How to Be a Sidechick

If you're a side chick who wants to keep up a
relationship with a guy who has a Main, then
you have to know the rules of the game. You
can't expect the relationship to be more than
what it is: a way for both of you to have a
good time and not worry about where the
relationship is going. The second you start to
question your status as a mistress or ask for
something more, all of the fun will be over. So
if you want to be a good side chick, you have
to stop stressing out and learn to have a good
time with your man -- and if you find that you
can't have fun, then you've gotta get out

1. Give him space. Don’t always be the
first to text him or seek him out. Give
him breathing room. He doesn't want to
have more than one wife/girlfriend/
significant other. He already has one of
those, and your job is to be something
different. You have to be fun, and not get
all up in his space. You have a right to do
your own thing just as much as he has a
right to do his. Go out with your girlfriends.
Have a good time. Don't worry about
checking in with him every five minutes or
he'll start to think you want something
more.

2. Keep things interesting. When he texts
you, keep the conversation interesting.
A side chick's main responsibility is to keep
things fun and exciting. Giving him short
answers and acting uninterested will make
him wish he was playing Words with
Friends instead -- or even just hanging out
with his Main. Tell him funny stories; ask
how he's feeling; surprise him. Do
whatever you've gotta do to keep things
exciting, as long as it feels natural.

3. Refrain from having “The Talk”. Having
the "What are we doing? Where is this
going?" talk will push him away. You have
to know your lane. You’re his side chick;
the end. Yeah, some side chicks do end up
as mains, but this is much more rare than
you may think. If your thing is all about
hooking up, then there's no need to
overwhelm your guy with serious
conversation. This will lead you to a time
out.

4. Go with the flow. There should never
be a reason to get into a
disagreement with him. That's the main's
responsibility. A side chick should always
be cool and should never be one who
stresses him out. You are his vacation, his
time off, his break from problems with the
Main. If you start bickering, criticizing him,
or complaining about everything you do
together, he'll start to wonder why he got
with you in the first place.

5. Don't ask questions. This should be a
no brainer. You can’t ask "Where were
you," "Why didn’t you call me," "Why are
you always so busy," "Why don’t you ever
see me," "Who were you on the phone with,"
etc., if you expect to keep the relationship
going. These are not side chick questions.
You got yourself into this situation, and
there's no point in acting jealous or
surprised when you already knew the score
getting into it.

6. Don't try to spend holidays or
birthdays with the guy. If he cares
enough, he might celebrate these events
with you the day after or before, but for the
most part, don’t expect anything like a gift
or acknowledgment. These days are saved
and reserved for the Mains, and it may be
safe to text him to wish him a happy New
Year/Christmas/birthday, but a phone call
should not be made. And as for Valentine's
Day, you can pretty much bet that he'll be
spending it with his main.

7. Let him get in touch with you first.
He's the one having the affair, so
unfortunately, he has to call the shots. If
he wants to get in touch with you, he'll
send you a text or he'll call you. If you try
to call or text him, then you could be
putting him in an awkward situation
because he may be with his main. This is
especially true at night; don't try to call or
text him late at night, or his Main may see
your phone message and things could get
ugly.

8. Always look your best. As a side
chick, always be on point. You're not
his girlfriend, and shouldn't be hanging out
with him in sneakers and sweats. If you
want to find a guy you can get comfortable
with, then you can look for a boyfriend. The
fact of the matter is that the guy will
expect you to look your best if you're his
side chick. Nobody said it was an easy job.

9. Let him think he’s the only one. You
don’t want him to think you get down
like this, even if you do. You're already a
side chick; you don’t want him to think
you’re seeing other guys, too. But if you
are seeing other guys, then so what? You
have every right to do what you want; he
didn't put a ring on your finger, did he?
Keep your Facebook clean. Don't let
him see lots of pictures of you with a
bunch of other guys.

10. Don't obsess over the Main.
Honestly, if you want to stay happy,
then ignorance is bliss, and you should
avoid researching the Main or thinking
about her too much. The more you know
about the Main -- what she looks like, what
she does for a living, what her name is --
the more annoyed you'll be about your man
seeing someone else. You may start getting
obsessed with the Main, overly jealous, and
getting into stalker mode, and that is just
not something you want for your sanity.
If you start bringing up the Main to
the guy, or asking questions about
her, he won't want to continue the
conversation.

11. Get out if you're not happy. Nobody
said being a side chick was the
easiest thing in the world. If you really like
the guy while knowing he's seeing someone
else and don't want things to get too
serious, then fine. However, it's hard to be
a side chick for long before you get fed up
with the situation and want something
more; if you're feeling upset and frustrated,
there's no need to fake being "cool" with
everything when you're not. It's simple. If
it's not for you, get out.

Source: m.wikihow.com/

Hmm,nice write up for em sidechicks.
Tho,the reason why someone'll wanna be a sidechick completely eludes me.

Incredible

really? all these?