Obinoscopy:
Your post in bold summarises everything I said. A good guy is every girl's dream husband while a good lady is every man's dream wife. Good husbands and good wives are scarce. However, the reason why getting a good husband is much more difficult than getting a wife is because most girls can't woo a guy even if they discovered he'll make a good husband.

Yes, I agree there are unrealistic expectations. I also agree that no one is perfect and that we can still marry someone despite his or her flaws. But my brother, there are some things that are "non-negotiably" needed before a guy or a lady can get married. Whether good guys/ladies are scarce or not, we must marry good guys/ladies. It's non-negotiable. Else, we will be wretched for the rest of our lifes.

carefreewannabe:


I don't understand.

Akranez:


I mean.. I get what you're saying..

carefreewannabe:


She will work on her career, make money, do an excellent job, take care of her elderly folks if needed, travel around the world, do charity, educate herself further ....

A good life for those who can and want to live it and often more interesting than being married.

lilmax:
so what you are saying is she has to do all these things before getting married? There is no excuse for late marriage

Valeree:
I think the op is right... as a single working class, I get the " when are you getting married question" left, right and center... like my life depended on it.. and it makes me uncomfortable sometimes.
I have also noticed that the questions comes more from guys too.

Valeree:
I think the op is right... as a single working class, I get the " when are you getting married question" left, right and center... like my life depended on it.. and it makes me uncomfortable sometimes.
I have also noticed that the questions comes more from guys too.

carefreewannabe:


I have become immune to this kind of questions, then I started joking about them, then they stopped.

elantraceey:
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Sophyrocks:


True. There are ways to answer people to stop them from asking silly questions.

keyzid:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME

carefreewannabe:


I discovered that it's fun and funny.

Sophyrocks:


You must have a good sense of humour to think so.

carefreewannabe:


Try it. Pull their legs.

Odunharry:

u sef dy book space?u book space cm forget to fill d land

Valeree:
I think the op is right... as a single working class, I get the " when are you getting married question" left, right and center... like my life depended on it.. and it makes me uncomfortable sometimes.
I have also noticed that the questions comes more from guys too.

Edusouls:
hahaha our mothers never found it so difficult to marry a man, they easily got married during their time,it wasnt a do or die affair,they didnt trap a man into marriage by getting pregnant for them they happily got married in the sense that men happily choose to be with these women, look at what happens with nowadays women, then u see that they have failed woefully, how can single girls marry,when their choice of dating is married or attached men with kids,keeping multiple boys and men friends from age 18, being very promiscous just to get money,dating anything that can give her money even monkeys or devils, all their woman values and dignity is lost to having i pad or bb,iphone,i pod, go ask ur mum was it how they lived there lives...

justwise:


No woman should settle for less in the name of marriage. You get married because you are In love with somebody and share things in common, you don't get married because the society wants you to.

In Nigeria we make women feel guilty and unwanted because they are not married at our own time and when they got married to a wrong man because of pressure from the society and the marriage ended in disaster we call them 'second-hand'

Let's allow people to make their choices at their own time and live with it.

Gerrard59:




The problem with that is most Nigerian men don't like to see a single working class lady being successful at her given career.
We have persons who have been coaxed into marriage thinking with all things are possible and they will easily be happy. Men enter marriages and still sleep outside their matrimonial home.
Same men who forced, persuade, mock women into marriages would later come and vomit out that variety is the spice of life.

Like I have always been a saying, Marriage is not everything and marriage cannot be compulsory. Live your life the way you deem fit, as long as you're happy with your life, anybody else opinion can go to hell.

lastpage: Marriage is a commitment, by TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PEOPLE, agreeing to live together, with the understanding that they are not perfect, will annoy each other, will fight, will disagree, will occasionally get frustrated with the other but come whatever may, will be open to "discussion and shifting-ground" for the purpose of reaching a compromise governed by the simple rule that "TOGETHER IS FOREVER" and "One person must blow cold, when the other is blowing hot".

There is not perfect marriage but the moment you both decide independently and individually that NO MATTER WHAT, WE WILL STICK TOGETHER AND RESOLVE OUR PROBLEM WITH LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER, THAT YOU ARE BETTER TOGETHER THAN SEPARATED,.....You will eventually mature to overcome your challenges.

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TV01:
What is this foul-smelling hot mess early on a Saturday morning A tipper load of bovine scatology to ruin the weekend ! Thank God TV01 NL' Foremost marriage advocate and defender of delightful matrimony is at hand - it must be sanitation day !


"Good" husbands are scarce, and thinking like this is not helping the situation. Best prepare and start early for your matrimonial adventure shame on u.... U r a disgrace to humanity, to hav dis kind of thinking.


Nope, but long-term, the thoughts of the vast majority will turn to marriage - and indeed, society flourishes best that way. As above!


Nope, it's not a crime, it's a societal ill, and rightly stigmatised, it has no benefits over child-rearing in wedlock and has a cost to society.


Another societal ill, which should be avoided, and would be vastly reduced if my earlier advice were taken and applied.


There could be changes in approach that would improve things, but overall the emphasis on marriage is the right one.


Be as that may be, don't attack marriage, work to better prepare people for it


Anyone who cares about their family or friends will be concerned about their marital prospects and outlook when they are of age.


Inverted logic - which characterises this whole post - does refusal to abort cause single mothers?


Should divorce be lauded? Encouraged?? Celebrated Or even considered a good thing. Did you put any thought into this


Every one is responsible for their own choice - no one is forced to marry. And manipulation would all but disappear if my advice above is taken


Are single women forced to get pregnant? Are they best advised to have children without the presence of a committed father. Single mothers pursue marriage hard because of the burden of raising children alone, not the other way round. Honestly?


Very few women are cut out for long-term spinsterhood or men for bachelorhood. It's absolutely right that she is prepared and encouraged to marry.


If they are correctly prepared and don't do it for selfish reasons, divorce will be rare. Teach them to do it properly not reject whats best for them and society.


Yes, it's a mans world - and nothing is changing anytime soon. Despite the best efforts of purveyors of neo-ideologies. And why? Not least 'cos women want it that way !

Now please take this losers charter, this attack on the family, this outrage against society and shove it. It's foul and smellier than a 2buff stanky kitty-kat thread !

Are you married ? And if not, why not, don't you realise there's a best window of opportunity? that good spouses are scarce? That it's best to commit as soon as you are ready and have your children in wedlock? That all the best reception halls are booked until 2020? that good caterers are scarce, that quality aso ebi, decent fuji bands and chauffeured limosines are becoming more expensive by the day, that... !


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