LOL!

I see you've opened your good 'ol dictionary for your favourite words again.

Hehehehehehehehehehe

there's no question to be answered. it was a made up story.

I dont give advise when I dont know what is involved. I am not one of those who go round trying to give advise to all and sundry. . .most cant even get their own relationships right with alll their repository of knowledge for advise.

There's no question there. if this really happens, it's her marriage and she needs to either decide what's more important to her, not for anyone to help people decide what should be important in their lives.

ohhh. . . the congragation

hmmmm

i would cast my abortion vote for this idiot. sadly there are some guys like this and women too

Then why did you say anything at all? Asking her to use her church mind is akin to giving advice isn't it?

Rotflmao @ Made up Story.

He sees all, He knows all.

How deluded can one human being be??!!

seems you and your husband have communication problems. Was he not on the same bed with you when you lost the first 1-2 pounds?

@ david,

Its a made up story. Go and find me any man who confronts and tells his wife that he has another woman because of size. In this day and age?

You really believe this?

JustGood:

@ david,

Its a made up story. Go and find me any man who confronts and tells his wife that he has another woman because of size. In this day and age?

You really believe this?

why is this really that hard for you to believe?

I have heard of many men that would let their wives know they are having affairs to prove to them that they are lacking in certain areas.

Many african man love their woman thick and heavy.

This story can be true!!

JustGood:

@ david,

Its a made up story. Go and find me any man who confronts and tells his wife that he has another woman because of size. In this day and age?

You really believe this?

it may just be true. Some men are like that sorry to say. If the woman is the type who shivers at the sight of her husband . . . it may even be worse.

davidylan:

it may just be true. Some men are like that sorry to say. If the woman is the type who shivers at the sight of her husband . . . it may even be worse.

You ever come across a man like that?

SeanT21:

Many african man love their woman thick and heavy.

TRUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUEEEEEEEEEE DAT!!!!!

Hi. I'd just like to say why would I make up something as stupid as that if it weren't true. Sadly enough it is true. He dosen't think I know but I have found lots of porn dvds hidden all over the house and the women in these are chubby (not that I've looked at them, all I had to do was look at the cover if the dvds') He has also registered with an adult dating site. I saw it on our computers history. On his profile on this website he states that he's looking for women and transexuals and that he's into fetish, group sex etc, etc. I would love my husband to change and be the person he was when I married him but I can't change him. It's up to him to change. I am not going for a divorce either, thats out of the question! I'll just keep out of his way for as long as it takes.

sara j:

Hi. I'd just like to say why would I make up something as stupid as that if it weren't true. Sadly enough it is true. He dosen't think I know but I have found lots of porn dvds hidden all over the house and the women in these are chubby (not that I've looked at them, all I had to do was look at the cover if the dvds') He has also registered with an adult dating site. I saw it on our computers history. On his profile on this website he states that he's looking for women and transexuals and that he's into fetish, group sex etc, etc. I would love my husband to change and be the person he was when I married him but I can't change him. It's up to him to change. I am not going for a divorce either, thats out of the question! I'll just keep out of his way for as long as it takes.

Don't mind the cynic that was doubting your story.

However, its seems your marriage has other problems besides your size.

@poster

oh he"s cheating already? ok,its so simple

do me and urself a favour,look for the next or available infact the closest ashawo joint,go there and pick up 3 fat girls,tell them u will pay them for 2 days,dat u want to give them to a client,take them to ur house and dress them up well well,pack them inside one room,when your hubby comes back,bring the three of them out and tell him to have them for as many rounds as he wants,since he wants fat girls,dont forget to tell him to sign a contract with u,cos u will be d person arranging fat women for him at home,he need not go out for them again


why cant some of u women learn how to deal with fools when they come in form of husbands?

amebo no.1:

@poster

why cant some of u women learn how to deal with fools when they come in form of husbands?

A bigger fool she is, getting espoused to one.

Hi. I'd just like to say why would I make up something as stupid as that if it weren't true. Sadly enough it is true. He dosen't think I know but I have found lots of porn dvds hidden all over the house and the women in these are chubby (not that I've looked at them, all I had to do was look at the cover if the dvds') He has also registered with an adult dating site. I saw it on our computers history. On his profile on this website he states that he's looking for women and transexuals and that he's into fetish, group sex etc, etc. I would love my husband to change and be the person he was when I married him but I can't change him. It's up to him to change. I am not going for a divorce either, thats out of the question! I'll just keep out of his way for as long as it takes.

This is Nigerians are proud of. They cry against divorce yet women to stick with this kind of BS.

Saraj, you obviously have no respct for yourself. Your husband is on dating services looking for other women and trannies and that's what you call a marriage

Mark my words, very soon you will visit the Health forum.

sara j:

Hi. I'd just like to say why would I make up something as stupid as that if it weren't true. Sadly enough it is true. He dosen't think I know but I have found lots of porn dvds hidden all over the house and the women in these are chubby (not that I've looked at them, all I had to do was look at the cover if the dvds') He has also registered with an adult dating site. I saw it on our computers history. On his profile on this website he states that he's looking for women and transexuals and that he's into fetish, group sex etc, etc. I would love my husband to change and be the person he was when I married him but I can't change him. It's up to him to change. I am not going for a divorce either, thats out of the question! I'll just keep out of his way for as long as it takes.

Read the first story and read this one. tell me the congruence please.

tRoOE:

@topic
Weird
I don't know any Naija men that are into fat ladies
They like their women thick but not fat abi na orobo

My mum's older brother has 3 wives and the fourth is on the way
They've been big > bigger > biggest
We're all waiting to see the fourth wife 

sara j:

I have been married to my husband 4 yrs. In the last year I have lost a bit of weight. I used to be size 16. I'm now a size 10. I am very happy with my new figure however he is not. He said he won't sleep with me because he hates my new figure and now he has found a big woman outside to sleep with. She is bigger than I was before I lost the weight, I'v seen her. He says he won't leave her unless I add weight or else I can forget about the marriage. What am I going to do? I am very happy with my current size and at the same time I don't want the marriage to end.

sara j:

Hi. I'd just like to say why would I make up something as stupid as that if it weren't true. Sadly enough it is true. He dosen't think I know but I have found lots of porn dvds hidden all over the house and the women in these are chubby (not that I've looked at them, all I had to do was look at the cover if the dvds') He has also registered with an adult dating site. I saw it on our computers history. On his profile on this website he states that he's looking for women and transexuals and that he's into fetish, group sex etc, etc. I would love my husband to change and be the person he was when I married him but I can't change him. It's up to him to change. I am not going for a divorce either, thats out of the question! I'll just keep out of his way for as long as it takes.

Though I am one of the doubters as to the validity of the combined tales told, I must say that if your stories are true but you are nevertheless determined to hang on to a pathetic excuse of a husband who (1) Has traded you in for a fatter model; (2) Trawls the internet in search of sexual partners; and (3) Has overtly indicated that he wants to shag other males (whether or not dressed as women), you need much more help with your self esteem than dropping a few dress sizes has done for you.
Do you for a minute think that even if you were to blow up to a size 20 that your husband would lose interest in the trannies and other women? You better go looking for a good man who would treat you with the love and respect that a woman should receive.

I dont understand how your is so bold enough to tell you,he has a woman outside tht is sleeping with,Pls leave him and keep your shape.

Women all over planet Earth are staring at the screen envying Nigerian women because they can be huge, cow-like structures  and still have a happy married life 

The topic seems like it was simply taken from the common stereotype that Nigerian and other African guys LOVE fat, obese females. Maybe before but nowadays they seem to care about having fit woman just as men of other races do.

Anyway if the story is true don't risk diabetes, heart disease, stroke, osteoperosis, high blood pressure among many other health issues for a man who will marry another woman a month after something bad happens to you as a result of his fatty demands.

Lol, funny topic, ok now to be serious, OP, did you know your husband liked orobos before you got married? Did he ever comment on the fact that he liked slim girls? Attraction is one of the important things in a relationship, and if its gone, well,
I do not support your hubby cheating, however. I feel its wrong.

tRoOE:

@topic
Weird

I don't know any Naija men that are into fat ladies
They like their women thick but not fat abi na orobo

Please honey, dont generalize, I don't date skinny women, I date orobos, and they all know that, dont do skinny girls

My condition is if her health is in jeopardy, then, of course naa, we gots to do something,

Poster, these peeps insulting your hubby are either

1. Not married

2. Either married or dont know what ure actually going through

Talk to your hubby, and try to reach a compromise of some sorts, I can understand him a bit, he wanted to marry orobo, and he did, and then overnight, she goes do a 360, lol,

Just talk, and is it possible for you to gain a bit of weight back, even if its not exactly as it was before? And like someone said, all those other men outside, paying you compliments aren't your hubby, so thats out of the question,
Don't worry, you will be fine!

Oh, sorry, how wud you feel if your husband did a vasectomy without telling you, now do you see my point? And he said, oh baby, somethings wrong with my koko, and its either my koko or the marriage? lol

i hope this girl doesnt expect us to buy this story

Your husband sounds like a control freak.
Trying to justify cheating, by saying he prefers you heavier?
So, he'd rather you were heavier, and miserable to stoke his sagging ego.
I'm not going to pussy-foot around this, I'm going to be blunt - ditch the looser.
Sorry to be so harsh, but is this the sort of monster you'd rather spend the rest of your life with?

DeltaVAG^TM

Siena:

Your husband sounds like a control freak.
Trying to justify cheating, by saying he prefers you heavier? 
So, he'd rather you were heavier, and miserable to stoke his sagging ego. 
I'm not going to pussy-foot around this, I'm going to be blunt - ditch the looser.
Sorry to be so harsh, but is this the sort of monster you'd rather spend the rest of your life with?

DeltaVAG^TM

Apparently, she'd rather stay with her husband and add weight than be called a "divorced woman".

[size=5pt]Whats this Delta Vag thing?[/size]

spikedcylinder:

Apparently, she's rather stay with her husband and add weight than be called a "divorced woman".

[size=5pt]Whats this Delta Vag thing?[/size]

Spikey, the link in my signature tells all.

DeltaVAG^TM