Sometimes silence is golden, but sometimes there are
things that need to be said. Its best to think before you
speak.
The last thing you’d want is for your partner to dump you
over something you didn’t even mean to say

1, Are you really going to walk out dressed like that?’
If it’s mine then chances are I like it. There’s already so
much pressure for girls to look flawless and picture
perfect.
So, she doesn’t need to be told by you that she’s not
meeting the standards.
She bought that item of clothing because she liked it- she
feels good in it. Unless you have the money to buy a new
wardrobe for her then maybe you should keep your
comments to yourself and love her for who she is not
what she wears.

2 ‘Babe, let’s hit the gym’
This one reminds me of a song by Ruben Studdard that
goes: “Why you wanna change me, flip all the things that
really make me the way that I am…you used to like your
big old teddy bear…”
If you met in the Burger King queue and he/she told you
about their love for junk foods then don’t expect him/her
to become a vegan now that you’re dating.
You can only bring up the gym idea if you notice that your
partner has gained some weight and it’s having an impact
on their health. And even then, be tactful about it.
Everyone is insecure about their body image and the last
thing you’d want to do is hurt your lover’s feelings.

3 ‘If I tell you, you have to promise not to tell anyone else!’
Nobody likes a Gossiping Gertrude unless of course
Gertrude is your close friend who enjoys gossip just as
much as you do. Don’t fill the silence with gossip.
If you find that you have nothing to say to each other
maybe you should have a make-out session or call it a
night and go to sleep.
If word gets out and the trail leads back to you guys, it
could get you into serious trouble and may even hamper
your relationship.

4 ‘My ex did the exact same thing’
If you’re looking for an express ticket to Dumpville, then,
yeah, bring up your ex. The only time your partner wants
to hear about your ex is NEVER.
It’s not nice being compared to someone even if they were
a complete douchebag and you’re just this ball of
amazingness.
It shows that you still think about your ex and maybe
aren’t over him/her. Your ex is old news and it’s time to
focus on what’s right in front of you.

5 ‘This song reminds me of my ex’
Again, ex-stories are a no go area. Think before you talk,
even if it’s something as simple as a song, movie or a
joke. Some things are better left unsaid.

6 ‘Nothing’s wrong. I’m fine’
Girls are guilty of saying this. We say it but we don’t mean
it. It’s actually our way of saying “my world is falling apart
and I just need you to hold me and tell me that everything
will be fine” or “I’m so mad at you right now.”
If you’re guilty of doing this - stop it! Your partner can’t
read your mind. In a relationship, communication is very
important.
You need to verbalise your thoughts instead of harboring
them. If you don’t, you might just end up exploding at your
partner and then start bringing up unattended issues from
three years ago.
If something is bothering you rather deal with it right there
and then.

7 ‘If you really love me…’
A relationship should not have terms and conditions, that’s
what your job is for. If your partner uses this line to try
guilt trip you into doing something, then please do yourself
a favour and dump that loser.
It is a mild form of manipulation and actually shows
weakness. If you would like your partner to do something
for you just ask them, chances are they’ll say yes
anyways, and if they don’t, you’ll just have to accept that.

8 ‘Just chill- you’re overreacting’
“Telling a girl to calm down works about as well as trying
to baptize a cat”- @BroCulture (twitter)
In other words, she will not calm down. Girls are sensitive
and take a lot of the things guys say to heart.
From the guy’s perspective it probably isn’t even coming
from a hurtful place, maybe she is being over the top and
does need to take a chill pill; but try finding a more
diplomatic way of telling her to calm down.

9 ‘Babe stop being so insecure, he/she is just a friend’
If your partner voices out their concern about you
spending too much time with a friend of the opposite sex
or being too friendly with them, respect their worry and
maybe cut down just a little on your over-friendliness.
Your partner will notice and it will mean a lot. So, instead
of being a little insensitive rather reassure your partner
about the true love you have for them.

10 ‘You’re always too busy for me’
Unless your partner spends 25 hours a day at work or with
his friends or anywhere away from you, then don’t say
this. It comes across as needy and as if you have nothing
going on in your life. Remember, your partner is an
individual, not an extension of you.

AMAZIN THREAD ND IM THE FIRST TO COMMENT YAYYYY

Bitch please! This is Nigeria, am pretty sure 90% nigerians don't hit the gym, that's list up there doesn't apply to nigerian relationships,

Incase sha

Please what is LOVER?

Jst incase

Nice one op, but if U refused saying all those things to ur lover, what then will U say to him/her?

Afrok:
Nice one op, but if U refused saying all those things to ur lover, what then will U say to him/her?

I was asking myself the same thing. These statements are ways u express yourself, and if you can't express yourself openly to your partner, then there is no partnership.

mzPtgemini:

I was asking myself the same thing. These statements are ways u express yourself, and if you can't express yourself openly to your partner, then there is no partnership.

u've said it all sir...

Less I 4got nver say this 2 ur lng tym galfrend "will u marry me?"

Lol.
I like it when a nigga tells me to hit the gym tho.

I'm more conscious of my body.

the ex thing is insufferably a no no no no esp for [sorry but its true] women.