The fault finders

a husband and wife married to one will tell you how painful it is
The problem with the fault finder is that nothing you do is good enough
they do not have a standard that they weigh you against... no
all they do is make something wrong about you with twisted and probably poetic and appealing logic

I'll give you an example
the wife gains weight, and the fault finder says with such weight you'll waste money buying new clothes that fit
the wife looses weight, and the fault finder says as a woman is getting older she should concern herself with being a rallying point for the familly
and not how to compete with 19 yr old models

You see how wickedly unpleasent such people are
Its much easier when someone has a standard
for example, if the husband like a woman that is size 12 and can cook variety of meals
then the wife knows what to work towards and what she can get rebuked for if she steps outside the line


Sometimes I read through Dele Momodus page on Thisday.
Today i clicked on his page and shook my had trying hard to finish reading it
i have come to realise that although he's a good story teller he is ultimately a fault finder
one minute, he could be saying that the president should go on a tour around the country
the next minute if the president does this, Dele would be writing that the president should not be going on tours when the country is burning


as teenagers and youths, we pass through a stage in our life were we are influenced heavilly by outside fault-finding voices
as we grow older, we should not let these voices stir us. We should chart our courses ourselves