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Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by gemale(m): 3:17pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
moca: i dont kno o... true family is more dan bld & genes. d tin vexn me is d hypocritic dude contemplatn leavn his wyf despite his 'xtianity'. oga cnt rmbr his weddn vows again. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by gemale(m): 3:20pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
ifeoluwasegun: well spoken... u smart. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by prof12(m): 3:26pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
Chuksgeo: who said is wrong? pls can someone tell me where God said it's wrong. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Nobody: 3:30pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
stinggy:I jes dey luk yhu |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Nobody: 3:43pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
omooba2019: Bless you my sister 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Lamusga: 3:50pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
confirm carefully if the baby is even yours |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by ogedax: 4:00pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
Mr man my advice for you is that no one here can give you advice that is sufficient for this trouble, you are a man you wear the shoes,so think for yourself like a man. But make sure you show love to your wife. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by jadelyn007(f): 4:02pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
Truckpusher:the Op is an IDIOT!!! How is he sure he isn't the one with problems when most men Nigerian men won't go with their wives to the hospital to get checked for infertility. It may be that even the secretarys pregnancy isn't his, she might have decided to bring another man's baby. Some idiot guys will come to blame nigerian woman for giving another man's kids to their husbands, how won't they with this kind of fucccked up mentality Nigerian men have. What happened to adoption Giving an orphaned child an opportunity to experience the love a parent can offer? Selfish Nigerians, only thinking of their selfish self and interests. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Truckpusher(m): 4:07pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
jadelyn007:I'm not the op o. But, don't you think that you're generalizing ? |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Petdagr8t(m): 4:37pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
[quote author=ProphetUdeme post=29897097][/quote]If your wife should be the same that committed this abomination that you're shamelessly sharing with us here, I know you would have push her out of your home or at worst sue her for committing adultery. And yet u are proud to call yourself a deeper life member ! May God have mercy on you!!!. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by jadelyn007(f): 4:38pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
Truckpusher:sorry, misfired arrow meant for the op, yes, I'm generalizing but I am very sure that the scenario I just painted fits the Op's situation. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Truckpusher(m): 4:40pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
jadelyn007:Calm down sis, there are handful of Nigerian men that wouldn't tread that lane - For their sake please address the he-goat and not an entire nation. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by whoisuche: 4:47pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
[quote author=ProphetUdeme post=29897097][/quote] Luke 16:18 ESV / 307 helpful votes “Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 ESV / 291 helpful votes To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife. God hates divorce or person marrying a second wife. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by ajimega: 4:59pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
you are thinking clearly and that is the same way the op ought to think. Before i forget yoruba adage says pasan ti a fi naa iyale o wa lori aja fun iyawo so bewarned elnino3: |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by ajimega: 5:04pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
i am happy for the first time nairaland men supporting the woman God is great philfrey08: 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Haabil: 5:07pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
abeg go meet ur pastor, whatever you discussed is OK by me |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Nobody: 5:33pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
sim37:the bible says what so ever is not of faith is sin. We hope on God thru faith to make the marriage fruitful and not testing her fertility before marriage. We walk by faith and not by sight bro 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Pidggin(f): 5:37pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
OP why can't you be faithful to your wife and trust God. Do you think God cannot give you more children than you can handle, why complicate things by having an affair and a child outside marriage. Remember Abraham and Sarah, we are still suffering from the impatience of Sarah when she asked him to sleep with her help. To each his own, good luck |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by jadelyn007(f): 5:41pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
Truckpusher:dats true, its unfortunate that by the time he discovers the secretary's child isn't his he'll start yapping how all women are evil. Just like some nairaland boys who go around spewing trash about how girls n all this and that when they have only been messing with the wrong kind of girls. When u advice them, they think u hate dem till they get hurt and dumped. You see a girl all made up with brazilian weaves n all that, u go asking her out ignoring the plain girl in natural hair, later u come complaining how all girls are materialistic. Seriously I'm fed up with nairaland boys and they useless threads, more reason many of them are broke and will remain broke aSses blaming the government for their every misfortunes. Truckpusher, you should talk to your brothers more often, should make better use of themselves. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Nobody: 5:44pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
macof:ha ha. Macof you don come again. You sef. I wonder how you really admire and prefer your cultural heritage than our religion Christianity |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Nobody: 5:47pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
skyfullofstars:the man is a nairalander but hiding his identity and concealed. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by matingo(f): 5:51pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
Most cases of infertility nowadays are from the men, but African mentality is that the woman is always at fault wen it comes to infertility, chances are ds new lady has brought pregnancy frm s/where knowing dats ur prob. Don't add to ur issues by raising a bastard. Dr ar alternative measures u and ur wife can try eg ivf. Ultimately, waiting on the lord is the best option. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by Nobody: 5:53pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
jadelyn007:pls quit blaming the man. He is on nairaland and the more you guys judged him the more he is giving up. For Christ sake its been 14 years of marriage without an issue, why cant you be lenient on him. Btw happy birthday dear |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by jadelyn007(f): 6:06pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
ProphetUdeme:thanks for the birthday wish. If I don't blame/judge him who should I blame/judge, his innocent wife who has spent 14yrs of her life trusting God with him, or the secretary who siezed the opportunity the op gave her. This man has successfully ruined 14yrs of his happiness. He foolishly thought that not having a biological child is the worst thing that can happen to him, No. Falling into the trap of a jezebel/delilah is just the beginning of his woes. Let him divorce his wife, he deserves his secretary. I repeat, any girl who can have an affair with you, knowing fully well that you are married can kill you without even baiting an eyelid. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by matingo(f): 6:10pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
sainty2k3:I disagree with you. I have been there before and my husband stood by me and today we have two kids to the glory of God. When you trust in God, you will never be disappointed. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by elidi(m): 6:11pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
You guys should go and adopt a child instead of you going for a second wife. I bet you don't want to go with the challenges of having a second wife |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by qrymz(m): 6:15pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
ProphetUdeme: Several love escapades don't make him a man, what if he was shooting blanks just as he has been shooting blanks in d wife for those years. Afaterall he didn't mention anythin in d post about confirmation results that the wife is truly barren. Anyways, barren or not, I still feel this new lady has devil written all over her cos firstly, she made d move to date him when she definatley knew he was married and nw said she wants to move in and he should send the wife out.... Hmmmmm! I see doom for this man jare |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by jadelyn007(f): 6:24pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
macof:excuse me How dare you talk about what african culture dictates African culture taught us to be true to our words and Op wasn't true to his words/vows. He swore to be faithful to her that was why she married him in the first place. So don't you dare bring african culture into this. He swore for better,for worse in church!!! Not in a shrine. Kumuyi's church for that matter. |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by macof(m): 6:44pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
ProphetUdeme: Its very simple really. Lemme use this very basic analogy ... You have a very nice wife that you married yourself, one who has always been doing whatever YOU NEEDED her to do..she can be hard headed at times but all you have achieved - including the peace and tolerance in your house is due to her . Now would you prefer a wife that some STRANGER comes to "sell" to you. .. A wife that orders you around, telling you to do things that a Man shouldn't be doing after forcing you to drive your former wife away on "unproven" grounds of witchcraft and cannibalism.. .a wife that takes portion of your food to the strangers that brought her...yet because of this wife no peace with you and your family, she is so foreign she doesn't understand a thing but condemns everything Which would you prefer? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by IYANGBALI: 6:54pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
ProphetUdeme:is dat so?so that is how you know who owns a pregnancy?smh for you |
Re: Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child? by macof(m): 6:54pm On Aug 05, 2015 |
jadelyn007: Why should any sane African man swear in a church? Marital vows should be between the couple making their own terms of the relationship...even family members don't have to bud in Ur church vow thing is staged, nobody puts that in mind. ..we all just say "Yes. .I do" because we seen it no TV ... the real vow is between them...something probably made months before the wedding Is it not all this church vows that lead to the long row of divorce cases each day in the western world? |
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