emmboy:
Thanks Budhapalm. But what do you expect after waiting for like one week that I must have called her and she doesn't reply the call and she comes online and doesn't even bother saying HI to you. Check that out.

Nneka123:
Since you're meeting up with her

later in the day, you need to let her know how you feel, the way she is treating you and all that, but don't try to make her overcome your shadow, unless she will put the blame on you, and say you're the one that wants to end the relationship. Trust me! Girls are dramatic, I'm not an exception either. You can tell when someone loves you, it's not by saying it. Is she showing it lately? Not really.

All you have to do when you meet up with her, is figure out if she still loves you. If she's not ready to open to you, Then you have to move on with your life.

emmboy:
thanks so much but she tells me she still loves me so much. I feel like a fool when she says that to be but she doesn't treat me as such. I believe when you love someone the least you can do is to show that person out of the little time you've got that you love him/ him or her.

emmboy:
thanks so much but she tells me she still loves me so much. I feel like a fool when she says that to be but she doesn't treat me as such. I believe when you love someone the least you can do is to show that person out of the little time you've got that you love him/ him or her.

emmboy:
Thanks Budhapalm. But what do you expect after waiting for like one week that I must have called her and she doesn't reply the call and she comes online and doesn't even bother saying HI to you. Check that out.

6ty6ix:
OP shi does not lyk u any more, the feeling she thought she had is so jst move on

emmboy:
I met this girl about 5 months ago through a mutual friend of ours. She was kinda shy at first but I did all I could to make her feel among cos we were in a small palour party. We didn't take too long before we struck a conversation and we exchanged numbers afterwards.

About two weeks later, I travelled to Lagos and then we starting calling each other and of course chatting on whatsapp. We talked about so many things and we made sure a day never passed by without talking for up to five or more times.

Unconsciously, I started having a soft spot for her and I later made up my mind to tell her even though I was so scared of screwing up our friendship... I felt like the world stood still when she told me she actually kinda felt the same and that made us even closer and more conversational. We talked about so many things, about how we were gonna react when we first meet again, how we can't wait to be with each other, what we were gonna talk about and so on. I think things never stopped sparking.

Few months past then I travelled back to her cos there's where I also reside, and that's when she started becoming a shadow of herself, she never called me, she told me she was gonna come around but she never did but always gave flimsy excuses why she couldn't make it. At last she came visiting only last week which is also her first and last time.

She stopped returning my calls, she doesn't reply me on Facebook and whatsapp just because she claimed to be extra busy with some educational activities yet she comes online and she never stops telling me she loves me. I feel so less important of myself or should I say I feel like a fool because of the way she now treats me. It's pains me to my bone marrow cos I love her soooooo much.

Just yesterday I called her when she eventually picked after series of unpicked calls, I asked her what the problem was, I wanted to know if she ain't feeling me no more and if she doesn't love or want me no more but all she tells me is, she still loves me. But I don't feel loved at all, I know when I am loved based on past experiences. I actually told her these, then she got angry and told me it's over if all I would always ask is why is she doing all these and that to me. She thinks I complain too much. (I think I've got the right to ask when things aren't going normal anymore).

In a nutshell, we planned to see later today. I don't know what to tell her, I love her so much and I don't like feeling less important of myself. I really wanna ask her so many questions but I don't really know which and which to ask. I think I need some real mature advice from you guys at this juncture cos it would be highly appreciated. Thanks!!!

ronald4lif:
When you both meet today you have to raise these concerns and let her know that the relationship can't survive at the way it's going. It's lopsided and needs a balance. You also don't have to fret if she threaten to call it off for raising genuine worries or concern about the relationship. Such is an act of emotional blackmail and mustn't be tolerated, else she would always use it against you at any slightest opportunity.

And if by chance she attempt to blackmail you of quiting the relationship after making known this concerns don't go pleading. It has never proven to be effective. Behave like you don't care and if she truly loves you like she claims she'll reach you later. But if she doesn't you move on, having realized the love she claimed was a farce.

ronald4lif:
When you both meet today you have to raise these concerns and let her know that the relationship can't survive at the way it's going. It's lopsided and needs a balance. You also don't have to fret if she threaten to call it off for raising genuine worries or concern about the relationship. Such is an act of emotional blackmail and mustn't be tolerated, else she would always use it against you at any slightest opportunity.

And if by chance she attempt to blackmail you of quiting the relationship after making known this concerns don't go pleading. It has never proven to be effective. Behave like you don't care and if she truly loves you like she claims she'll reach you later. But if she doesn't you move on, having realized the love she claimed was a farce.

BuddhaPalm:
Every other girl will react to you this same way, given the circumstances.

Right now, you are CHASING her TOO MUCH.

And its not even about the girl, it's her instincts.

Our instincts compel us to want someone, or not want them.

And unfortunately, women evolved to feel less and less compulsion towards men who trip for them basa basa.

When you trip for a girl 100%, what are you communicating to her brain?

"I don't have any other options"

And what kind of men don't have options? Well, 'losers'.

That chasing/affectionate way you want her to act towards you, if you don't give her space to do it, she won't.

The more you chase, the less and less attracted to you she becomes.

Heineken:
may God bless you my Man.

emmboy:
Thanks Budhapalm. But what do you expect after waiting for like one week that I must have called her and she doesn't reply the call and she comes online and doesn't even bother saying HI to you. Check that out.