pickabeau1:
whether he says it or not
The reality is that one is working for his wife n kids

Seldom does one spend more than 10% of his income on himself directly
Th bulk of it goes to wife shopping, vacation, school for kids, feeding, inlaws..

At times like this January na debit sef till February

crackhaus:

That's actually the norm to most, but this woman just needed to hear something sweet and romantic - the man didn't oblige

Tstone1:
Earlier today an argument ensued between my woman and myself about how workaholic I have become in recent times. She later joked about me being serious with my job cos am working cos of her. I told her NO! And to her greatest surprised I let her know am working for the sakes of my children unborn not necessarily her . She became very angry and said she was highly disappointed by my statement.

I felt this shouldn't be an issue as have only spoken my mind. Your take on this please..

Seun:
It's also a wake up call for your wife. She needs to work hard to make her own money since her husband isn't working for her but his children. She shouldn't sacrifice or limit her career for such a man. Also, pls learn not to say every stupid thing that passes through your mind!

crackhaus:

That's actually the norm to most, but this woman just needed to hear something sweet and romantic - the man didn't oblige!!

Tstone1:
And one funny thing about ladies of nowadays is just that they have substituted getting a job to marriage!

Tstone1:
And one funny thing about ladies of nowadays is just that they have substituted getting a job to marriage!

Enoquin:


Is your wife in the ratio? I understand the need to defend your stance but why did you get married? Was it to procreate? Because society expected it?

I am asking because as it is with you and others, whenever a spousal issue is brought - either male or female - the complainant is contented with indirect and direct abuses or slight on his/her absent spouse. You have a tiff at home, come online, feel good with those that support you at whose expense? It is terrible.

And for those that use every opportunity to needle females or males, una well done. A female is independent doesn't mean all females are like her. A man doesn't believe in helping his wife doesn't mean all men are like him.
People are the way they are due to different factors and shouldn't be used to judge others with different factors as well.

Your comment was insensitive. I would say the same if your wife said same thing. None of you picked the other at gun point. Your children aren't even born, what if they don't come at all or come later, will your work rate reduce because you feel you have nothing to work for? (Don't react emotionally, it's just a logical question)

Seun:
It's also a wake up call for your wife. She needs to work hard to make her own money since her husband isn't working for her but his children. She shouldn't sacrifice or limit her career for such a man. Also, pls learn not to say every stupid thing that passes through your mind!

Seun:
It's also a wake up call for your wife. She needs to work hard to make her own money since her husband isn't working for her but his children. She shouldn't sacrifice or limit her career for such a man. Also, please bro learn not to say every stupid thing that passes through your mind!

Tstone1:

But that doesn't mean a wife making claims that the husband is working for her! It sounds somehow you know. Meanwhile a woman would always be a woman..i still feel the children deserves it more.

Tstone1:
Earlier today an argument ensued between my woman and myself about how workaholic I have become in recent times. She later joked about me being serious with my job cos am working cos of her. I told her NO! And to her greatest surprised I let her know am working for the sakes of my children unborn not necessarily her. She became very angry and said she was highly disappointed by my statement.

I felt this shouldn't be an issue as have only spoken my mind. Your take on this please..

Seun:
It's also a wake up call for your wife. She needs to work hard to make her own money since her husband isn't working for her but his children. She shouldn't sacrifice or limit her career for such a man. Also, please bro learn not to say every stupid thing that passes through your mind!

Seun:
It's also a wake up call for your wife. She needs to work hard to make her own money since her husband isn't working for her but his children. She shouldn't sacrifice or limit her career for such a man. Also, please bro learn not to say every stupid thing that passes through your mind!

Chillisauce:
Thats Nigerian Men for you. Most of them are working because of their children. The wives are just used for breeding purpose. After breeding, they can decide to chase you out, take the kids and bring over another.

Meanwhile during the breeding exercise, your job function is to eat, cook , clean and breed more.

Tufiaaaakwa.

Some of them are closet gay, only to closeeye, give woman belle, then continue their run away match.

Na you sabi.

Imagine, very insensitive.

Tufiakwa i say again

fem29:

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Hmm I see nothing wrong with his statement ooo. Unless she is a full time house wife she too should be working for her children's future.

Everyone should be productive, I don't believe in being a liability

Chillisauce:
Thats Nigerian Men for you. Most of them are working because of their children. The wives are just used for breeding purpose. After breeding, they can decide to chase you out, take the kids and bring over another.

Meanwhile during the breeding exercise, your job function is to eat, cook , clean and breed more.

Tufiaaaakwa.

Some of them are closet gay, only to closeeye, give woman belle, then continue their run away match.

Na you sabi.

Imagine, very insensitive.

Tufiakwa i say again

pickabeau1:
whether he says it or not
The reality is that one is working for his wife n kids

Seldom does one spend more than 10% of his income on himself directly
Th bulk of it goes to wife shopping, vacation, school for kids, feeding, inlaws..

At times like this January na debit sef till February

aisha2:


Please can you stop generalising? If.you have a problem with your babe address it and stop making all women sound the same
It makes you sound a lot ignorant

deanxy:
truth be told,when it comes to relationship between a man and a woman,men are always at the receiving end. from toasting to when she enters your house and even when she enters,na so so suffa. i mean check out:men have to device sometimes unimaginable schemes just to woo a woman's heart;the countless bdy gifts,recharge card,calls and what have you. And to make matters worse,women came up with this idea of "A GENTLE MAN" so each time a man comes around a lady,he must behave himself in conformity with their(women) idea of a gentle man.
And when she finally becomes your wife, after the labor of wining her heart, what does she do?noting but watches home videos while your are out there sweating your ass out. But you may say they do dishes,laundry and all that but think again because we men out of our benevolent have invented the washing machine. And even if she does house chore,what else could she be doing?my guess,sleeping. what annoy me the most is their level of ingratitude.if you like buy the whole world for her but the moment you deny her a pencil she will forget all you have done for her in the past.

Chillisauce:
Thats Nigerian Men for you. Most of them are working because of their children. The wives are just used for breeding purpose. After breeding, they can decide to chase you out, take the kids and bring over another.

Meanwhile during the breeding exercise, your job function is to eat, cook , clean and breed more.

Tufiaaaakwa.

Some of them are closet gay, only to closeeye, give woman belle, then continue their run away match.

Na you sabi.

Imagine, very insensitive.

Tufiakwa i say again

EnlightenedSoul:


Pickabeau, you know what this reminds me of?

Your thread!

I think it's rather funny that the same people who thought that was a bad idea are now applauding OP's POV, and apparent need/desire to "separate mother from child"(Oh you know, ethereal nature, hallowed bond, and what not).

Tstone1, why not go all the way, and take her (angered GF - and heck - all of womankind) out of the picture almost completely? I think you could possibly be a good candidate for this, but that all depends on how you feel. There's no hassle of accommodating a woman, just your future children Do check this out, and lemme know what you think? I'm curious.

Read me, OP: www.nairaland.com/2077448/conception-possible-without-women-way

Tstone1:

But still I won't under estimate the importance of having a wife. It's just that that selfish thoughts needed to be taken away from there hearts.

Tstone1:
Earlier today an argument ensued between my woman and myself about how workaholic I have become in recent times. She later joked about me being serious with my job cos am working cos of her. I told her NO! And to her greatest surprised I let her know am working for the sakes of my children unborn not necessarily her. She became very angry and said she was highly disappointed by my statement.

I felt this shouldn't be an issue as have only spoken my mind. Your take on this please..