman.
I can't pretend to know how she would be feeling discovering this about her new husband, but the disappointment is certain.

She only can know what to do, but she has to be smart about it.
Outright divorce may just leave the dude feeling embarrassed because by the time people start asking him or the wife the reason behind their separation, he will always be put in a tight spot to either lie or say the truth - however, either one will still remind him of his erectile health problem.

She should decide what will work for her though - stay with him and get it elsewhere, or break it off and be free from him...this of course is if there are no medical solutions to the problem.

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Re: What Would You Do?? by chimerase2: 1:23pm On Dec 19, 2014

Mprex:

lol. What is a lie?

tell me u no gree for kingtom cry

Tell me u re not in luv with kingtom cry

Pls tell me amu dreaming cry

Re: What Would You Do?? by Cwaya(m): 4:02pm On Dec 19, 2014

MizMyColi:

Y'see, most pretend like they don't, but they'd rather avoid it than carry such stigma, if they can.[/font]

Hmmmm..

Re: What Would You Do?? by Mprex(f): 5:04pm On Dec 19, 2014

chimerase2:
tell me u no gree for kingtom
Tell me u re not in luv with kingtom
Pls tell me amu dreaming

hahaha

man of God, i dont understand this your tears oh!

Re: What Would You Do?? by chimerase2: 5:16pm On Dec 19, 2014

Mprex:

hahaha man of God, i dont understand this your tears oh!

kingtom wan ripe wia him no sow embarassed

Re: What Would You Do?? by Mprex(f): 5:24pm On Dec 19, 2014

chimerase2:
kingtom wan ripe wia him no sow

hahahaha. And where is that?

Re: What Would You Do?? by chimerase2: 5:31pm On Dec 19, 2014

Mprex:

hahahaha. And where is that?

Re: What Would You Do?? by Livingwalker(m): 5:32pm On Dec 19, 2014

In Man's opinion ===> Solution invalid
In God's Opinion ===> Solution Valid( So very Possible its not even tagged a problem)
so Op tell her to choose ye this day whom to get solution from ...Thank You

Re: What Would You Do?? by kuinny: 5:49pm On Dec 19, 2014

and if it were d fmale folk dat cant take in......there comes d question."who knows how many abortions she don commit" if u ax amadioha who im go ax

Re: What Would You Do?? by iceberylin(m): 6:10pm On Dec 19, 2014

BreezyRita:

See you. What happens to the man??
He didn't wish for this to happen na. Its not his fault.

wђāţ ђāppęŋş ţo ђįm įş ŋoŋę oƒ my bųşįŋęşş angry

Re: What Would You Do?? by KingTom(m): 7:25pm On Dec 19, 2014

chimerase2:
kingtom wan ripe wia him no sow

Re: What Would You Do?? by KingTom(m): 7:28pm On Dec 19, 2014

chimerase2:
tell me u no gree for kingtom
Tell me u re not in luv with kingtom
Pls tell me amu dreaming

She is in love with me grin

Re: What Would You Do?? by BreezyRita(f): 7:40pm On Dec 19, 2014

Ucheosefoh:
NNA menh I wonder when she don turn nollywood scriptwriter

Stop wondering.....
Naijaboiy, its no story. You should know I'm no fabulist na wink

Oua, both of you, now its been cleared, what would you advice them to do??

Re: What Would You Do?? by chimerase2: 7:41pm On Dec 19, 2014

KingTom:

wetin

Why u de squeeze face cheesy

Re: What Would You Do?? by KingTom(m): 7:41pm On Dec 19, 2014

chimerase2:
wetin
Why u de squeeze face

Re: What Would You Do?? by chimerase2: 7:42pm On Dec 19, 2014

KingTom:
She is in love with me

Re: What Would You Do?? by KingTom(m): 7:48pm On Dec 19, 2014

chimerase2:

Re: What Would You Do?? by Nobody: 7:52pm On Dec 19, 2014

The (main) problem I see here is the fact that he lied to her, but sometimes we lie outta love or the fear of missing out on a loved one.
S*x is very important in a marriage - true talk, but even @that...there is a point that very same s*x "could" become a very boring thing(in marriage).

Erectile dysfunction isn't the worst thing that can happen to a man, when a lot of emphasis is placed on a particular aspect of a marriage, a little absence/shortage of that stuff might bring the whole marriage crashing. That's why you see a couple looking for fruit of the womb turning to enemies because they didn't love themselves first before looking for kids.

Are his sperm cells healthy?
Can they produce kids, all other factors being constant? If yes, I think the issue of kids has been solved.

she should ask herself, if she had PCOS or some infertility issues, would she have told him b4 marriage?
What would she wish he did in such situation?

In all, it's her decision to make...there are various ways he could/can satisfy her.
They should weigh their options/possible solutions.

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Re: What Would You Do?? by Truckpusher(m): 7:55pm On Dec 19, 2014

This is why I'm hell bent on tasting and tasting very well before paying for anything and some people called me a caveman now wharris this? grin

Re: What Would You Do?? by Nobody: 6:30am On Dec 20, 2014

BreezyRita:

Please I need your honest opinion after you've read this. Soliciting for comments?? Lolest. No o!

What's the worst you have heard in life? Well, I thought this was bad. This story left me cringed.

Kk. Here goes;
Mr Felix and Jane got married not long ago. They dated for a while before marriage. In keeping with the faith, or supposedly so, they had a celibate relationship. Felix is tall and handsome, fits the description of every woman's 'dream man'. Plus he has a lucrative job also. But on the day they were declared man and wife, something happened.

After a very tiring and energy draining moment at the church and reception, the couple attempted to consummate their marriage. Every effort to start Mr. Felix's engine proved abortive. Jane was frustrated. At a point, they decided to let go, blaming it on fatigue. However, it dawned on Jane her situation when her husband could not rise to occasion the following day and all week. She couldn't believe it! In the second week, after lots of excuses, she demanded the truth. What she heard made her threaten to abandon the marriage. Barely a month after.
There's no need going to the hospital according to her husband.. He can't be helped... He knew it. Has tried.

Now, he's convincing his wife to stay with him but is saying she's free to go out with any man of her choice and to get pregnant too. Strange, isn't it??

How do you react to this? What would you do??

Kika23 MizmyColi please come

Engine fatigue? That isn't a prob, he should simply dail up a mechanic to come and fix the stuff cheesy

Personally, the onus is on the newly-wedded wife to act.

I believe so for two reasons:

1. She is the only one who has been lied to all the while.
2. The big reality is that there's no way the husband is going to give her kids.

All in all, it's within her reach to choose between happiness or sorrow - it has to be a pragmatic call, one that is bereft of external opinions and emotions.

If divorcing the dude sounds great to her, then she should make the call right away - I doubt if there's any lady out there who wants to put up with the lies of an impotent tall cutey.

If she wants to emulate Jesus by rendering forgiveness and entertaining hope, then by all means, let her make the call. Albeit people around her will doubt it, there's still a big chance of things turning out fine.

ED is usually treatable these days. However, it's important to first establish what the cause is. It occurs for a variety of reasons which includes both physical and psychological factors.

Commonsense measures will often help - for instance, cutting down on overwork, stress, alcohol or smoking, getting more sleep or stopping any medications which interfere with erection.

Ish like Viagra or even Spedra can still help breathe life into the dead engine cheesy

Then again, it's the call of the wife to make. The husband has little or nothing to say at all in this, he has lied enough.

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Re: What Would You Do?? by BreezyRita(f): 9:42pm On Dec 20, 2014

Truckpusher:
This is why I'm hell bent on tasting and tasting very well before paying for anything and some people called me a caveman now wharris this?

Re: What Would You Do?? by Truckpusher(m): 9:44pm On Dec 20, 2014

BreezyRita:

Re: What Would You Do?? by Nobody: 10:43pm On Dec 20, 2014

There is a good reason why intimacy gadgets are sold,if u love him and can have a marriage without kids ,expand your horizon.....use other means to satisfy both yourselves .........marriage isn't all about the p* and the d*

Even though he tricked you into it.....ask yourself is there more to him than that? Does he make you happy? Can he be trusted e.t.c if yes get vibs ,dils and have fun with them together

Re: What Would You Do?? by Nobody: 4:38am On Dec 25, 2014

Is it me or what? Why can't she just divorce him, sue him for damages and them move on with her life? undecided

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Re: What Would You Do?? by Kazrem(m): 6:21am On Dec 25, 2014

BreezyRita and others. I have one question to ask before I proceed. If it was the wife that has ED(don't know if it's possible), will the man be willing to stay in the marriage and having intercourse outside?

#1. No matter how long live a lie is, the truth will reveal one day. If the wife accept the husband's advice, one day the world will know and they will be put to shame that they tried to avoid.

#2. Don't you think this man MAY one day, maybe through the behavior of the wife of the brought in children, flare up ask the wife to take the children back to their father? Man is unpredictable.

#3. Aside the last point, do you think overtime, the marriage will last? O don't think so. Nothing built on lie last. Many more points in my mind to raise. But this is my candid advice.

#1. The wife should stay with him for 6 months of more looking for solution to the ED. If it persists, he should file for divorce. (See, Nothing new in this world. People divorce everyday)

#2. If she wants to go by his suggestion, it must be with the consent of a competent lawyer (I don't know if that is done in legal service) because of future.

Finally, marriage is meant to bring happiness, if there is no happiness in it..........hmmmmm I guess it's not marriage.

Re: What Would You Do?? by BreezyRita(f): 9:22pm On Dec 31, 2014

Kazrem:
BreezyRita and others. I have one question to ask before I proceed. If it was the wife that has ED(don't know if it's possible), will the man be willing to stay in the marriage and having intercourse outside?

#1. No matter how long live a lie is, the truth will reveal one day. If the wife accept the husband's advice, one day the world will know and they will be put to shame that they tried to avoid.

#2. Don't you think this man MAY one day, maybe through the behavior of the wife of the brought in children, flare up ask the wife to take the children back to their father? Man is unpredictable.

#3. Aside the last point, do you think overtime, the marriage will last? O don't think so. Nothing built on lie last. Many more points in my mind to raise. But this is my candid advice.

#1. The wife should stay with him for 6 months of more looking for solution to the ED. If it persists, he should file for divorce. (See, Nothing new in this world. People divorce everyday)

#2. If she wants to go by his suggestion, it must be with the consent of a competent lawyer (I don't know if that is done in legal service) because of future.

Finally, marriage is meant to bring happiness, if there is no happiness in it..........hmmmmm I guess it's not marriage.

You've said a lot.
#1. What if he gets healed? The issue would arise when she has children fathered by another man and he eventually gets back his errmm....

#2. Right. Man is unpredictable. I'm with you on this. Behavioural change or not, time they say changes a lot. He may get tired of just being there. Figurative husband/father.

I agree with your idea of a trial stuff too.
See how it'll go.
Well done.

Re: What Would You Do?? by Barezzi(m): 11:23pm On Jan 06, 2015

The marriage was contracted on lies...
Since it hasn't been consummated, it should be annulled.
Meaning the marriage was never contracted in the first place.
Is this not the classic definition of entrapment??

Re: What Would You Do?? by Nobody: 4:30am On Jan 07, 2015

MizMyColi:
Okay, first off, the man lied to her.
Their relationship was based on lies --- on wrong impressions.

Whatever she wants to do, whatever her actions, as long as they do not harm anyone in the process, I think it's justified.

I'd advise the woman to follow her inner feelings. She's in a best position to decide on what to do. No one is in her shoes at the moment. She knows better.

Yet, I'd advise her to stick around. What formed her relationship with the man, was it love or something vain? If she ever loved him to begin with, hard as it might be, she ought to forgive him and work with him to find a solution to the issue.

Let her talk to her creator.....to take all her woes, her tears, her hurts and make the best out of them, let her ask her creator to fill her with a spirit that is willing to forgive and forge ahead. LET HER DO HER BEST, and if nothing works.......she may seek out other ethically acceptable options.

Last I checked, this is Nigeria. No one likes being labeled a divorcee, especially our women.

Your advice is unrealisitic.
Your advice should have stopped where you said she only knows what to do.
This is reality and not some fairy tale movie or sort.
How many women can stick around nowadays even if the so called love like you mentioned ever existed.

This marriage except through immediate divine intervention will be ridden with frustrations, hurt, disrespect, if not adultery, pain amongst many others except they go their seperate ways. Now that is reality.

Your analogy will only work for a minuscle few. Few who are true christians which is totally lacking in recent times.

I must confess however that you seem a very smart person by some of your posts I come accross.

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