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| 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by Nobody: 11:49am On Jan 16, 2015 |
If your marriage is struggling, or if you’re working to keep it strong, these six ideas will help you learn how to be selfless in your most important relationships. 1. Put your spouse's needs first It may seem difficult to put your needs aside and focus entirely on your spouse’s, but that trust and commitment is what will strengthen your relationship and allow you to feel and express love. This idea works best if both spouses are serving each other equally. 2. Love unconditionally One of the worst things you can do in a marriage is keep track of mistakes and weaknesses and use them against your spouse. If you are selfless, you love unconditionally. There are some behaviors that cannot be condoned, like any form of abuse, but small personality flaws and bad days should be overlooked. When you love unconditionally, you feel motivated to help your spouse be happy, succeed and feel loved by you. 3. Find ways to serve If being selfless is new to you, it may take some practice. Start by finding small ways to serve your spouse. Take his turn doing the dishes. Make the bed in the morning before she does. Vacuum out his car or take the dog out in the morning so she can sleep in. Service promotes love and acts of service in return. It may take time for your spouse to reciprocate or for the idea to take hold, but keep trying. If you are in a good habit of service, continue. 4. Be a good listener You can be selfless as you help your spouse emotionally. Be the person your spouse turns to as he vents about a bad day at work. Don’t try to fix things for your wife, just validate her feelings and offer suggestions if she asks for them. When listening, be engaged. Try holding hands and looking at your spouse’s face to read his expressions. Develop the quality of empathy so you can be more emotionally connected. 5. Learn to compromise Being selfless does not mean being a martyr. You don’t have to give up your favorite period drama to watch his action movies for the rest of your life. Sometimes, being selfless merely means compromising. Compromises bring you closer together. Cultivate the ability to compromise if you can’t quite agree on something. Let go of the need to be right or always get your way. 6. Pray for strength and help have a firm belief that God wants you to be happy and for your marriage to be successful.Praying for selflessness helps you have more love and energy to spend on your partner.People have a tendency toward selfishness. Praying to overcome selfishness is important as you strive to be more selfless. No marriage is perfect, but every marriage (and relationship) can be made better by developing just one's characteristics and selflessness. Implement these ideas and see how your marriage improves. written by lilmaxfidel 1 Like |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by DesChyko: 12:00pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
Chai.. See assignment  |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by Nobody: 12:04pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
DesChyko:it is hard but has rewards  |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by elantraceey(f): 12:24pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
Build a good communication . |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by Nobody: 12:29pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
elantraceey: |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by englishmart(m): 9:29am On Jan 18, 2015 |
lilmaxfidel:we know say na you write am  |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by dein77(m): 9:31am On Jan 18, 2015 |
Picks only point 1. The rest are embedded in it. Thanks for sharing with us. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by bukatyne(f): 4:32pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Beautiful  With only one condition: both must be committed to doing This @the same time 1 Like |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by lilmax(m): 4:36pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
Reasonable |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by Nobody: 6:16pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
Tgirl4real, RoyalRoy?  |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by jadelyn007(f): 7:04pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
lilmaxfidel:. You will grow old. Unless you are bashing nigerian female folks or advising the female folk to be subservient your thread ain't going to smell frontpage. But just incase it gets to frontpage lemme drop my own comment; Nice piece especially when both spouses are committed to doing all these, if its just one party doing all these, you are on a long thing cos it won't take long for the sacrificing one to feel frustrated and resentful, before you know the marriage comes crashing down like a pack of badly arranged cards |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by KanwuliaJara: 9:15pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
All to h-enter grave like the "Malaysian Bride"? |
| Re: 6 Sure Ways To Save Your Marriage by Vinx4Christ(m): 10:03pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
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