lilmax:
I wonder what a woman will be doing from the age of 20-30,how can you chase happiness for 10yrs ,there's nothing like manipulation.set your goals right and things will flow

Valeree:
I think the op is right... as a single working class, I get the " when are you getting married question" left, right and center... like my life depended on it.. and it makes me uncomfortable sometimes.
I have also noticed that the questions comes more from guys too.

justwise:


No woman should settle for less in the name of marriage. You get married because you are In love with somebody and share things in common, you don't get married because the society wants you to.

In Nigeria we make women feel guilty and unwanted because they are not married at our own time and when they got married to a wrong man because of pressure from the society and the marriage ended in disaster we call them 'second-hand'

Let's allow people to make their choices at their own time and live with it.

justwise:


No woman should settle for less in the name of marriage. You get married because you are In love with somebody and share things in common, you don't get married because the society wants you to.

In Nigeria we make women feel guilty and unwanted because they are not married at our own time and when they got married to a wrong man because of pressure from the society and the marriage ended in disaster we call them 'second-hand'

Let's allow people to make their choices at their own time and live with it.

Gerrard59:




The problem with that is most Nigerian men don't like to see a single working class lady being successful at her given career.
We have persons who have been coaxed into marriage thinking with all things are possible and they will easily be happy. Men enter marriages and still sleep outside their matrimonial home.
Same men who forced, persuade, mock women into marriages would later come and vomit out that variety is the spice of life.

Like I have always been a saying, Marriage is not everything and marriage cannot be compulsory. Live your life the way you deem fit, as long as you're happy with your life, anybody else opinion can go to hell.

justwise:


No woman should settle for less in the name of marriage. You get married because you are In love with somebody and share things in common, you don't get married because the society wants you to.

In Nigeria we make women feel guilty and unwanted because they are not married at our own time and when they got married to a wrong man because of pressure from the society and the marriage ended in disaster we call them 'second-hand'

Let's allow people to make their choices at their own time and live with it.

freecocoa:
It's not a must to get married and anyone who allows another manipulate him/her into marriage should blame no one but themselves, simples.

lilmax:
how can they get married to the right person when they pick men like beans? And at the end they blame the society

carefreewannabe:
Nice one OP.

The best are the religious hypocrites who will cite the Bible to judge and condemn others forgetting these passages:

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged."



I remember one thread about Genevieve Nnaji. It was about a dress she wore. The ladies commented on the dress, and 80% of the MALE posters asked why she wasn't married, yet. Are men more desperate to get married?

Sophyrocks:

Thank you. Nice comment from a man with a working brain.

carefreewannabe:
Nice one OP.
I remember one thread about Genevieve Nnaji. It was about a dress she wore. The ladies commented on the dress, and 80% of the MALE posters asked why she wasn't married, yet. Are men more desperate to get married?

Arsenate:
kai, this lady sha. so basically, anyone who has an opinion contrary to yours does not have a working brain. lmao

justwise:


They have to pick so as to avoid ending up with a rotten beans addressed up as Prince Charming

italo:
Tobechi20, what we should be working towards is good stable marriages.

It is God's plan for continuing the human race.

So it is beneficial to the society at large. It is good for the upbringing of good children. It is good for the wellbeing of the spouses too.

The approach you have taken is one aimed at watering down the inestimable importance of marriage.

That is the work of the devil. That's why he and his agents are trying to force the rest of us to accept gay unions as marriage, legalize and promote abortion, pornographyy, casual premarital sex etc. The devil knows that all these will weaken the institution of marriage. And when marriage is weakened, society will fall apart. Humanity will be destroyed.

Women were more loved and respected when society took marriage more importantly. Since society started promoting all those vices above, women have been terribly disrespected. Sometimes they're even treated like animals whose worth are only in servicing the pleasures of men.

If you doubt look at our music videos. You see women shaking their bum bums and guys pouring champagne all over them and slapping them.

I dont even want to talk about the humiliating dehumanization of women in pornography.

No woman or man was designed to raise children alone. 95% of those single mothers and divorcees will still be preyed upon and used as guinea pigs to satisfy the sexual urges of other people's husbands. Husbands who will fight tooth and nail to safeguard the unity of their own proper families.

Do you know that it is scientifically proven that a woman carries the DNA of any man she has unprotected sex with for the rest of her life?

Think about the mental and spiritual consequences of this.

*I strongly condemn violence and unjust manipulation from men and women alike.

What I advocate is good, loving, stable and holy marriages for men and women.

elantraceey:
Nice one op


The pressure they put on ladies sometimes is too much , forgetting that marriage is not just a day affair.

lilmax:
tell that to the girls you see in church praying for husbands, well I stand on my opinion the moment they realize it's not about already made men the better for them

lomaxx:
Marriage is a choice. And if anybody feels they can stay happy unmarried, then they should stay that way. This country is a democratic country and the constitution affords everyone a freedom of choice. No one should choose to get married and come here to say they were manipulated. That's blatant rubbish!!!

lilmax:
I wonder what a woman will be doing from the age of 20-30,how can you chase happiness for 10yrs,there's nothing like manipulation.set your goals right and things will flow

Akranez:


Naah. Women are more desperate to get married..

Sophyrocks:


Oh yes!! They are. They are as desperate as the ladies. they only use Ego to cover up with a lot of other excuses so that it appears its just only women that are desperate. Otherwise, i dnt see any other reason why they have to constantly remind working class ladies with good carreers to go and marry. Maybe they fear ladies will with time not find them desirable hence the pressure. Its all because of fear.

Daddi:
God bless u dear. What I hate are those that mess things up and start blame game. Though there're human errors or unfortunate situations but they contribute just 5% to a person's situation.

carefreewannabe:


I don't see it that way. I think that it again depends on the individual and the circumstances the individual finds him- / herself in.

Akranez:


Well a woman attains maturity quite early as compared to men. A woman loses her capability to give birth somewhere at the age of 45yrs or so.
This means that, the older she gets, the lower her chances of finding someone to settle down with. So because of these things, women are more desperate to get married..
Just saying..

carefreewannabe:


These are definitely factors that some women are worried about and this is why I said that it depends on the individual and the circumstances.

Apart from the fact that the biological clock of a woman starts ticking earlier (even though people do not know that to become a father later in life bears some risks too), sometimes I think that a woman who earns enough to live an independent life gains less from a marriage than a man, I said SOMETIMES.

In the last years, I have observed that when an elderly man becomes a widower, he is sort of more desperate and "helpless" than when an elderly woman becomes a widow. I made these observations when I talked to different elderly people in hospitals who shared their life stories with me (you know elderly folks they talk a lot ), because I had a family member who spent a considerable time in hospital last year.

Akranez:


I feel you

TV01:
What is this foul-smelling hot mess early on a Saturday morning A tipper load of bovine scatology to ruin the weekend ! Thank God TV01 NL' Foremost marriage advocate and defender of delightful matrimony is at hand - it must be sanitation day !


"Good" husbands are scarce, and thinking like this is not helping the situation. Best prepare and start early for your matrimonial adventure


Nope, but long-term, the thoughts of the vast majority will turn to marriage - and indeed, society flourishes best that way. As above!


Nope, it's not a crime, it's a societal ill, and rightly stigmatised, it has no benefits over child-rearing in wedlock and has a cost to society.


Another societal ill, which should be avoided, and would be vastly reduced if my earlier advice were taken and applied.


There could be changes in approach that would improve things, but overall the emphasis on marriage is the right one.


Be as that may be, don't attack marriage, work to better prepare people for it


Anyone who cares about their family or friends will be concerned about their marital prospects and outlook when they are of age.


Inverted logic - which characterises this whole post - does refusal to abort cause single mothers?


Should divorce be lauded? Encouraged?? Celebrated Or even considered a good thing. Did you put any thought into this


Every one is responsible for their own choice - no one is forced to marry. And manipulation would all but disappear if my advice above is taken


Are single women forced to get pregnant? Are they best advised to have children without the presence of a committed father. Single mothers pursue marriage hard because of the burden of raising children alone, not the other way round. Honestly?


Very few women are cut out for long-term spinsterhood or men for bachelorhood. It's absolutely right that she is prepared and encouraged to marry.


If they are correctly prepared and don't do it for selfish reasons, divorce will be rare. Teach them to do it properly not reject whats best for them and society.


Yes, it's a mans world - and nothing is changing anytime soon. Despite the best efforts of purveyors of neo-ideologies. And why? Not least 'cos women want it that way !

Now please take this losers charter, this attack on the family, this outrage against society and shove it. It's foul and smellier than a 2buff stanky kitty-kat thread !

Are you married ? And if not, why not, don't you realise there's a best window of opportunity? that good spouses are scarce? That it's best to commit as soon as you are ready and have your children in wedlock? That all the best reception halls are booked until 2020? that... !


TV

lilmax:
I wonder what a woman will be doing from the age of 20-30,how can you chase happiness for 10yrs,there's nothing like manipulation.set your goals right and things will flow