I am in my late 30s and i met the lady of my dreams early this year. The lady seemed to be into me, and then, the big question came. She asked for my age and then i told her. The moment i did, she freaked out.

She is in her late 20s and tolD me the age difference is too much for her to handle. I persuadeD her that it doesn't matter but she wasn't persuaded. As it were, I'm so worried cos i truly care about her.

Please advise me on how to win her heart. I'd appreciate mature response. Thank you.

Farano, please let it make frontpage . Thanks.

randsandnaira:
I am in my late 30s and i met the lady of my dreams early this year. The lady seemed to be into me, and then, the big question came. She asked for my age and then i told her. The moment i did, she freaked out.

She is in her late 20s and tolD me the age difference is too much for her to handle. I persuadeD her that it doesn't matter but she wasn't persuaded. As it were, I'm so worried cos i truly care about her.

Please advise me on how to win her heart. I'd appreciate mature response. Thank you.

Age ought not to be a barrier to love ,however the difference in a age does matter because there are things a person only gets to know with age ,which can make or mar the relationship

Some Relationships can have problems with no difference in age. Sometimes two people are content with a relationship like yours, I'd just encourage you to consider whether you two have similar interests and goals. This is important to discuss because she might want to have an active social life while you do not (or vice versa). Because you are in your late 30s, she might be feeling that you a little bit too old for her, but let her know that age is just a number, if she really loves you, she will be with you. Besides she never knew your age, when you guys first met, and she was really into you like you said. So the age thingy shouldn't be a problem for her.

Sometimes it matters if the age difference is too much. A 20yrs old lady dating 50yrs old man and vice versa.

Your case is okay. The age difference is btw 9-12yrs.

Just ask her why she is freaking out abt your age and then keep friendship, communication, commitment level high.

bisous:


Age ought not to be a barrier to love ,however the difference in a age does matter because there are things a person only gets to know with age ,which can make or mar the relationship

Thanks Bisous. More contribution please. Rocktation, front page please.

wristwatch:
Sometimes it matters if the age difference is too much. A 20yrs old lady dating 50yrs old man and vice versa.

Your case is okay. The age difference is btw 9-12yrs.

Just ask her why she is freaking out abt your age and then keep friendship, communication, commitment level high.

Thanks man.

Nneka123:

Some Relationships can have problems with no difference in age. Sometimes two people are content with a relationship like yours, I'd just encourage you to consider whether you two have similar interests and goals. This is important to discuss because she might want to have an active social life while you do not (or vice versa). Because you are in your late 30s, she might be feeling that you a little bit too old for her, but let her know that age is just a number, if she really loves you, she will be with you. Besides she never knew your age, when you guys first met, and she was really into you like you said. So the age thingy shouldn't be a problem for her.

Thanks Nneka123.

randsandnaira:


Thanks Bisous. More contribution please. Rocktation, front page please.

You are welcome ,BTW don't let it cause you sleepless nights

Having assured her that the age difference is'nt an issue in the relatnshp & she still insists its a big deal,if u still persist on winning her back & she insists on a NO,then you don't have to kill urself,simply man up & move on,cos the one who truly loves u & really is for you,will look past ur age & not make it a mountain factor to ur relationshp.

No need persuading her.

If age is an issue for her,then it will always be an issue, you can't persuade someone out of that mindset.


Just the same way you care for her, you can care for someone else too.

So it's better you both go your separate ways to seek other people.

bisous:


You are welcome ,BTW don't let it cause you sleepless nights

Thanks a bunch, Bisous. You're a darling.

enkay4love:
Having assured her that the age difference is'nt an issue in the relatnshp & she still insists its a big deal,if u still persist on winning her back & she insists on a NO,then you don't have to kill urself,simply man up & move on,cos the one who truly loves u & really is for you,will look past ur age & not make it a mountain factor to ur relationshp.

enkay4love, thanks so much for being there.

InZA:
No need persuading her.

If age is an issue for her,then it will always be an issue, you can't persuade someone out of that mindset.


Just the same way you care for her, you can care for someone else too.

So it's better you both go your separate ways to seek other people.

Thanks but it's so difficult to let go. I love this girl so much.

Age shouldn't be a barrier

from experience o, i prefer them older. they are more matured, they understand life issues better
and they are focused, they know what they want and they treat their women so well.

let her be for now, she does not know wat she will be missing.

experience is the best teacher, she will soon learn.
before, i used to prefer my age mate or 2 years diff but now i know better.

let it flow naturally, don't force it cos u might later regret it
if she's yours things will work out naturally.

if not, then u av to look for a more matured woman like u probably in her early or mid 30s

FYI, #mypersonalopinion#

randsandnaira:


enkay4love, thanks so much for being there.

U welcome guy.Just know that any love with conditions is'nt true,cos true love covers all faults.

Is some cases, YES

Simply don't understand why som1 culd claim to love another human being so much that he/she turns a blind eye to the fact that the other person is non-reciprocal of their love.Fact remains that no one can love another human much more than oneself,we all came to this world alone & we'll die alone.Love is a free feeling & any kind of feeling that defys control is abnormal.Oh yes...it can be difficult to let go sometimes when the feelings are way beyond skin deep,but to be on the safer side,be careful who u bring into ur life & be sure b4 committing ur feelings.In my opinion,its safer to fall truly in love in marriage than before marriage.

Age matters. It won't be cool by the time you start seeing your old daddy in your husband. There are some things in marriage best done when both couple are young, for instance going on dates together, having fun and all sort. The woman might feel left out if her husband is way older than doing those romantic stuffs with her, playing with their kids, cleaning the house together and all sort.
That is why you see cute young girls marry men old enough to be their grandpa for money not really cos of the love.
If she feels you are too older than her then you cant force yourself on her, you can only make her reason with you.
All the best

randsandnaira:


Thanks Nneka123.

Glad to help

Rocking the same boat ryt now. Hope to learn a tin or two. @op, she mite care about u too bt there is a kin of closeness n familiarity u feel wen datin sum1 wtin ur age grp as opposed to sum1 much older. A gal datin a much older guy mite nt no hw to relate wt him n wud always b cautious of her choice of words around him inorder nt to sound disrespectful. Plus d way in ch her friends n family n society at large wud view her. If ur d type dt free n nt too strict she mite learn to loosen up around u. I wish u al d best.

Op U wanna Win her Back?? Does she expect you to be 21 or maybe 17...
Its so Clear she Doesn't Love you... She isnt even ready for Marriage..
Dont waste yah Time with Her jare...

randsandnaira:


Thanks a bunch, Bisous. You're a darling.

Bisous doesn't mind the age gap friend.

.......why not??

randsandnaira,

Her worry should be that you probably haven't attained a maturity age but you are well and truly matured.

Please, let her be, there's more to it than the age thing which she paints I reckon.

The love I know surmounts the strongest of barriers to talk of mere age issue.

Be strong bro!

Lalasticlala, ishilove..... please oblige a call for frontpaging this thread.

Follow ur mind

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She is not ready for marriage late twenties is around 28, 29 years old the difference should be around 10, 11 or 9 years difference. Maybe she want guys of her age bracket and please start looking for another lady because this one may end up turning you down

Pls can someone tell me y some people are always happy coz they were able to comment on fp