carefreewannabe:


You are funny.

SirShymexx:


Lol. Like I always told you - stop discussing things out of ya depth when it comes to issues with technicalities, especially the law in the west. Stick to issues about babies and STIs - I like you when you do that. At least, you do sound like you can be a good mother sometimes.

Ilekeh:
It's always nurses

And the murder usually occurs in Houston.

If you're a nice and you live in Houston and your husband no like you at all, carry your loads and waka.

SirShymexx:

Nah, it's not even a UK thing - it's a yank thing. The funniest about it is that: these guys are basically hood nyggahs, with no prior acting skills, nor knowledge of filming/productions. I believe one of them just wrote a story about his experience, got his buddies together with a camera, and decided to make a web series last August. Low budget series.
However, they ended up making a YouTube classic. When I saw it two weeks ago, each of the episodes had less than 20,000views - but right now, every single episode is on at least 500,000 views, with interviews everywhere. Major media companies are also trying to buy the rights to the series right now. They have been on major radio stations doing interviews since last week yano.
Power of the internet and ability to create something out of nothing.

SirShymexx:


Lol. Like I always told you - stop discussing things out of ya depth when it comes to issues with technicalities, especially the law in the west. Stick to issues about babies and STIs - I like you when you do that. At least, you do sound like you can be a good mother sometimes.

neoapocalypse:


I have always said it , this Mutter is a nutter.

Nothing , and I repeat , NOTHING! can justify murder , for heaven sakes there are a lot of options for the man , killing a person isn't one of the options. Another thing I find wrong is bringing a woman to the US to slave for you , a man who is financially responsible for his family will get all the respect he deserves

mutter:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man, perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years! Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are = 0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations. That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family, neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the dollars.

manny4life:


He never said it is a Nigerian culture, murder isn't a culture. I agree that these wives are people's children, but the point is that something led to the murder. Until such issues are addressed, these murders will continue. I did not see his post as a justification of murder (IMO).

ladygogo:

Yimu and have you been faithful to ChidinmaÉ.

I will be waiting for the invite to you and Sheniqua`s wedding . Abi na Latiqua. hehehehe.

pickabeau1:



That's the point
You don't see the child as yours but a fuzzy joint property

manny4life:


Lot's of options? Which are? I don't think you understand the depressive state most of these men go through; granted murder isn't an option, but their physiological state could trigger something else. It's easy to say there are options until you wear the shoes, when people are pushed to the wall, it takes every restraint in them not to act upon their evil.

tpiah11:

like i said, if you people's girlfriends, boyfriends or wives, did not off you despite your doing things that "led to it", then what exactly is your justification for such, unless it was preplanned all along?

anyway, follow Jesus so you can be saved.
that is the long and short of the matter.
i just find d.umb responses, irritating.
folks want to kill but they dont want to be killed, that's simply s.tupid.

tpiah11:



like i said, if you people's girlfriends, boyfriends or wives, did not off you despite your doing things that "led to it", then what exactly is your justification for such, unless it was preplanned all along?

anyway, follow Jesus so you can be saved.

that is the long and short of the matter.

i just find d.umb responses, irritating.

folks want to kill but they dont want to die, that's simply s.tupid.

Between 2006 and 2014, more than 50 Nigerian husbands murdered their wives in what might be considered crimes of passion as a result of alienation of affection, women empowerment, emasculation, and loss of self esteem.

voltron:


heard this sooo many times from France, Italy, Australia, Germany, USA, Canada and London. Nigerian Women leverage the recognition of the female gender in developed countries to harass their Nigerian husbands anyhow.. this frustration have led many impatient men to murder. Many Nigerians living abroad avoid Nigerian women in relationships..

raumdeuter:


How about everyone takes what they brought into the marriage and what they contributed financially into the marriage

soulglo:



This has to be the funniest and saddest post of all. It is a tragic comedy. "Nigerian women leverage the recognition of the female gender in developed countries to harass their husbands...." . The idea that the recognition of the female gender is a dangerous thing is sad. Jesus. I actually believe Nigerian women are better suited to foreign men or even if they end up with a Nigerian, let it he one who had dated foreigners and already been trained Lawd have mercy. Nigerian women just get no respect from Nigerian men. I should start a dating website specifically for Nigerian women who want to marry "anything that's not Nigerian".

manny4life:


You have lived long enough in this country, you know how these things work. There is NO justification of murder; unfortunately, the law recognizes such lapses that led to murder. I get your point and all I am saying in short is, folks should ALWAYS try to resolve issues with their spouses before it gets out of hand. There are marriage counseling, family intervention, or even legal advisory...

mutter:


The men married them because when before they got out they acted all humble or probably even where, but then their eyes opened.
I see some when they come newly "sir, daddy" and after a few months, "useless man".

How does a man become the kind of man that commands respect? Every human being commands respect. In accordance with our tradition every man commands respect from every woman and men have a different status in society. Did the woman not take a vow to submit to him or better for worse?
When you do the wine carrying why do you go down on your knees? Is that just a show, a body movement. It is a promise to the man made before your family and his that you would submit to the man and go down for him. The man does not have to command his respect it is your duty as his wife.

Divorcing them would mean loosing everything, even custody of the kid`s. That is how it functions. The man would loose everything he built up. He not only looses it but looses it to someone he built up who turned around to destroy him.

Fhemmmy:


Some of the options are:
1. Let go of the woman, go your way and she go hers
2. Sit down with her to understand why she is no more the sweet damsel you brought from the village in Africa
3. Instead of the man sitting around the house and let the woman slaves for him, help in making life easy for such woman.
And so much more . . . But killing is far from one of them.....it is a weakling that will kill defenseless being

voltron:


heard this sooo many times from France, Italy, Australia, Germany, USA, Canada and London. Nigerian Women leverage the recognition of the female gender in developed countries to harass their Nigerian husbands anyhow.. this frustration have led many impatient men to murder. Many Nigerians living abroad avoid Nigerian women in relationships..

manny4life:


You have lived long enough in this country, you know how these things work

There is NO justification of murder; unfortunately, the law recognizes such lapses that led to murder. I get your point and all I am saying in short is, folks should ALWAYS try to resolve issues with their spouses before it gets out of hand. There are marriage counseling, family intervention, or even legal advisory...

Fhemmmy:


[b]It is very interesting that you have said all these, but lemme ask you a question:
1. While the "man" was busy working so hard to make money and all that, He was not dating no one or doing any lady while there alone?
2. What happened to that lady, how come, he all of a sudden think the lady aint good enough and have to go home and marry "innocent" lady?
I see all these as a man with hidden agenda, that i will be able to control her when she is here, and guess what, the ladies back home are more wild than the ladies out of Nigeria.

Now on the topic, it is pathetic for a man to kill a woman for ANY reason, if you guys are no mpre getting along, go your separate ways, and i again, obodo oyinbo is not for everyone, a man that want a woman to worship him and kneel while serving you food is better to remain in the village in Nigeria, when a woman goes to work all day and back with money, and the man has done same, nothing stops both of them to enter the kitchen together and make things happen.

When you stress the woman after work, she is in kitchen and same madam will run to the room to change diaper and at night, you wanna climb her like a horse and you expect such woman to worship the ground you walk on, get real..... she is human like the man, and when Bible said, woman obey your husband, it is not saying slave for him..... if the man loves the woman, he will help her to have a good and stress free day.[/b]

Fhemmmy:


Some of the options are:
1. Let go of the woman, go your way and she go hers
2. Sit down with her to understand why she is no more the sweet damsel you brought from the village in Africa
3. Instead of the man sitting around the house and let the woman slaves for him, help in making life easy for such woman.
And so much more . . . But killing is far from one of them.....it is a weakling that will kill defenseless being

coogar:


do i need to subtitle my last reply to you or something? you don't have to talk to me to call out your idiöcy - my freedom of speech guarantees that.

when they say women are their own worst enemies, you scream like a rhesus monkey. you are using another woman's past ugly ordeals against her in public just to make yourself feel cool?

how could you stoop so low?

coogar:

thanks for the heads up!

don't dignify that semi-illiterate with a reply abeg. she didn't even know what VAWA stands for until last year. she's clueless about her immediate environment so don't waste your breath.

mutter:


The men married them because when before they got out they acted all humble or probably even where, but then their eyes opened.
I see some when they come newly "sir, daddy" and after a few months, "useless man".

How does a man become the kind of man that commands respect? Every human being commands respect. In accordance with our tradition every man commands respect from every woman and men have a different status in society. Did the woman not take a vow to submit to him or better for worse?
When you do the wine carrying why do you go down on your knees? Is that just a show, a body movement. It is a promise to the man made before your family and his that you would submit to the man and go down for him. The man does not have to command his respect it is your duty as his wife.

Divorcing them would mean loosing everything, even custody of the kid`s. That is how it functions. The man would loose everything he built up. He not only looses it but looses it to someone he built up who turned around to destroy him.

Fhemmmy:


Some of the options are:
1. Let go of the woman, go your way and she go hers
2. Sit down with her to understand why she is no more the sweet damsel you brought from the village in Africa
3. Instead of the man sitting around the house and let the woman slaves for him, help in making life easy for such woman.
And so much more . . . But killing is far from one of them.....it is a weakling that will kill defenseless being

voltron:


heard this sooo many times from France, Italy, Australia, Germany, USA, Canada and London. [b]Nigerian Women leverage the recognition of the female gender in developed countries to harass their Nigerian husbands anyhow.. [/b]this frustration have led many impatient men to murder. Many Nigerians living abroad avoid Nigerian women in relationships..

cococandy:
that is how it works. Everyone takes their fair share of what belongs to them. Marriage is work.

If it is even done verbatim according what you're insinuating, the man may even be the loser.

For example if a woman is a stay home mom, her financial contribution to the home is even more considering how much you would pay otherwise to get other people to do what she does for the family.

Child care (day care) is 1000 dollars a month per child in my area. That's part of her financial contribution to the home if she decided to give up her career to take care of the kids.
Imagine a family of 3kids under 6 having to pay 3k per month just for day care. Not other things.

She saves the family that money by suspending her career to do it. If God forbid you guys want a divorce, can you pay her back all that money for the number of years she was doing it ?

Personally I think the law is fair enough. Very

coogar:


it's not that simple!
like i said earlier - if only women could walk away without enslaving the man for 18/19 years to pay chid support for kids he doesn't get to see, maybe men wouldn't lose their liberty or their lives to protect their assets.

it's one thing for women to leave an abusive marriage, it's another thing to heap a whole lot of expenses on his shoulders to cripple him. in 30% of the cases, the men aren't even the biological fathers of the kids they have supported for 19 years.

how is murder not imminent?