Mozilla:

Thank you Aisha. I was hoping someone will notice this. I didn't want to respond because I believed it was silly exchanging accusations and playing to the gallery on Nairaland.

Just to put some points straight. I didn't tell lies in my original post. I didn't have to. And I didn't have to respond to my wife's comments either. I came for advice and got plenty of that. Thank you Busy_body, Sistawoman, osis, JJYUOU, Davidlan, Aisha, Chikito, and everyone who had contributed on this thread. This is an anonymous forum and that is the beauty of the place.
I never cheated on my wife. My wife just doesn't believe a married man should or can have single female friends and she had embarrassed a couple of my female friends. My brother didn't move in with us after our wedding and he was not 'always' following us on shopping and marriage counselling. I didn't send my wife’s' money to my mum. My wife embellished the truth.

Thank you all for all your comments, advises and admonishments.

spikedcylinder:

In fact, I think two of you are daft. Don't go and sort out your marriage you hear? Stay here on nairaland and be making noise as if spikedcylinder or seun will help you sort out your deep rooted issues.

Awon alainironu!

david you are encouraging divorce? as a christian? me i won't encourage divorce. [b]you see why i turned down your proposal? [/b]Grin

It's like someone marrying Karmamod and expecting her to be home knitting and pounding yam. Grin

It's like someone marrying Karmamod and expecting her to be home knitting and pounding yam. Grin

I never cheated on my wife. My wife just doesn't believe a married man should or can have single female friends and she had embarrassed a couple of my female friends.

Mozilla:

I'm sure you didn't read this before you posted. The trademark of an slowpoke! You deserve no further response.

KarmaMod:

Garbage.

chikito1:

KarMod,

Who is the wife, if i may ask, Is she on the the thread?

chikito1:

KarMod,

Who is the wife, if i may ask, Is she on the the thread?

ximmy:

i feel for you ooo. jeez, you have made the wrong choice in marrying o, ndoh,
your so called wife is out to destroy u and ur family, be very vigilant and prayerful,
as for sending 110 quids to ur ma in a year and she is partially paralysed. ?

[size=14pt]henceforth, whatever u do , dont tell ur wife, [/size] wives come and go , but only one woman will stand by u thru thick and thin and that is ur mum. now is the time she should enjoy the fruits of her labour.


at least ur wife has shown her true colors. u said u live in the uk , i hope u did not buy the house u live in in her name, otherwise BIG BIG MISTAKE.

just hang in there and always remember there is a better tomorrow. and i hope ur mum gets better.

Don't worry Ximmy, your secret is safe from Omosegose

omosegose:

ehnnnnnnn,

@Mozilla

You are a perfect liar! I just came across this whilst using the system. Guessed you forgot to log and figured out it was u my husband!

@Nlanders,

Theres absolutely no truth in what mozilla just said. Whilst we were courting i met his Elder Brother who finished univeristy in 2000 and has NEVER worked. I helped him secure his first job in life in 2006 which he is still doing to this very moment. The brother had been living with him all the while.

Whilst courting the Elder brother was always in our company when we go shopping even when we were going for MARRIAGE COUNSELLING!!!!!!! Hubby has other brothers but this Elder one is so attached to him and he doesnt have limit,

Anytime i pointed it out to my husband he says you hate him, you hate my family and i stop compalining and kept mute.


I was surprised that even after getting married the elder brother was still living in the house and there was no sign of making moves to leave the house and husband didnt bother as he cannot tell his brother the truth that it was wrong. Imagine a newly wedded, with the Husband's Elder brother in the house (ladies would underrstand better), not that he didnt have money he was working but he didnt feel any need as we got along until i couldnt tolerate it anylonger that was when he moved and i apologised the day he moved out if i have wronged him in any way,

He moved closed to our house and always wanted a free lift to work, i have never complained (because if i did hubby will say you hate my bro) -I guess he wont go to work since his brother isnt around now though hes got my hubbys's car to himself now

My husband started extra-marital affairs 4 months after marriage, i called the girl and told her to keep off if she knows what its good for her politely. The girl called me back apologising that shes sorry that My hubby never mentioned he was Married besides he never wore a ring whilst they had an affair!

MOZILLA FOR YOUR INFORMATION, I DONT HATE YOUR MOTHER AND ANY MEMBER OF YOUR FAMILY,
There's a limit to everything!!!

We dont communicate as Couple should, I had a Baby here in the UK, I called his Mother and one of his brothers to tell them. His Elder Brother didnt call me up till this very moment to congratulate me and hubby didnt see anything wrong with it.

None of his family members has even picked up to call to say hi to me up to this very moment instead they keep flashing him and he calls back immediately they need money, mama is lonely, mama is sick, they want him to buy car (they will send the money which they havent sent oo), i want to receive some money in your details, whats your bank details etc.

Life in uk is very very easy you know. My family members keep calling me and my hubby to say hi and know how we are doing, 900 pounds was even sent to assist us till we settled and we returned it.

His Elder brother got married after we left and had a baby and told hubby. Hubby called him and his wife. I didnt not! The Brother goes around tell his mummy bad stories about me. shortly before i left nigeria my mother in law called me that my brother in law has been saying bad stories about me that she knows her son and they often dont get along that i should try to tolerate him. which i m doing,. I sincerely do not have anything against his elder brother afterall i called him few days ago when i told my mum the issue on ground and she counselled myself and hubby. i took up the phone and called his elder brother to say hi.

Brother in law complains about me to hubby referring to past happenings whilst he was staying with us, which i apolosed, hubby sends an email telling him to ignore me and he insulted me too (imagine i thot marriage was about a man clinging to his wife) mine own clings to his brother believing everything he says.

Since the begining of our marriage it has always been about His Elder bro and for weeks he wouldnt talk to him, eat my food, he comes home late, i was pregnant he keeps sending text messages like i regret marrying u, u hate my family, my bro etc) I will just be home alone crying my eyes out. We dont communicate,


All his brothers are working, but everything concerning mama he does everything all alone. His brothers dont contribute a penny (as they all claim they dont have money) hubby isnt the first born ooo, even up to the bed we were sleeping on, mama said she needed a new bed, the elder bro calls to tell him (hubby didnt have money at that time i was heavily pregnant, do you know i gladly gave the bed out to mama and i was sleeping on the floor with pregnancy) if i hated his mum will i? What stops any of his brothers even hes elder one from doing the same.

We have no savings whatever. I am a mother myself and I dont hate his mum for whatever reasons. My point is If any issues arises regarding mumsie call your other brothers make them involved dont keeping doing everything all alone and let your elder brother know theres a limit to everything,


He sends money to his mummy without telling me what really got my annoyed was the fact that i begged him to send even 30 pounds to my folks (its not about the amount but the love behind it) he shouted saying he doesnt have money, remember i sent money to my mum in law before ooo, i got to know when i checked his account. He changed his pin and email password. If you have nothing to hide why did you change you password and pin?

He even went to the extent of installing a spyware software on the system to get my passwords, emails and chats, I discovered that and removed it and asked me why hes doing that?

I am not being bossy or a nagging wife but you have just made up your mind about me, and you are looking for a perfect wife.

It's a shame that you wrote this story on the internet. Every marriage has up and downs and If you want to run away from me and our son, its up to you.

I work so why did you say i dont and pls learn to speak the truth at all times, your story is filled with lots of lies!

Safe trip back home and all the best

Just remember I Love you and always do


@NL,

Please what wrong have i done? Thanks

biina:

Nice story. Rating 6/10

ximmy:

a coin has 2 sides, i strongly suggest both of u iron this out privately.stop washing ur dirty linens in public, husband this , wife that, i pray u resolve ur differences, understand each other and learn to tolerate. thats life, marriage aint a bed of roses u know,


i do not get d full gist but from wat i have read, some body is not telling the truth,


your problems are not beyond repair, thankfully,

all d best love brds,
on d other hand im beginning to suspect both of u

I got married less than two years ago after dating for about one and a half year. Our courtship was fun with lots of good memories. Although we had some disagreements during the courtship, it was on the whole a very positive and enjoyable experience.