MissSlimbody:
...Came across this, I thought to share


My name is Kola. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her to pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married… Marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.

I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.

“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.

I just tried to form Boss laughter…
“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled
“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.
“Sure” I smiled
We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!

So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.

“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.

“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”
I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.
“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.

“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang
Then her phone rang…

“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.
I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You were late. Meet Kola; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Kola this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Dayo, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”

“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him
Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.
“Why don’t we invite Kola for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said

They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!

“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.
I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.
“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Dayo?” she talked and dragged her husband along.They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. T

hey come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my Ipad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.

What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.

“Temi?” My heart raced
“I know you are not coming home…”
“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.
“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose
“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”
“You sound different Kola”
“Maybe I’m different”
“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed

She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…

Pay attention to little things, believe that they work and experience new bliss....

ladej:
thanks for sharing

onegig:
Good Story and Quite inspiring.

It gets monotonous and a bit boring with time and having kids can be a bid drain of one's creative energy.

I guess one just needs to sit and talk and find something new to reignite the passion instead of seeking thrills and that lost happiness outside.

If only couples would learn.

onegig:


@Dyt. Just remembered after seeing your post. I am in lag now but make it this week else I am off again.

Dyt:


Iyaf vex gan ooo
Mum actually took it somewhere yesterday.

onegig:


Ahhhh...Ema binu.

Seriously , I had forgotten about it.

Lots of things on my mind and hands. Just came in recently. Your post here reminded me about it.

I am so sorry. But I guess it's working fine now?

Dyt:


Not picked it up, I just hope that man don't spoil things when fixing them broken places.
I hope it works fine else I will so hold y responsible

babygirlfl:
Thanks missslimbody for sharing.

This is just beautiful. No woman wants to be a nag. Show your wife love and get love in return.

onegig:

Missslimbody....Sorry for derailing your thread.

MizMyColi:
I've read this story before.

But reading it again just struck a chord.
Why do I feel like crying this early monday morning biko kwanum?

Yes, he left wifey and went out there. That guy has one quality I desire above everything in the man I'd marry.

His Selflessness and non-obnoxious nature.

SHMG.

obowunmi:
Why do Nigerian think that the woman who accommodates their cheating behavior is the right woman for them?

bukatyne:


The husband was willing to quickly retrace his steps

Good one and beautiful story

For some reasons, we have this vision of what married people must and must not do...

They are yearning to live up to the standard while groaning underneath and eventually doing those same stuffs with other people

Weird

Yup.

Standards, stereotypes.

I like the part where you said "quickly retraced his steps"

Some men, especially those of african descent would wrestle with their conscience and give themselves more reasons why their mama Nkechi doesn't deserve their loving anymore.
Instead of looking inwards and trying to make themselves better in terms of self-improvement despite their partner, they're quick to blame their failures on the woman. She always mostly at fault. They're the men, so they can't be wrong, never

MizMyColi:


Yup.

Standards, stereotypes.

I like the part where you said "quickly retraced his steps"

Some men, especially those of african descent would wrestle with their conscience and give themselves more reasons why their mama Nkechi doesn't deserve their loving anymore.
Instead of looking inwards and trying to make themselves better in terms of self-improvement despite their partner, they're quick to blame their failures on the woman. She always mostly at fault. They're the men, so they can't be wrong, never

bukatyne:


@bold: I no dey

They are sanitly

The guy is a good man and loves his wife... I guess the 'settlement' into marriage did them (I hope he does not cheat because I would withdraw my accolades )

The wife too is loving and quickly switched to loving as the guy retraced his steps...

She did not start forming power or victim

MizMyColi:


Lol
@Emboldened, Is anything wrong with my observation?

Yes, again you've made a wise observation.
"The woman was wise and applied tact"

There's a lesson to be learned there.

When they come back to you, biko.........bone shakara and take them in.
SHMG.

Women are naturally apt at playing the victim.
It is good we're learning everyday.

bukatyne:


@bold: I no dey

They are sanitly

The guy is a good man and loves his wife... I guess the 'settlement' into marriage did them (I hope he does not cheat because I would withdraw my accolades )

The wife too is loving and quickly switched to loving as the guy retraced his steps...

She did not start forming power or victim