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Hubby Doesnt Communicate by kemachuk: 9:34pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
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Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by MizMyColi(f): 9:44pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
Were you ever friends before you got married? Was there a common ground you two could relate on/from? Might it be that he's lost interest in you? Perhaps there was a time when he actually loved talking to you, but for one reason or another, you weren't present, hence his withdrawal? Married couples gist/gossip a lot. I for one can't fathom a marriage with little or no communication. At this point, you might wanna backtrack. Something's gone wrong somewhere. 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Stillfire: 9:50pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
Was he like this before? Not everyone is a talker, but if he is like this to only you, then there's a problem. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by 2015chick: 9:57pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
do u guys fight or argue on a particular subject b4 or u disrespect him anytime u open discusion in d house,check urself first 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by elantraceey(f): 9:58pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
Was he always like this or he just started? If he has always been like that then you should talk to him that you're not comfortable with it , meanwhile it really shouldn't be everytime you guys must talk , there are times that you can just watch movies or football together and from there the gist will flow . If it just started then i think it could be for two reason , One is he might be losing interest in you or there's something bothering him , either it's from his family, friends or work and this still boils down to talking to him at a comfortable time in a conducive calm atmosphere , he might say nothing is wrong at first but he's your husband , you should know how to make him speak up. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by mutter(f): 9:58pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
kemachuk: If he is not complaining you don`t have a problem. Some people just need their privacy and are not great talkers. Besides you cannot make an interesting conversation, when you have no interest in the topic. I and my husband don`t talk that much either. We spend time each doing our own thing. It took some time getting used to but it does the mariage allot of good. We don`t get irritated and we have never gone to bed angry with each other. Sometimes just sitting together in silence is more that a thousand words. Like now I am here on NL and he is watching his TV in another room. Every now and then I go to him hug him and return to what I`m doing. He does the same. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by MizMyColi(f): 10:01pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
Modified Now. |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by MizMyColi(f): 10:05pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
mutter: Great advice you've given there. I emboldened your post to highlight the fact that whether your hubby talks to you or not, you feel a connection with him and vice versa. I fear that in her case, she mightn't be feeling that connection, hence her CFH. |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by fuzzywuzzy: 10:08pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
mutter:Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!! What a bunch of wierdos! 10 Likes |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Nobody: 10:08pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
elantraceey: |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Nobody: 10:29pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
Do you laugh together? Thats weird. |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by kemachuk: 10:34pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
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Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Nobody: 10:37pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
kemachuk:My dear, it seems you married an emotionally unavailable man. No offense intended but are you in love with this dude? Or was it an arranged marriage? |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by kemachuk: 10:43pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
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Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Nobody: 10:46pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
kemachuk:Hmmm, i feel like ive been in your shoes before, luckily i wasnt married to the guy, but we were crazy in love and dating. I switched off and it took a few weeks but he started begging me. I dont think its a good idea to try in a marriage though...anyway i would bug him to death till he gets fruatrated of my questions....i think. |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by pwerrymansion(f): 11:05pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
How boring can it be with a 'less communing' relationship/union/partner. It can be very frustrating for either party. OP, has he been like this or you just realised it. Its absolutely absurd for couples not to gist or gossip. Then what's the fun of the whole thing? Cook,dish out food and make love? pls try letting him know how you feel b4 you start getting depressed gradually. |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by bennyrazz: 11:13pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
@op, do you think he's going dumb gradually? 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by kemachuk: 11:18pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by bennyrazz: 11:23pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
kemachuk:is it stress? |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Stillfire: 11:55pm On Feb 10, 2015 |
bigdiva: That won't help either. People like that would go into their shell even more if you disturb them too much. |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by KanwuliaJara: 12:19am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Men do not communicate, they only phock, eat, shyte and sleep! Please, grow up! 3 Likes |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by kpolli(m): 12:24am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Introduce him to alcohol, every man opens up with alcohol in their system KanwuliaJara: Men you know |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Miami11: 5:04am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Life must be boring with such a man,My husband and I talk through the night,We also gossip, talk, go out to store together I thank God I married my best friend We have rough patches sometimes but we talk through them. Your husband reminds me of an ex I dated, first appeared friendly, dint take long to see his true colors, anytime we talked he accused me of gossiping, talking to his own sister was gossip, to his own aunt was gossip, he watched news and sports only, and wait until I changed the channels to my favorite shows, he would flip and turn face color and start blaming me, gal I ran for my life had I married that caricature I prolly would be buried six feet under, people do your homework thoroughly before picking a mate. 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Nobody: 5:55am On Feb 11, 2015 |
kemachuk: You are not trying to convince anyone that you have a husband you can't talk to for 4.2 years are you? I certainly don't believe you Do you want to hear the truth or some feel good message? Here is the truth No man will sit with you and discuss fashion and celeb and gist about what color of pant is in vogue Those are women stuff That's what girlfriends are for Talks about football is what men do with men,he probably feels you don't have much to say about it and are only trying your best to draw him into a conversation that wouldn't be stimulating. Are you bringing up these conversations while he is watching CNN My hubby is a CNN and MSNBC junkie,he totally zones out when he is watching his favorite shows. Men are generally not into gisting ,don't let the sissified men on nairaland who gossip and talk like women give you a false impression of real men Real men don't gist about fashion trends and kim Kardashian and Omotola on a daily basis and clap their hands in the air If you wanted a spouse to do that you should have married a fellow woman Study your man Looks like you still don't know him Study him well and if he is the real quiet type,that is how his God made him You should have found that out at courtship You bought the good as is 8 Likes |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Nobody: 6:06am On Feb 11, 2015 |
kemachuk: Is passing through a lot supposed to turn an introverted reserved man into a talkative? Please take him as his chi made him and please don't allow anyone label him.so far I haven't heard any convincing evidence of a real problem from you 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Dyt(f): 11:23am On Feb 11, 2015 |
Do the stripper dance for him, wear costumes |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by Nobody: 11:36am On Feb 11, 2015 |
bennyrazz: |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by bukatyne(f): 11:42am On Feb 11, 2015 |
fuzzywuzzy: And what is weird in that 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by slimyem: 12:01pm On Feb 11, 2015 |
I don't get why you are complaining since he obviously has always been this way and you've been okay with it all the while. What exactly are you looking for now? Someone to chitchat with or a connection with him?if it's the former your husband certainly doesn't sound like he'll be it.You have acknowledged him for who he is then be comfortable with that. Do you derive sustenance and strength from your relationship with him,do you feel seen ,heard and valued as a wife?That's what important..I believe. Communication is not just talking away . You can say a lot to each other without saying anything. If you can identify you have this with your husband or something similar to what mutter has described,please be content and be happy. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by KanwuliaJara: 12:28pm On Feb 11, 2015 |
kpolli: Una full for NL ke! No need to look far! The OP don jam one abi? |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by chibic(m): 12:50pm On Feb 11, 2015 |
fuzzywuzzy:mtcheew!! |
Re: Hubby Doesnt Communicate by chibic(m): 12:52pm On Feb 11, 2015 |
slimyem:nice!! 1 Like |
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