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Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Islie: 12:04pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
A Lady dilemma My sister died five years ago and left behind her husband. They couldn’t have a child as a result of certain complications with her fallopian tube. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Its a tough road you are treading and its not going to be easier if you decide to move forward ,however if you do you must be prepared to face the world and the tongue lashing that will come with it especially for the first few years........ In any case the man will eventually marry no matter how much he misses your sister and since it so happened that he chose you and both of you are certain you weren't doing anything behind your sister"s back while she was alive .....brace up for the storm to come and face it .....like all storms it will eventually become calm All the best 2 Likes |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Ha! This one get as e be oo On first hunch, the average human mind will say 'NO' But looking at it critically, the heart wants who he wants and there's almost no reason to oppose the idea except for sentiments. To say the truth, I think you should have played your games elsewhere cos this one definitely looks bad. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Redoil: 12:12pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Women and wahala sha. Women given men headache since the days of adam and eve. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by lirusehn(m): 12:12pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
funny |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by godstreasure23: 12:12pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Hmmmmm well.... If i say follow your heart i might be wrong.... And if i say follow what other people say you might lose what seems to give u joy and happiness. At times life is kinda hard wen u are faced with situations like dis. Just as your signature live like its goonaend today.... Talk to your mum abt it first and see what she think... My own thought though.... All d best dear |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Jackeeh(m): 12:23pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Islie: Answer the following questions : 1. Was your brother in law faithful to ur sister when she was alive? 2. Where u lusting after ur sister's husband when she was alive? 3. Are you responsible for your sister's death? 4. Did you and ur family plead with ur in-law to forget about his responsibilities to the family but he wouldn't heed? 5. Did u seduce ur brother in-law at any point? 6. Did u suggest he take u out to dinner? 7. Between u and him,who fell in love with the other first? 8. How long ago did ur sister die? 9. If it has been 5years or more, why has ur brother in-law refused to leave the family? 10. Again, did u kill ur sister? 11. Also, the air you're breathing, do u take permission from anyone before u breathe? Do u take permission from anyone before u wake? Is anyone responsible for ur life? 12. Most importantly, have u taken this matter to God in prayer? From what u described, he's a good man. As a human being, I think ur sister(bless her soul) would want him to still remain in the family and not go to any other woman. If all goes as planned n u both have a daughter together, name her after ur sis. Lol. But God may say otherwise. Seek HIM over this matter. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Islie: 12:33pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Jackeeh: Am sure the post explained what happened in full details So, I guess I don't have to repeat myself.... From what u described, he's a good man. As a human being, I think ur sister(bless her soul) would want him to still remain in the family and not go to any other woman. If all goes as planned n u both have a daughter together, name her after ur sis. Lol. But God may say otherwise. Seek HIM over this matter. From what have seen of him from the few times have seen him He is a good man.... Mind you, am aren't the one but a cousin that is facing this situation |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Jackeeh(m): 12:39pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Islie: The questions stemed from the story. And i brought up those questions cos ur cousin seems to be in doubt, still. If she can answer those questions convincingly(for herself n not to anyone),then she's good to go. Personally I don't think she has anything to worry about. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by emaginltd: 12:51pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
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Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Nutase: 1:57pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
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Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Nobody: 2:02pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it and besides this man is one in a million, she should grab this chance with both hands. He also loves the family and the family loves him, who wouldn't love such a virtuous and generous man? Don't let him go! |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by mutter(f): 3:52pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
There is absolutely nothing against it. Not legally nor morally. Even in some traditions quite normal. You can tell your parents. At their age they will understand and support you. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by tpiar: 4:41pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
how many females dey your family? na one by one e go finish una. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Nobody: 4:49pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
There is no blame on falling in love. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by crackhaus: 5:02pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
This is easy: If he's really serious about you, tell him to go discuss his intentions with your parents. Once they give their consent, no other person's opinion matters. 1 Like |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by slimyem: 5:04pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
The only thing stopping you both is how it will be perceived by people morally and culturally because it matters. You are only human to feel what you feel but will you be able to stand the heat that'll come with it? please bear in mind that tongues are going to wag for a very looong time from both the concerned and unconcerned. How strong is your resolve? I would honestly not encouage anyone on this path. Who says there isn't an equally amazing person for you out there? How many billion people in the world again? All the best in whatever you decide. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Islie: 1:28pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Thanks to all those that stop by at the thread to give their uplifting comment and assurance words.... I did ask her about plans and she says the guy will be making this know to her parents before next week runs out and she is happy to stick with him But, she still have the memories of her sisters sometimes in her enclose state |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Joel3(m): 1:52pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Now i see how this poster try to bent this to is cosin. Anyway. first of all i am a God. What i said you should do. So if you were to ask me. My answer is dont do it. Two marraige from this guy to one family is not acceptable, next will be third. Your sister will come after you. Since she is a jealous type. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by YourCoffin: 2:15pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Nairalanders are getting better and better with their creativity everyday |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Nobody: 2:16pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Even though her husband was faithful to her and did everything to assure my sister of his love, she died from high blood pressure as a result of her constant worries that her husband might leave her for another woman. She became so paranoid that she fought any woman, including us, her sisters if we came close to her husband Based on the above, my vote is no. It's a tough one. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Islie: 8:08pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
YourCoffin: Pls I don't understand what you ment by your posting |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Nobody: 9:31pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Like an adage says that whoeva wants to eat d egg embedded in the rock will av to neglect the blade of the axe...You need to brace yurself up mentally cos you will need it...All the best dear |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by MMotimo: 5:30am On Feb 16, 2015 |
Her dead sister's husband? That does not sound right at all. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Richy4(m): 6:15am On Feb 16, 2015 |
Men cannot really answer this question for you. Because in our own perspective, you have done no wrong. It is the female folks that will tongue lash you when it is made public. Because you ladies think differently. So if majority of the ladies in the house says ride on and offer solution on what you will reply if it was made public, then carry go. |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by olashas(f): 9:21am On Feb 16, 2015 |
tpiar: |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by Amhappy(f): 10:03am On Feb 16, 2015 |
He loves your family and was made to remain in that family. I think your late sister will approve too (may her soul rest in peace). |
Re: Is She Right To Fall In Love With Him? by OCTAVO: 12:30pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
godstreasure23:Hmmmmmmmm. |
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