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"Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by firstkyn(m): 7:52am On Mar 09, 2015 |
"A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy," he said. That was the heading I woke up to on Monday morning. A blatant statement from one of the convicted Delhi bus rapists in the brutal attack of Jyoti Singh in 2012. Jyoti, after watching Life of Pi with a friend at night, was brutally raped by 6 men in a moving bus, tortured with an iron rod, eviscerated and thrown into the street, naked and bleeding. One of her attackers was interviewed by British filmmaker, Leslee Udwin, who spent two years making a documentary, called India’s Daughter, about Jyoti’s rape and murder and its ensuing effect on the Indian community. What came to light was “men's brutal attitudes” about women: “A decent girl won't roam around at 9 o'clock at night. A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy. Boy and girl are not equal” – Mukesh Singh (Delhi case rapist) Never so flagrantly has a rapist put the phenomenon into words. It’s shocking isn’t it? But is it far from the global truth? Not quite. Globally, women are indeed held far more responsible for rape than men. Women are questioned, shamed, scrutinised, disbelieved, and in some cases, even punished for being sexually assaulted. Even so-called "first world countries", who tout the word “progressive”, seem to have a knack for believing that girls are to blame. In fact, take a look just a few studies done in these developed countries to gauge what the population feels about accountability of rape: - One in 12 people believe sexual assault and rape victims are to blame if they are either drunk, under the influence of drugs or flirtatious with the offender - 40% subscribed to the view that women could be considered culpable to some degree if they “put themselves in risky situations” - 8% of people think victims are responsible when they are under the influence of drugs - 20% of people in a Rape Crisis study believed that women contribute to rape by wearing revealing clothing - 40% of men thought that if a woman wears provocative clothing, she’s putting herself at risk for rape - 54% of women surveyed said victims were partially responsible for their rapes It appears that the Delhi rapist simply summarised what the world quietly believes, and sometimes, not so quietly. Progressive countries, like South Africa, have had our own share of misogynists and ignorants who haven’t even attempted to stop victim blaming. Unlike the Delhi rapist, they’ve just found new ways of saying it: What were you wearing? = Where were you walking? = “A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy” What were you drinking? = That’s pretty straight forward, succinct summary of everything every country asks its rape survivors. It Takes Two Hands to Clap You can't clap with one hand – it takes two hands," Mukesh Singh continues in the interview. "… Housework and housekeeping is for girls, not roaming in discos and bars at night doing wrong things, wearing wrong clothes. About 20 per cent of girls are good." It’s a horrifying statement. But is it an original one? Not at all. Many before him have eluded to precisely the same sentiment: - “She has the sort of fashion sense on stage that surely invites rape.” – Daily Mail columnist about Rihanna. - “She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember?” – Serena Williams’ comment about the Steubenville rape victim who was unconscious, raped and urinated on by two high school football players. - “Child rape is okay when the victim seems ‘older than her chronological age.’ – A judge in the United States of America. - “To avoid getting raped, ‘…young ladies should not drink too much.’” - Lai Tung-kwok, Hong Kong’s secretary for security, talking about curbing the increase in rapes. - “If you don’t want to be sexually violated online, don’t take nude pics” –Half the internet (including Ricky Gervais ) when Jennifer Lawrence’s nude pictures were leaked. It looks like a lot of people believe that it does indeed take “two hands to clap”. Of course, when clapping is a metaphor for rape, the one hand would be the rapist and the other hand would be the act of owning a vagina. The Global Community Mukesh Singh is a monster and a rapist. He’s the worst kind I’ve read about. But he is also a man. He is not exceptional. His words are not, in and of themselves, exceptional. What is exceptional is India’s tolerance and denial of it. What’s truly astounding is seeing someone embody the very thing that the global community implicitly supports. We stand around saying that “real men don’t rape”. Well. Real men do rape. He is a real man. And these ‘real men’ were boys who were raised in a society that taught them, in varying degrees, that their needs and their lives and their human value is greater than that of a woman. And we all act shocked when these ‘real men’ go out and spike a drink, threaten women with rape and death on social media, sexually assault an unconscious girl, shoot and kill women because they felt insecure, violently attack women who rejected them, gang rape and disembowel a girl. We act shocked when we hear that in South Africa, 46,253 rapes were reported in the last year with only 669 life sentences - when only 1 in 9 victims actually report. We act surprised when we read that 38% of all women who were murdered were murdered by their intimate partners or ex partners, and 42% of women who have experienced physical or sexual violence do so at the hands of a partner. Mukesh Singh is not the exception. He is the rule; he is a by-product of the belief system that allows this kind of violent gender discrimination to happen. And yet, people will still take to the comment section to tell us all about reverse-sexism while the Men’s Rights Activists giddily splatter their literary excrement all over the internet. Refusing to understand that feminism is evidently necessary. That women who ask for rights really aren’t asking for much. That when they read the heading of the Delhi rape, they’re simply seeing the darker effects of gender inequality. They’re simply seeing the darker effects of the prejudice they already hold on to. Those dangerous sentiments are what the world believes and lives by, both legally and emotionally. And perhaps that’s why it shocked you as much as it did. In a world where everyone frosts their discrimination in politically correct terms and “ethics in media”, it’s incredibly jarring to see a rapist, a man raised on a steady diet of patriarchal societal beliefs, regurgitate those beliefs verbatim. He is a direct product of what that culture has taught him. So hang him. Jail him. We don’t care. Except we’re cutting the head off a headless snake. There are more of him. Hundreds of thousands of boys raised to believe that it’s ok to drug a woman, and rape a woman, and urinate on her, and rip out her intestines, and, and, and. It’s her fault, after all. If you’re a somewhat socially aware human being, you’ll have seen Mukesh’s sentiments mirrored in rape apologists, Men’s Rights Activists and garden variety misogynists on Twitter. In fact, the only difference between his comments and that of Gamergate Bros is that he said it without using an avatar. |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by temitemi1(m): 7:58am On Mar 09, 2015 |
Say NO to RAPE!!! |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by Nobody: 8:00am On Mar 09, 2015 |
Nobody, and I repeat, Nobody, deserves to be rap.ed |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by falconey(m): 8:03am On Mar 09, 2015 |
They know that's why they don't complain. |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by Nobody: 8:06am On Mar 09, 2015 |
ok.... we don hear |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by djeezy(m): 8:09am On Mar 09, 2015 |
You cannot justify rape no matter what. People should learn to control themselves. |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by bamog(m): 8:13am On Mar 09, 2015 |
nd u're expecting me to read all diz!!! No no!! I cnt do dat mehn!!! 1st to comment ni koekoe!!! |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by sinaj(f): 8:21am On Mar 09, 2015 |
Say no to Violence!!! |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by holatin(m): 12:49pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
......but I still wonder why I haven't been raped in my life. God pls let yemi alade or seyi shay,tools, labi , |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by CloneX: 12:55pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Arrant nonsense. . . Rapists should be castrated. |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by mytime24(f): 1:35pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
No matter how u try to embellish rape, it's evil.......shikina |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by aadanna24: 1:37pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Sometimes nt always |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by Nobody: 1:43pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
I've said it before and I will say it again, RAPE has become a religion in India |
Re: "Girls Are More Responsible For Rape Than Boys" by Nobody: 1:50pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
aadanna24: Never! I repeat never! If a woman likes ket her walk completely n.aked in the streets she still doesn't deserve to be ra.ped. |
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