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Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 9:55am On Mar 20, 2015 |
There is no set down rules for a perfect marriage... Infact, d term "perfect marriage" is more of an illusion. However,there are certain questions if & when put into consideration can give a workable marriage*no assurances though* So before U say I do,it will do alot of good to consider the following; 1) OUTSTANDING DEBT: who has some & what is the plan of paying it off? 2) CHILDREN: do U want them? If so,how many? If not,are U sure enough about the decision to take permanent steps to ensure U dn't have them? Are U open to adoption/fertility treatment if U are unable to conceive naturally? 3)LOCATION AFTER WEDDING:how will U rank your location in terms of importance for your well being? If U love where U live,what will persuade U to move---Job offer,desire to be closer to family,better schools for ur kids? 4) RELIGION: if U practice a religion or have a particular faith,how important is it to U that your partner practice it or share the same faith? How does ur religion or faith affect your lifestyle? If U plan to have kids,what religion if any do U want to raise them in? 5) DREAM HOME: U may never live in your dream home but knowing whether U or your significant other share common goals will help solidify your roles as partners in each other's lives & confirm that U are working towards the same thing. 6) BANK ACCOUNTS & BILL SHARING: will U share a bank account? Keep individual accounts? Both? And what bills will be paid by what account? 7) SEX: errrmmm! Well,your different sexual preferences... 8} FAMILY OBLIGATIONS: how much time do U spend with your family now? How much do U expect to share with them once married & potentially have children? How do U plan to spend holidays? 9) VACATIONS: are U the type of person who loves to vacation? Well then,U & ur partner need to discuss what types of vacation you do or do not enjoy... 10) CAREER: how committed is each of U to your career? Whr are U in terms of living a dream career? Do U have more schoolin or apprenticing to finish? If so,how much more time will it take? What kinda personal sacrifices will U have to make to climb the career ladder of your choice Feel free to add yours... Complied by:Me |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Tallesty1(m): 10:01am On Mar 20, 2015 |
Edith your post and say something on sex. Thanks. |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:03am On Mar 20, 2015 |
Tallesty1: |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by CountDracula(m): 10:06am On Mar 20, 2015 |
U need to talk abt UEFA matches o. If it falls on her bday, she shud understand if u won't make it 2 Likes |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:11am On Mar 20, 2015 |
Nice! |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:16am On Mar 20, 2015 |
CountDracula: You may lose interest too on this as time goes on or better still, you can carry her along. |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by CountDracula(m): 10:19am On Mar 20, 2015 |
myhoodlink:Last thing! Carry her to where? |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:23am On Mar 20, 2015 |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:23am On Mar 20, 2015 |
CountDracula: no 11) Ur moniker sha... Wer is CountessDracula?lol |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:25am On Mar 20, 2015 |
striktlymi: thank you |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by CountDracula(m): 10:26am On Mar 20, 2015 |
AmberQueen:I drained her! If u knw wat I mean |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by CountDracula(m): 10:28am On Mar 20, 2015 |
myhoodlink:She wil jus b askin jamb question there, eg if arsene wenger is manager of arsenal does it mean chelse wenger is d manager of chelsea? 1 Like |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:32am On Mar 20, 2015 |
CountDracula: |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 10:34am On Mar 20, 2015 |
CountDracula:With time, she will catch up with it. Just carry her along |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by lilmax(m): 10:34am On Mar 20, 2015 |
Okay |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by lilmax(m): 10:36am On Mar 20, 2015 |
CountDracula: |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by CountDracula(m): 10:38am On Mar 20, 2015 |
myhoodlink:Men ar nt dat patient 1 Like |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Noloss(f): 10:52am On Mar 20, 2015 |
What about GENOTYPE COMPATIBILITY N FINANCE. These r one one d issues that is tearing family appart today. |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 11:18am On Mar 20, 2015 |
Noloss: finance is there tho not specified but btwn bill payment & career,dat can be sorted out. That goes for compartibility too. Eg,if u want a child & she does not or vice versa,u ppl r not compatible then. However,a point u raised worth noting is d genotype issue so it is included. |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Noloss(f): 11:21am On Mar 20, 2015 |
Gud job AmberQueen: |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by daveP(m): 12:10pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Amber oh Amber! Genotype. if he's to become "pastor", witchdoctor, woli or alfa overnight. if she is to become petroleum minister overnight yeah all in career actually. And to my question to you... (clears throat and smiles).... |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 12:21pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
daveP: And ur question is |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by daveP(m): 12:27pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
AmberQueen:are you (gestures remaining words with hands) (looks@ wristwatch) when the time come, i'll. |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by hassan85(m): 6:28pm On Apr 17, 2015 |
Amber! Just reading ur write up today. But come to think of it. Is it posible to get al ds solved b4 wedding? I feel its just too much. Emmmm... I was enjyin ur write up sha. But y is no7 very brief? Please 4 my sake try add more spice pls. Nice write up |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by Yasher: 10:56pm On Apr 17, 2015 |
Thumbs up @OP If only couples talk about these things during courtship, we would have better homes with stronger family values and lesser divorce. 12. I should be able to ask myself what is good about me 13. I should be able to know what void I'll be filling in my partner's life. Also, what I'll be bringing into the Union. |
Re: Ten(10) Things Every Couple Must Discuss Before Getting Married by DollyParton1(f): 2:05am On Apr 18, 2015 |
Noloss: I strongly believe that those should come before dating at all, so also some of those listed above like children, religion, career, bill sharing and most importantly sex. I believe that one should not get serious with someone if they have doubts about settling down with them. In short, dont smell what u wont eat. But the OP though, created a thread and metamorphosed into nobody . 1 Like |
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