“Would you be OK with your man having
close female friends?”
A Facebook friend asked this question the
other day, and a lot of women said no, they
wouldn’t be comfortable with this.
I know many men feel the same about their
girlfriends or wives having close male
friends. It’s a fairly typical attitude found in
heterosexual couples.
I understand the feelings behind this. No
one wants to have the worry that their
significant other is going to cheat on them.
If your boyfriend likes girls, and you’re the
only girl he spends any significant time with,
then that pretty much means he’s safely
yours, right?
Well, no, not really.
I think that not only should we be OK with
our partners having close friends who are
the same gender as us, it’s something we
should want. In other words, I prefer to
date men who have close female friends.
See, when a man has close female friends as
well as close male friends, it means a few
things.
First, how sad must your relationship be if
your trust in your significant other is so
flimsy that you believe the only way to keep
them from not cheating on you is to keep
them away from anyone they might
potentially find sexually attractive?
Think about it. If the only thing that’s
stopping your boyfriend from cheating on
you is he hasn’t been given the opportunity,
then you’re in a pretty awful relationship
that’s guaranteed to end badly.
The fact is, if your boyfriend is going to
cheat on you, it’s going to happen sooner or
later. I’d rather date a guy who’s
trustworthy.
Of course, you might just think no guys at all
can be trusted to be left alone with women
without having sex with them, or that no
single women can be trusted to be left alone
with taken men without having sex with
them. If that’s really how you see the world
then I just kinda feel a little sorry for you.
Second, it means, or should mean if he’s not
a hypocrite, that he will be comfortable with
you having close male friends, and my
friends are far too important for me to
abandon or avoid some of them just
because they’re male.
I know some people would say “my
husband’s my best friend, so I don’t need
anyone else!” Frankly I find that a little
creepy.
I don’t know how these people function, but
even though my fiancé is of course my best
friend I still need my non-romantic, close
friendships with people who are not family
in my life.
Finally, it means he has women in his life
who he values for their friendship alone,
rather than for the amount of sex he can get
out of them.
He views women as humans and equals -
people he can talk to, trust, and rely on -
rather than mere sex objects. This can only
be a good thing. It means he will be able to
see you as an equal that he can talk to, trust,
and rely on.
If your boyfriend only values women he can
have sex with, then how can you expect him
to value you for anything other than sex?
And if your boyfriend is unused to having
interactions with women that are not strictly
romantic or sexual, how can you expect him
to be able to understand and relate to you?
The fact is, one of the best ways to learn
how to relate to others who are different to
us is through friendships. When a person
limits their friendships only to people who
represent their gender, (or race, or sexual
orientation, or anything else for that matter)
they risk seeing anyone who doesn’t fit into
that group as alien and “other”.
It’s easy to empathise with a friend, but it’s
really hard to empathise with someone who
is “other”.
That’s how you get these “men are from
Mars and women are from Venus”
situations, where women tell each other
that all men are dogs, while men tell each
other that “bitches be crazy”.
So I’m going to go ahead and say it: Not only
should you be OK with dating a guy whose
best friend is a woman, you should actively
look at strong friendships with other
women as a major bonus in a guy.


Source: www.news24.com/Nigeria/Lifestyle/Would-you-date-a-guy-whose-best-friend-is-a-woman-20150603-2

This is too lengthy, abeg summarise it.

Very true,I love this

I wil if m prettier nd younger dan the female frnd



Buh if she is prettier with BBW shape, I'd back off

If only I will replace the title "Best friend" . A man should make his truly loved one his best friend.

omehn see biology note

My best friend is a guy n we are not doing anything fishy, so it all depends on the kind of people involved

onstelly:
My best friend is a guy n we are not doing anything fishy, so it all depends on the kind of people involved

This may be true for now, but not for too long.

xcitedjay:


This may be true for now, but not for too long.

Well like I said earlier it all depends, we have been friends for 6yrs now and still counting

Well, as a woman, i do not agree.
Im too jealous to let my man have a female best friend, no way.
Though i do have best male friends... So that would be pretty unfair.

Im still too jealous