Well my brother according to my tradition, the bride price of the lady will not be mentioned/noted in the list giving to you. You only pay her bride price when you have come to fulfil her traditional right. And note there is no specific amount for that. It depends on your relationship with the family. I rest my case

angelo1111:
Dear house, I have been dating my girl for a while and we plan to get married. We did our introduction last month, and her family gave me a list. On the list[i][/i], they wrote (Bride Price - Nil) and that got me wondering if its possible to get married without paying bride price. Please I need reasonable contributions only. Thanx

ouch...nairalanders and some mentality,they must alwaz condemn, op I have seen this kind of thing before, after the guy married the girl,he was so good to his in laws,he alwaz include dem in his agenda, don't be afraid, some educated family re like that,but u fit still find something give from your own church mind oo#winks# if I hear say dey refuse that one...

in my family,you will pay the bride price,but it will be returned back to u after d ceremony with a msg,that 'we didn't sell our daughter.'

The issue of nig marriage is nt d bride price but d list given to u.am of d yoruba decent,bride price is usually 5k to 10k wc wil b return bak to u.d amount is immaterial compare to d list worth thousands of naira.


I await to hear d wedding wit no list given,then I wil knw tins r changin

angelo1111:
Dear house, I have been dating my girl for a while and we plan to get married. We did our introduction last month, and her family gave me a list. On the list[i][/i], they wrote (Bride Price - Nil) and that got me wondering if its possible to get married without paying bride price. Please I need reasonable contributions only. Thanx

I guess is computer error, mayb d family b wor ryte different price of iterm's 2 buy. Aniway they meant b gud family 2 yu.

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No! No! No! It does not mean you will not pay the bride price.

Pride price is a negotiable settlement so the column was left that way until the elders meet to discuss it.

Of course you don't expect to marry without paying the bride price.

It is symbolic, no matter how small, and is a sign of commitment.

In some cultures, women do not know their bride prices so putting it in the "To Do List" exposes it.

Or what do you think, readers?

AfricanApple:
that's d kind of family we need now in Nigeria. bride price is a waste of resources

I hope they won't ask during yours




Because...............

World people sha, dem put bride price, una curse them out, dem remove bride price una still see comma. Na wetin una come want kwanu?
Ehm OP, it means dem nor dey sell dia pikin. It means dem nor dey give you house girl or punching bag or slave, so take ya wife jejely and go and make her happy. I hope she make you happy too.
Happy married life in advance.

Common in yoruba land it's either they don't include it or they include and return it

angelo1111:
Dear house, I have been dating my girl for a while and we plan to get married. We did our introduction last month, and her family gave me a list. On the list[i][/i], they wrote (Bride Price - Nil) and that got me wondering if its possible to get married without paying bride price. Please I need reasonable contributions only. Thanx

Maybe they saw you're a broke a*ass guy and decided to help you. NO I'm just kidding!

They probably just wanna help because they like you. They don't want you to be burdened while marrying their daughter.

When I did mine, my in-laws told me I shouldn't do everything on the list, that they would take care of the rest. But I refused and did far more than what was in the list.

You should see it as an appreciation for marrying their daughter.

angelo1111:
Dear house, I have been dating my girl for a while and we plan to get married. We did our introduction last month, and her family gave me a list. On the list[i][/i], they wrote (Bride Price - Nil) and that got me wondering if its possible to get married without paying bride price. Please I need reasonable contributions only. Thanx

my elder Sister got married about three weeks ago, and in our tradition the bride-price is neva written on the marriage list, but discussed privately with immediate family head (Her father if alive or first-son) of the girl, and that is done after u do evrything on d list. But mind u will told to pay btw 150k to 50k, but u will tell then what u can pay, whatever u decide to pay as bride-price would use to buy her things she would use to follow u back home. So if ur wife to-be is an Ngwa chick these are what u shud expect..

So the is question, what is your wife worth..

Equals divorce with bride-price!
Equation BALANCE!!!!!
Back to SKWIA 1!

For this country?? No bride price? Bros abeg where is she from? mek i begin scout for wife from dah region. Happy married life in advance

Yoruba people are wise. They don't sell their daughters. They are telling you she is not your property. So if you do anyhow, you will see anyhow. So be warned! Treat that girl like an egg otherwise you may lose her as she has a family somewhere who did not sell her to you. You think the culture is not aware how crazy young men can be today. The culture has evolved. Good luck to you and your wife.

It was not started does not mean u will not pay bride price but usually not a big deal for some families. When my sisters did theirs, one BP was 15naira and another 6naira, and 35naira. It depends on the parents of the girl. So relax it not always a big deal! The big deal is with the list itself.

This a/c was open last night , i smell something.

No bride price, but u were given list? The list has covered the bride price cause bride price re generally cheap. In some areas in delta u(d guy) must not finish paying d bride price as this should be done when d woman dies( if u complete it at death u ll bury her @ ur place not not u ll return d dead body to her family). So do not ve deceived! Bride price can never be free! Is either u pay now or later, or directly or indirectly. Infact u should be suspecting the family. lol

Common in parts of Anambra too. My extended family has never collected above N500 for bride price. And most times its used to buy drinks and share right there and then. In addition to the drinks for receiving the grooms family

Make sure you pay the dowry/bride price because that is what makes your union legal under Nigerian customary law. Do not do without the bride price.

Also the bride price consideration should be monetary so it can be returned to the family if you no longer want to continue in the marriage. This is the only way to end a marriage under native law and custom.

missmalachi:
The issue of nig marriage is nt d bride price but d list given to u.am of d yoruba decent,bride price is usually 5k to 10k wc wil b return bak to u.d amount is immaterial compare to d list worth thousands of naira.


I await to hear d wedding wit no list given,then I wil knw tins r changin

Several females from my extended family have got married without list.. In fact na d father of the bride write list come buy most of the stuff lol

claycares:
Make sure you pay the dowry/bride price because that is what makes your union legal under Nigerian customary law. Do not do without the bride price.

Also the bride price consideration should be monetary so it can be returned to the family if you no longer want to continue in the marriage. This is the only way to end a marriage under native law and custom.

Seriously?

That makes no sense. If you didn't give bride price in the first place how can the so called customary law join you together if you must collect it back to end d marriage..

All this talk about how igbos no dey play with bride price tho.. Wonder where y'all get your news.. It's not even common in my area and I'm from deep inside anambra lol. Na just formalities

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Kingbilo:


Seriously?

That makes no sense. If you didn't give bride price in the first place how can the so called customary law join you together if you must collect it back to end d marriage..

My dear the law need not make sense. I just stated the law, its up to the op and other readers to seek legal advise if they are in doubt.

The law is clear in this area, payment of bride price is prerequisite for a valid marriage under native law and custom in Nigeria.

Let me depart a bit and like I always advise clients, there are lots of marriages in Nigeria that will fail this test and I believe they may be invalid. The implication of this is better imagined than to be experience. The validity of a marriage extends to inheritance of properties after the death of a partner. If a marriage is decleared invalid, the surviving partner gets nothing.

So there's the need to follow the custom stricto sensu. All customs in Nigeria require the payment of bride price and it must be paid for there to be a valid marriage under native law and custom. This custom has not changed overtime and just in case it has, there is no judicial notice of this as being of acceptable usage.

missmalachi:
The issue of nig marriage is nt d bride price but d list given to u.am of d yoruba decent,bride price is usually 5k to 10k wc wil b return bak to u.d amount is immaterial compare to d list worth thousands of naira.


I await to hear d wedding wit no list given,then I wil knw tins r changin

Please take precaution before posting on forums as there are people who will rely heavily on your post.

Payment of bride price is sine qua non for a valid marriage under native law and custom.

This is new and ugly trend now in Nigeria most especially in Christian west. It mean their daughter is not for sale by rejecting a token of #5000 or there about from d list of over #200000. If truly she is not for sale, you shouldn't collect anything. Afterall d bride price is for d bride not for family. They will reject what belong to my wife after taking theirs.

angelo1111:
Dear house, I have been dating my girl for a while and we plan to get married. We did our introduction last month, an
d her family gave me a list. On the list[i][/i], they wrote (Bride Price - Nil) and that got me wondering if its possible to get married without paying bride price. Please I need reasonable contributions only. Thanx

I hope no epilepsy.

The yorubas do not collect bride price, others put it like a blank cheque and on engagement day, they say it publicly that their daughter is not for sale and no amount of money can buy her but they expect her to be treated with love care and compassion.

It's just their tradition. ..

just telling u their daughter is not for sale.....they are not after materials things....

claycares:
My dear the law need not make sense. I just stated the law, its up to the op and other readers to seek legal advise if they are in doubt.

The law is clear in this area, payment of bride price is prerequisite for a valid marriage under native law and custom in Nigeria.

Let me depart a bit and like I always advise clients, there are lots of marriages in Nigeria that will fail this test and I believe they may be invalid. The implication of this is better imagined than to be experience. The validity of a marriage extends to inheritance of properties after the death of a partner. If a marriage is decleared invalid, the surviving partner gets nothing.

So there's the need to follow the custom stricto sensu. All customs in Nigeria require the payment of bride price and it must be paid for there to be a valid marriage under native law and custom. This custom has not changed overtime and just in case it has, there is no judicial notice of this as being of acceptable usage.

incredible.. In this day and age sha....

I married my wife for #25 and after the wedding proper the money was refunded back to me.

Seems like you are sitting on the last seat in a "One chance bus".



Some parents will write heaven and earth in the list but will not add bride price so that you will not get a penny back from them if your wife decides to leave you in the future.