I've been dating since 2009 and I've not been able to stay in a relationship beyond one year. Its either I call it off or it just dies off naturally.

D wahala now be say, I am willing to break dis jinx but my present gf is not helping matas at all.

I always envy ppl dat I've been in relationships with a particular person from 3yrs and above. I always wonda how day do it.

So guys, let me learn from you, how do you guys stay in a relationship beyond one year? Is it dat easy or it requires a lot of work?

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The million dollar question

obongproff:
I've been dating since 2009 and I've not been able to stay in a relationship beyond one year. Its either I call it off or it just dies off naturally.

D wahala now be say, I am willing to break dis jinx but my present gf is not helping matas at all.

I always envy ppl dat I've been in relationships with a particular person from 3yrs and above. I always wonda how day do it.

So guys, let me learn from you, how do you guys stay in a relationship beyond one year? Is it dat easy or it requires a lot of work?

irishCream:

madam eh, which kind face be dis one na? Na shock abi na curiosity?

Get emotionally and physically attached...fight often and get back together all over.

it requires alot of hard work, patience, love and determination.
after 6months of dating, so many annoying and distasteful characters start becoming visible in your partner, you probably get to start hating her sef but with lot of patience, you will be able to absorb them and see the other side of it, and it gives you the energy or should I say the will to forgive
and when you are determined to love someone no matter what happens, that determination will be a force to drive you and to move you on even when the going gets tough. though, I'm not saying you should remain in a relationship that not only trips you but injure you, what I'm saying is, check yourself and the problem might be from you.
if you know what you want in life you will definitely find a way to get it but when you don't know, how would you even start searching

Be busy.
Do lots of stuffs together.
Then Let love making be magnificent.
Its all in ur mind bro, all in ur mind.

AfricanApple:
it requires alot of hard work, patience, love and determination.
after 6months of dating, so many annoying and distasteful characters start becoming visible in your partner, you probably get to start hating her sef but with lot of patience, you will be able to absorb them and see the other side of it, and it gives you the energy or should I say the will to forgive
and when you are determined to love someone no matter what happens, that determination will be a force to drive you and to move you on even when the going gets tough. though, I'm not saying you should remain in a relationship that not only trips you but injure you, what I'm saying is, check yourself and the problem might be from you.
if you know what you want in life you will definitely find a way to get it but when you don't know, how would you even start searching

interesting!

U make it sound so easy.

yomi007k:

Do lots of stuffs together.
Then Let love making be magnificent.

tanx bro. D " do lots of stuff together" part makes sense. But d love-making part is a tragedy.

obongproff:


madam eh, which kind face be dis one na? Na shock abi na curiosity?

Both

In one word tolerance

First of all

its all about determination. If u're determined to make it work, let her know what you want if she's really sensible she will help you realise your dreams

obongproff:


interesting!

U make it sound so easy.

I'm surprised you see it as something difficult to do, if you love someone, these things should come easily to you. everything you wanna do in life is a choice, you can choose to make it difficult or easy for yourself.

now that you are thinking its difficult I don't think you are ready to keep a long term relationship

AfricanApple:
I'm surprised you see it as something difficult to do, if you love someone, these things should come easily to you. everything you wanna do in life is a choice, you can choose to make it difficult or easy for yourself.

now that you are thinking its difficult I don't think you are ready to keep a long term relationship

Wot if ur dealing with someone dat is rigid, argumentative and difficult? How do u cope?

irishCream:


Both

madam, its complicated

obongproff:


Wot if ur dealing with someone dat is rigid, argumentative and difficult? How do u cope?

I told you before: patience and determination. patience would make it easy for you tolerate so many attitude.
determination will keep you going

moreover, you can't date 5people that has the same characters, you will surely meet one that has good characters. if you didn't meet anyone that has good characters then you are definitely the problem.

I know these things are not so easy like u stated but making the choice and having the mindset that its easy is an open ground for you

obongproff:


madam, its complicated

Include loadz of drama in ur next relationship. Argue, quarrel, visit plcs, work together, discuss etc. But do it with someone that's worth it.

Hw do dey do it...I stayed in one for close to two yrs in uni. Dunno Hw we lasted dat long sha

AfricanApple:
I told you before: patience and determination. patience would make it easy for you tolerate so many attitude.
determination will keep you going

moreover, you can't date 5people that has the same characters, you will surely meet one that has good characters. if you didn't meet anyone that has good characters then you are definitely the problem.

I know these things are not so easy like u stated but making the choice and having the mindset that its easy is an open ground for you

okay, before now I used to have a patience problem. Am not very patient with ladies, dia stupid mood swings, irrational behaviours, shallowness and all. Most of d problem were mine sha.

But den I finally meet someone I want to be with and she is just being unnecessarily stubborn and with the silly excuse dat 'dat's how she is'. Isn't it bullshitt dat I still have to complain abt everything I've complaining abt since January, and d chic in question doesn't even want to change. I've met a couple of chics sha but dis one is just too difficult for my liking. I see it as selfishness and disrespect for my feelings. If someone doesn't like sth, why shd u keep doing doing it over and over again, and den u say "dat's just how you are"? Dats so fuccken annoying.

Talking abt patience, I've stayed with her since november last year. Or do I need to be more patient. D usual me wd have called it off like 6 months. I keep having d urge to call it off but at d same time I feel so reluctant to do dat.

Basically, she is d most frustrating and d most difficult chic I eva dated.

#sighs#

obongproff:


tanx bro. D " do lots of stuff together" part makes sense. But d love-making part is a tragedy.

How is it a tragedy?

yomi007k:

How is it a tragedy?

Well, der are a couple of tins I dont like abt her, and d sex part is just d most frustrating. She is d most rigid I've met, has many irritations and issues I dont even undastand. Long story short, she hardly stays beyond 15mins and she NEVER EVER satisfies me. We are a total and complete mis-match in d bedroom.

obongproff:


Well, der are a couple of tins I dont like abt her, and d sex part is just d most frustrating. She is d most rigid I've met, has many irritations and issues I dont even undastand. Long story short, she hardly stays beyond 15mins and she NEVER EVER satisfies me. We are a total and complete mis-match in d bedroom.

Well, u don talk am finish.
I won't sugar-coat words for u, I believe u got ur on intuition. Just go with ur mind n be happy. Safe bro.

Same way you keep being good friends with anyone.

obongproff:


okay, before now I used to have a patience problem. Am not very patient with ladies, dia stupid mood swings, irrational behaviours, shallowness and all. Most of d problem were mine sha.

But den I finally meet someone I want to be with and she is just being unnecessarily stubborn and with the silly excuse dat 'dat's how she is'. Isn't it bullshitt dat I still have to complain abt everything I've complaining abt since January, and d chic in question doesn't even want to change. I've met a couple of chics sha but dis one is just too difficult for my liking. I see it as selfishness and disrespect for my feelings. If someone doesn't like sth, why shd u keep doing doing it over and over again, and den u say "dat's just how you are"? Dats so fuccken annoying.

Talking abt patience, I've stayed with her since november last year. Or do I need to be more patient. D usual me wd have called it off like 6 months. I keep having d urge to call it off but at d same time I feel so reluctant to do dat.

Basically, she is d most frustrating and d most difficult chic I eva dated.

#sighs#

I just read your other posts on this same girl and I wouldn't ask you to remain in a relationship that makes you sad. this is just for the future: if you have been complaining the same thing to someone who is unyielding, do thesame thing to them, let them feel the pains and make them know why u did it, sometimes it works

you have to really work on your patience, it could not only affect you intimately but generally, besides free yourself, courtship or dating is not a visa to heaven, give yourself some freedom while init

mk sure u no wat u want in a gal n wen u fynd d gal dat has it, try d undastnd n b patient n also tolerate n oda syds n also b d best u cn b..... Oda dan jst tryin to surpass ur 1yr jinx

AfricanApple:
I just read your other posts on this same girl and I wouldn't ask you to remain in a relationship that makes you sad. this is just for the future: if you have been complaining the same thing to someone who is unyielding, do thesame thing to them, let them feel the pains and make them know why u did it, sometimes it works

you have to really work on your patience, it could not only affect you intimately but generally, besides free yourself, courtship or dating is not a visa to heaven, give yourself some freedom while init

I tot u were just an apple, but der is more to dis africanapple dan meets d eye. So u sabi sth like dis?



well, I do hav little patience with ladies and I am also working on it. Tanx a lot.

Besides, which oda of my posts did u read abt her?

obongproff:
I've been dating since 2009 and I've not been able to stay in a relationship beyond one year. Its either I call it off or it just dies off naturally.

D wahala now be say, I am willing to break dis jinx but my present gf is not helping matas at all.

I always envy ppl dat I've been in relationships with a particular person from 3yrs and above. I always wonda how day do it.

So guys, let me learn from you, how do you guys stay in a relationship beyond one year? Is it dat easy or it requires a lot of work?

delete her from bbm and do calls only..

obongproff:


I tot u were just an apple, but der is more to dis africanapple dan meets d eye. So u sabi sth like dis?

I don't know anything o

well, I do hav little patience with ladies and I am also working on it. Tanx a lot.

you welcome

Besides, which oda of my posts did u read abt her?

obongproff:


Well, der are a couple of tins I dont like abt her, and d sex part is just d most frustrating. She is d most rigid I've met, has many irritations and issues I dont even undastand. Long story short, she hardly stays beyond 15mins and she NEVER EVER satisfies me. We are a total and complete mis-match in d bedroom.

Everything is in ur hands boss. U just have to sit urself down and ask urself what is dat thing dat I do constantly in any relationship that doesn't make make relationships to last. After u discover d probem then u ave already gotten 50 per cent of d solution. Dis firewood is not good u remove it, dat one also is not good u remove it, what u are cooking wen will it be ready after removing all d firewoods. Sit urself down, wat am I doing constantly dat is affecting my relationships, it could be anger, intolerance, pride etc. Sit ur self down and discover ur error then u can correct urself. Take a clue from relationships around u dat are waxing strong and learn from them.